Always on silent

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[u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

And to think, we use to pay for custom ringtones… 

[u/SQLCloud → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

and being always available for everyone

[u/Doongbuggy → u/SQLCloud]

turning off social media notifications on my phone was the biggest unlock of my life

[u/Trbochckn → u/[deleted]]

absolutely ... switched to a shitty flip phone and haven't looked back.

I do reddit on my pc for 30 mins a day... i got 8 mins left.

[u/Ecstatic-Laugh → u/Trbochckn]

Ok so wanting to do this. However, I am spaz when in public, ie need my phone for directions/uber/looking up a restaurant/navigating life. How do you deal with that?

[u/Trbochckn → u/Ecstatic-Laugh]

I'm 45... I still use gps that came with my car tho.

If I'm hungry I drive down the street pick a restaurant

Any research needed is usually done before I leave the house.

And everybody else in the world has a smartphone so if I really want something looked up I just ask.

[u/rohm418 → u/Trbochckn]

You just...talk to strangers? GTFO 

[u/No-Consideration-891 → u/Doongbuggy]

I started hiding my social apps too, because I am lazy and it made it more "work", to go on it. Eventually, I deleted FB all together because it just made me depressed more than anything. Not even counting all the weird political crap.

[u/ghostyspice → u/[deleted]]

I was just talking about this with my mom [earliest Gen X if that matters], and we both basically agreed that we don’t want people to have unfettered access to us anymore. She retired a few years ago and just lost all remaining patience for other people’s bullshit, and I’ve been working in customer service for much of my adult life, so… yeah, there are like maybe 3 people who can contact me at all times. One of them birthed me, one married me, and the other is my best friend. Everyone else more or less gets me when they get me.

[u/No-Consideration-891 → u/ghostyspice]

Working in customer service probably skyrocketed you to your mom's level of "no fucks to give anymore". Absolutely brutal industry.

[u/ghostyspice → u/No-Consideration-891]

It really is. I found a niche in an industry I really enjoy now, so I’m much happier than I had been prior, but people are still people no matter where they are. For better or worse 😅

[u/N0Karma → u/ghostyspice]

As a last Gen X, I concur. My phone wont ring for anyone not directly related to me in some way. Spammers and constant political ads have made the cellphone nearly useless. Thankfully they added a feature that includes texts, so that hole has been patched too.

[u/Embarrassed-Green898 → u/[deleted]]

I am happy that people in my life "oh ya swing by anytime buddy" .

I am not happy that anyone 'call' me on my phone anytime.

Note the difference. They will show up to express care or a need. I am happy for both. It takes time and effort to come to my doorstep.

Phone calls are different. It only takes mutual time. They can bother me anytime the want if they are going to call. with very little cost to them.

[u/Mysterious_Fennel459 → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

and even ringback tones.

[u/ZombieTrogdor → u/Mysterious_Fennel459]

“Please enjoy the music while your party is reached.”

🎶CAN YOU TAKE, MEEEEE HIIIIIGHARRR!!🎶

[u/sneak_cheat_1337 → u/ZombieTrogdor]

I had Sublime's Caress Me Down set as my default ringback tone the 1 time my grandparents tried to call my cellphone. They were none-to-pleased to hear ”she pulled out my mushroom tip/ and when it came out it went drip drip drip/ I didn't know she had the G. I. Joe kung fu grip"

My dad got ripped a new one by his dad and I was no longer allowed to have ringback tones

[u/cptjpk → u/sneak_cheat_1337]

20 years later it was worth it. This is hilarious.

[u/RoyanRannedos → u/ZombieTrogdor]

🎶 meedle meedle meeeeee! 🎵

[u/jennafleur_ → u/RoyanRannedos]

SCREAMING 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[u/Trauma_Hawks → u/Mysterious_Fennel459]

My buddy still goes out of his way to do this. And it's always the most annoying shit. I love him.

[u/KhausTO → u/Trauma_Hawks]

I had no clue carriers even still supported it.

[u/Smorsdoeuvres → u/Trauma_Hawks]

I used to do this. I’m inspired to bring it back. Thank you and your buddy so much ❤️

[u/Parkour_Parkour → u/Mysterious_Fennel459]

I felt so cool setting some screamo as my ringback tone, mostly because it annoyed my parents.

[u/VenusSmurf → u/Parkour_Parkour]

This is what I do now.

My family complains that my phone is always on silent. In one ear and out the other, because this is obviously intentional. They can text me like normal people. I don't need sound.

Every once in a while, though, we'll get together, and they'll nag enough that I turn the sound back on. They usually last maybe an hour or two before they beg me to shut it down again, because my phone goes off constantly, and both notifications and ring are a screaming goat.

Also intentional.

[u/thomsenite256 → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

My flip tone playing a crunchy version of Cold Play Clocks was peak mid 2000s

[u/stilettopanda → u/thomsenite256]

The websites with the notes so you could make them.

[u/AB_7361 → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

That's a hill I would die on.

My phone remains silent as protest until we get back custom ringtones. I want to hear Akon - Mr. Lonely for at least 3 seconds before I answer phone calls ✊

[u/Encubed → u/AB_7361]

It is really easy to set your own custom ringtone though. On Android, at least

[u/Jonnic5280 → u/Encubed]

And iPhone. Mine is the level select music from Mega Man 2!

[u/Much_Cardiologist180 → u/Jonnic5280]

That’s a great choice. I haven’t needed to change from the Buffy theme in 15 years

[u/Lilynight86 → u/Much_Cardiologist180]

I have used the "Come Little Children" song for Hocus Pocus for years.

Sidenote: typing this out, I realize I may need to change said ringtone b/c I don't think it aged as well as I thought it did. I absolutely love the movie.

[u/acapwn → u/Jonnic5280]

Mine is the boss battle music from TMNT on NES!!

[u/TexAg09 → u/acapwn]

[u/Encubed → u/Jonnic5280]

Hell yeah, I have Frog's theme from Chrono Trigger... It is very loud and high pitched and gets attention for sure

[u/TheHappyMask93 → u/Encubed]

Mine is a dial tone version of outset island theme from wind waker

[u/sharpshooter999 → u/Encubed]

Mine is the codec from Metal Gear Solid. I work in a noisy environment and need something i can here. My notification sound is Sheika Slate tracker beep from Breath of the Wild

[u/mmmpeg → u/Encubed]

I have Zelda music. And Star Wars. And Lil’ Jon

[u/Encubed → u/mmmpeg]

The trifecta!

[u/GroguIsMyBrogu → u/Encubed]

Zelda + Star Wars = Tri-Force

add Lil Jon...

Can someone finish this joke for me? The pieces are here but I'm too lazy to assemble them

[u/AB_7361 → u/GroguIsMyBrogu]

OKAAYYY!!!

[u/mmmpeg → u/AB_7361]

WHAT?

[u/Accomplished-Sun1983 → u/Encubed]

Zedge

[u/MrJ429 → u/Encubed]

Seriously, just hold it up the radio.

[u/Metool42 → u/MrJ429]

Just fckn upload the mp3

[u/Ok_Shoulder_9492 → u/AB_7361]

Mine was the 8bit pixel of the Some Cut beat by scrappy. Man you got the memories flooding back lmao. I had a non folding Motorola cellphone and I was jamming lmao

[u/EmeraldEmesis → u/AB_7361]

Yes, but only if there's a ring back tone where I can force anyone who dare call me to listen to the song clip of my choosing. I want people to regret calling instead of texting!!

[u/trunksshinohara → u/AB_7361]

It takes like 2 seconds to set this up on modern phones.

[u/thr33tim3s2many → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

It was a novelty that faded nice n quickly

[u/Danthezooman → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

I had a ringtone and a Ringback tone/hold music. It was RHCP but the thing expired and defaulted to classical music. I was either too lazy or just didn't know how to turn it off and eventually Verizon just ended that service.

Also I have my phone on do not disturb out of habit. You only answer so many telemarketer calls before you figure out the important calls just go to voicemail!

[u/Yossarian-Bonaparte → u/ImJacksAwkwardBoner]

I remember when I first discovered those… and didn’t consider how they added up.

So a couple months into having a new phone, my dad lost his mind because he opened the phone bill and I had downloaded $200 in ring tones.

🤦🏻‍♀️

[u/Bio-Grad]

My phone ringing used to be exciting. It was friends and crushes. Now it’s bills, telemarketers, scams, and work emails I don’t actually need to be CCd on.

[u/PM_YOUR__BUBBLE_BUTT → u/Bio-Grad]

The two feelings of excitement back in the day that are still unmatched:

- messages from your friends new screen names on AIM

• the first texts from unknown numbers when people got their first cell phone

Runner ups would probably be when we no longer had to wait til after 9pm to make calls to people, and when we didn’t have to get off the computer so the phone worked. That feels like just yesterday but also an archaic time looking back. Jesus I’m feeling old today.

[u/carrythethree333 → u/PM_YOUR__BUBBLE_BUTT]

Holy hell, brother. You are me. This hit home so hard.

[u/stuckanon01]

One of the most irritating things about hanging with boomers is that they always have their phone ringer on and set to 11/10

[u/NutsAboutMutts → u/stuckanon01]

And the loud tap tap tappy noise when they text

[u/DVancomycin → u/NutsAboutMutts]

Boomers and zoomers. Turn that shit offffffff

[u/CycadelicSparkles → u/DVancomycin]

I drive a cab. The other day this girl in her 20s who was like a freaking social media character; she had that no-heat curl thing in her hair and a Stanley cup and everything. She was nice and all, but she played videos on her phone with the volume up the whole hour drive and while I wasn't really annoyed because it wasn't super loud I still would never do that.

But I thought, hey, maybe her ear buds are in her suitcase or whatever, nbd. 

She gets out and I realize she's had whole entire headphones in her hand the whole time.

Again, it wasn't the worst, she didn't have the volume on high. But it was weird.

(And just for context, I'm a woman and while people have described me as many things, "sketchy" and "threatening" have never been one of them, so I don't think it was a safety thing.)

[u/EmotionalRiver1033 → u/CycadelicSparkles]

I just got back from a trip to Italy and Croatia and I found these places to have a shitload of people who will just scroll their phones at full blast. Drives me insane.

Edit: I’m from Canada btw. Here if someone is scrolling loud I at least feel comfortable telling them to shut up, but I definitely come across it faaaar less at home.

[u/CycadelicSparkles → u/EmotionalRiver1033]

Yeah, generally in the US it's not considered polite, at least I don't think it is. People do it, but I don't ever see anyone defending it.

[u/A_Little_Sprig → u/CycadelicSparkles]

When I was in the ER I had to repeatedly ask a Gen X woman to stop blasting her phone. One of the other people in the room told ME I was being rude!

[u/CycadelicSparkles → u/A_Little_Sprig]

I'm sure ER staff has better things to be doing but I do feel like there should be a rule against that.

[u/A_Little_Sprig → u/CycadelicSparkles]

I did eventually get the staff involved. I desperately needed to sleep and was crammed in a room with like 8 other people.

[u/banterviking → u/EmotionalRiver1033]

Thank you for your service telling people to shut the fuck up in Canada.

We must hold the line. If we don't, being an obnoxious twat bleeds into acceptable behavior / culture territory.

Shame is a lovely thing.

[u/OpportunityOk3346 → u/DVancomycin]

Yep about the only thing Boomers and Zoomers have in common!

[u/artist9120 → u/OpportunityOk3346]

I can name more! At least 5 of them app based.

[u/WistfulQuiet → u/OpportunityOk3346]

Nah, they have a ton in common. Zoomers are just thr new boomers.

[u/SendMeAnother1 → u/NutsAboutMutts]

I would like to think it is because they don't know how to turn it off... but I was motivated to figure it out!

[u/kittenmittens4865 → u/NutsAboutMutts]

If they don’t use talk to text for EVERYTHING

[u/FireflyRave → u/NutsAboutMutts]

"Loud tap tap tappy noise" had me thinking of the computer speaker warning for incoming calls before I finished your sentence. And now I want to find that to make my ring tone.

[u/YouAreAPyrate → u/FireflyRave]

Baaaahhhhhhhh-bup-bup-bup-baaahhhhhh. It felt like you were psychic for 2 seconds lol

Always coming from the same old grey pair of speakers everyone had.

[u/Imaginary_Neat_5673 → u/NutsAboutMutts]

Uggghhhhh the loud tappy tap like how.L much auditory space do you need to claim

[u/Narrow_Vegetable5747 → u/Imaginary_Neat_5673]

Wish I could upvote this a thousand times. Some people just do not understand that sound can intrude on others nearly as much as stepping into their bubble.

[u/feralcatshit → u/Narrow_Vegetable5747]

It becomes the bubble 😩

[u/Significant_Line1241 → u/NutsAboutMutts]

Whatever video they watch or game they are playing FULL BLAST!

[u/NeedleInASwordstack → u/NutsAboutMutts]

The glare I give in waiting rooms at the sound of these infernal tippy taps is LARGE (currently preggo so I’m at the doc a lot in a shared waiting room)

Idk why I hate it so fucking much

[u/Gatorae → u/NeedleInASwordstack]

You hate it because people shouldn't make unnecessary noises. A random cough, sigh, chair squeak, etc? Fine, that is normal. Repetitive electronic sounds to let you know you successfully typed something?? Open your fucking eyes and look at your screen to see the letters you put there, that's the only feedback you need! I sure as hell don't need to hear it five seats away.

[u/DeadInternetTheorist → u/Gatorae]

Or at least set it to use the buzz function instead of making it everyone else's problem.

[u/South_Bit1764 → u/NutsAboutMutts]

My favorite is when they “fire off” a text or email and go to triumphantly send it like BAM!👇 (as if the person on the other end caught any of this attitude) and completely fail. Even better is when they like BAM! BAM! BAM! thier finger into the phone like violence will fix it.

[u/YouAreAPyrate → u/South_Bit1764]

It's all a pale comparison to the sheer visceral satisfaction of slamming a corded handset onto the receiver.

[u/spectacular_gold → u/NutsAboutMutts]

There's a time and a place for haptic feedback, and it ain't here

[u/SmallRocks → u/stuckanon01]

That and to accompany the godawful ringtone, they have some obnoxious vibrate pattern that scares the shit out of you when the whole table starts rumbling.

[u/Fckingross → u/SmallRocks]

My MIL also has a flashing sequence from her flashlight with every text and that makes me feel like I’m about to have a seizure.

[u/aBearWhosBearlyThere → u/Fckingross]

I was teaching a class recently and somebody's phone doing this scared the crap out of me lol

[u/gobnyd → u/SmallRocks]

And then on top of that they panic when it rings and say HELLO? HELLO??? all angrily because they haven't gotten past the weirdness of being called when they're outside of the home and "I can never hit these buttons I hit something and something else pops up I don't know about this damn phone"

[u/ThatOtherOtherMan → u/gobnyd]

That drives me crazy. I worked in tech support in the late 90s and the CEO of the company would constantly double or triple open things because he wouldn't pay attention to what he was clicking on or how many times he clicked. I see it with my 83 year old mom now because she gets impatient with her phone and keeps tapping the screen when it doesn't do exactly what she wants instantly.

[u/gobnyd → u/ThatOtherOtherMan]

The sad thing is I've learned it's an emotional regulation issue. My mom, also in her '80s, it's so frustrated every time she has to do anything on her phone and complains and keeps hitting it. Then when I sit down and show her how to do it with like the gentle parenting voice, she calms right down and can simply press with normal force once and do what she needs to do.

Where did I learn this shit? I certainly didn't learn from her lol I was raised by a woman I now know was going through perimenopause (I.e. fury) during my formative years.

I guess we're all just reparenting our parents at this point

[u/CycadelicSparkles → u/ThatOtherOtherMan]

I feel like having to wait for dial-up/learning that grabbing and shaking the window does nothing was good for us.

[u/CycadelicSparkles → u/SmallRocks]

Omg and the vibrate rythm is mismatched to the ringtone so they don't feel connected and my brain hears them as separate emergencies.

I hate it.

[u/LadyInCrimson → u/SmallRocks]

No this! Picked up FIL from a doctor appointment and I hear screaming from his phone its his text ring tone...

[u/glambastid → u/LadyInCrimson]

I love when older people come into my work(a retail store) and have a video or something playing on their phone that’s in their pocket, and they have no clue.

[u/Then_Employment5244 → u/stuckanon01]

And then they take 10 minutes to get the phone out of their purse and/or pants

[u/ChaosTorpedo → u/Then_Employment5244]

And then they just stare at it while they figure out who is calling

[u/RobinSophie → u/ChaosTorpedo]

OMG YES.

My mom will look at the damn text and try to read it via preview while her ridiculously long notification is still playing. And forget it if MULTIPLE notifications come in one after another. If you dont turn that shit off!

When she upgraded phones a few months ago, I told her if she selects that notification sound again, I would throw her phone out the window lol.

I'm still trying to get her to stop putting every conversation on speakerphone. The woman has hearing aids she can hear just fine. It's a habit.

[u/ProbsNotManBearPig → u/ChaosTorpedo]

“Siri stop!” - my mom in response to anything her phone is doing

[u/thedappledgray → u/ChaosTorpedo]

Makes me irrationally angry. lol

[u/Chillow_Ufgreat → u/ChaosTorpedo]

Stare at phone for 30 seconds to figure out who's calling

You don't know them

Answer anyway

[u/dougthebuffalo → u/Then_Employment5244]

Honestly, it's like they forgot what makes the noise and have to rummage around and find it by process of elimination. And THEN they sit there squinting at who's calling before deciding whether to answer or hang up because they don't know you can silence the ringer as it's ringing.

[u/Then_Employment5244 → u/dougthebuffalo]

When a random number shows up on my mom’s phone, she turns it around and asks me who the random number is. I’m like how would I know.

[u/MrsTruce → u/Then_Employment5244]

The worst is at church. A phone will ring 17 times before the owner a) realizes it’s theirs that is ringing, and b) fumbles around and gets it turned off. And then they have the gall to call aaaaaanybody else “disrespectful.”

[u/Pork_Chompk → u/stuckanon01]

I see you've met my mom. She'll sit there scrolling Faceybook or whatever with the videos just loud as shit, text messages dinging like crazy.

I always help her by switching her phone to vibrate.

[u/mrsmonti → u/stuckanon01]

And EVERYTHING gets a audible, vibrating notification! Your friend Suzy liked a photo on Facebook! 20% off sinks & vanities at Lowe’s! Your friend Mike tracked a new workout! 47 NEW NOTIFICATIONS every time the phone screen lights up. I just want to take a hammer to their phones

[u/HarambeTooSoon → u/stuckanon01]

My mom (75y/o) has a landline at her house... and it rings non-stop. And its always always always someone selling insurance or asking for donations or whatever scam. 

And she answers the phone every time like theres a 50/50 chance her best friend is calling to invite her over for choclate cake. 

She'll cut off in person conversations, pause a movie, etc to pick up the landline on the 2nd ring. 

It drives me crazy. 

I ask her "when is the last time someone you personally know called you on the landline?" (This is a lady who has had a mobile phone since they came in a bag and you had to put a magnetic attena on the roof of your car)

Now when I go over there for visits, first thing, I go into the bedroom and take a phone off the hook to buy us all some peace and she's none the wiser. 

[u/mastahkun → u/stuckanon01]

My mother in law has a siren as her ringtone. Wiener it goes off in public it’s like a national alert just went off because umbrella corp left the doors unlocked.

[u/Forward-Transition-5 → u/mastahkun]

This has to be my favorite typo ever lol

[u/Appropriate-Food1757 → u/stuckanon01]

My Mom and then she answers and talks on it with speakerphone. She always picks up!

[u/DatFunny → u/Appropriate-Food1757]

That’s another one. Boomers love speaker phone.

[u/RobinSophie → u/DatFunny]

Phone calls, videos. And doesnt matter where. Doctor office, while you're watching tv, driving. They do not give a fuck.

[u/Original_Employee621 → u/DatFunny]

Gen Z too, always holding it like a pizza slice.

[u/miicah → u/DatFunny]

Pretty much everyone except gen X and late millenials use speaker phone, I don't understand it at all. The phone is designed to be spoken into and listened to at the same time, you wouldn't have to do this weird mouth/ear alternating dance if you just held it to your face.

[u/thomsenite256 → u/stuckanon01]

And then act confused when it rings.

[u/heythereitsemily → u/thomsenite256]

My mom’s phone will ring on full blast when we’re in a restaurant or crowded spot. Then she’ll stare at it and decide she doesn’t want to answer. I’m like, SILENCE it at least! And she shrugs her shoulders like, yeah sure. It’s so obnoxious.

[u/Tale_of_two_kitties → u/stuckanon01]

And their Ring camera chimes on the phone every ten minutes.

[u/UntidyVenus → u/stuckanon01]

Ok you say this, but I am in a quilting group with generally 60-90 year old women and if a phones goes off they call scream "put it on silent!"

[u/mr_bots → u/stuckanon01]

Then answer on speaker and talk for an hour

[u/kittenmittens4865 → u/stuckanon01]

Don’t forget about the perpetual speaker phone

[u/RegayHomebrews → u/stuckanon01]

With a ringtone that sounds like the bell they ring for “the help”

[u/getlostandgrow → u/stuckanon01]

My mom not only has the ringer on but multiple alarms daily to remind her to do things. Set just as loud and she will leave the phone around the house and takes forever to get to the phone and turn the alarm off. I silence at least half of them.

[u/Prize_Ostrich7605]

I lose my phone and have to call it. Usually it is in another dimension.

[u/FatMacchio → u/Prize_Ostrich7605]

One of my favorite features of the Apple Watch is that beeper for your iPhone that doesn’t care that it’s on vibrate or even DND

Edit: I wasn’t implying this is an Apple exclusive feature, that’s just the world experience I’m speaking from. I realize many other smart watches have this feature. Besides sleep tracking, it’s probably my favorite feature

[u/TheUnicornFightsOn → u/FatMacchio]

Find my iPhone has saved me sooooo many times it's embarrassing.

I liked the old Tiles because you could ring your phone instantly and vice versa. Air Tag doesn't let you instantly ring like that and won't make any sound until you or another device gets super close, like a few feet away.

[u/velvet_costanza → u/TheUnicornFightsOn]

Are tiles not like that anymore? I still have older ones

[u/OuchLOLcom → u/FatMacchio]

I don't have an apple watch but I yell "SIRI WHAT TIME IS IT" and if its a two room radius she answers whether the ringer is silent or not.

[u/ThatsNotGumbo → u/FatMacchio]

This is actually the only thing I use my stupid Apple Watch for

[u/Estrellaloba → u/FatMacchio]

Samsung watches also do the same or I would never find where my phone moved itself to this time.

[u/Justwondering__ → u/Estrellaloba]

I don't have have smartwatch so I just have to walk around saying Ok Google until I hear it or if I'm at home I just tell Google to call it.

[u/UnluckyCardiologist9 → u/FatMacchio]

This. $250 well spent. Lol.

[u/Laetitian → u/Prize_Ostrich7605]

You can just google Find Android if you're logged into your Google account.

[u/Spirited-Living9083 → u/Prize_Ostrich7605]

I learned a trick if you have just ask google or siri to play a YouTube video you can find your phone

[u/chaos841]

Feeling a bit called out here.

[u/Ethos_Logos → u/chaos841]

Nah fam, feel welcomed home. 

[u/chaos841 → u/Ethos_Logos]

I sometimes miss the days when the phone was attached to the wall with a cord.

[u/LeoDeLarge → u/chaos841]

Or at the very least waiting until 9pm for the “free minutes” on my sidekick

[u/chaos841 → u/LeoDeLarge]

I remember my first cell phone and I didn’t know they charged by the text. Next thing I knew I was staring at a $2000 bill. Thankfully the phone company took pity on me since I was 16 and didn’t know. Then they agreed to turn off the text feature so people couldn’t continue to text me nonstop.

[u/NOLAgold13 → u/chaos841]

Could you imagine a company doing that today?

[u/chaos841 → u/NOLAgold13]

No. Today I would be in collection on that bill rather than thing reducing it to $100

[u/bellegi → u/chaos841]

i love how we can all come together on this

[u/Calichusetts → u/chaos841]

Quietly called out, thank you very much.

[u/dk_peace]

Well you havent met me

[u/PerpetualUselessness → u/dk_peace]

[u/Western-Ad3321 → u/PerpetualUselessness]

I'm getting old, I want to hear my phone when something happens (it isn't often anyway so it may as well be on silent 🤷)

[u/Chzraviolii → u/PerpetualUselessness]

Yes. I have found my people 🔊

[u/Polkawillneverdie17 → u/dk_peace]

Yeah, I love my ringtones. Especially custom ones for certain people so I know who is calling before I even look at the phone.

[u/DepartmentNo8267 → u/Polkawillneverdie17]

Same. I want to know who’s calling from across the room to know if I should hurry.

[u/Mountain-Bag-1669 → u/Polkawillneverdie17]

Yup wife and daughter have their own sound when calling and texting, same with friend priority group.

[u/The1Cool → u/dk_peace]

Exactly. Maybe bc I'm a super old millennial?

[u/saison257 → u/The1Cool]

We geriatric millenials are called Xennials 😁

[u/bsubtilis → u/The1Cool]

As another elder millennial, for me I have call sounds on because I almost never get calls unless it's something important. My siblings and friends SMS, or message me through some chat apps. I have SMS on soundless notifications, chats on no notifications (because I check the apps when it makes sense to), and as said I have phone calls set to do the ringtone thing. If I suddenly started to often get calls I would probably set it to vibrate. I aggressively disallow notifications from apps in general, I really hate my phone making noises and notifications without damn good reason because that's too disruptive to me.

[u/saison257 → u/dk_peace]

My Android has "modes" that I can set with specific settings depending on where I am. I live alone, so at home, my phone automatically turns my ringtone on. At work and at certain other places, it's automatically set to vibrate only. I love not having to think about changing the ring setting everytime I go somewhere

[u/HobNobHonkey → u/dk_peace]

Thank god it’s not just me then

I need to hear when someone is trying to reach me. My wife has hers on silent most of the time and constantly misses calls. Drives me crazy.

[u/algernaaan → u/dk_peace]

If my phone doesn’t make a loud noise at me, I’m going to forget it exists.

[u/lurkingbob → u/dk_peace]

Mute the texts, block the spam, and let everything ring through. I'm on call all the time, but my wife can't be bothered to turn on her ringer. I call her like, once a year, and she doesn't answer. Rage.

[u/ChuushaHime → u/dk_peace]

Agree, I keep my phone's ringer and vibrate on.

Apps, however, get virtually zero privileges, for both notifications and audio. If you send me a video to watch on my phone then that thing better have subtitles or closed captioning or whatever folks are calling it because the volume is staying at 0.

[u/DoctorPaige → u/dk_peace]

Yeah, my phone has the "Ring Ring Ring, Ring Ring Ring, Phone Call, Phone Call!" From Pokemon's like... 3rd episode. I didn't go through the hassle of finding it ripped from the episode but without the background music just to turn it off.

[u/VenusAmari → u/dk_peace]

My ringtone is still one of those goofy custom ringtones from them apps. It's a parody of Still Alive from the Portal game.

[u/Orion_2319]

Always on vibrate

Edit: I mean this in the nicest way... some of you need to talk to a therapist

[u/Zigglyjiggly → u/Orion_2319]

Vibrate gang. Fuck silent.

[u/iHateThisPlaceSoBad → u/Orion_2319]

Yeah, idk about this "even vibrate is too much".

Like, I at least want to know if I am getting a call. Some people have important shit going on.

[u/nightpanda893 → u/iHateThisPlaceSoBad]

Calls from contacts are the only thing that makes my phone vibrate. Everything else is on silent.

[u/Tasty-Traffic-680 → u/nightpanda893]

Every doordash customer when I try to contact them about their order...

[u/Intelligent_Break_12 → u/Orion_2319]

Same. I don't hear/feel it half the time anyway and miss calls and texts for half the day or more a lot of the time. I for sure use my phone too much but I also come to realize I use it way less than most of my friends and people around me.

[u/YouAreAPyrate → u/Intelligent_Break_12]

I recently upgraded from an older Galaxy phone only to find out they changed the physical hardware type for vibrations and it's super weak now. I was missing pretty much all calls and notification until last week when I fixed it by making an obnoxiously long custom vibration pattern.

[u/hyphygreek → u/Orion_2319]

Ya idk a single millennial that has their phone on silent. Always vibrate.

[u/Fast-Platypus-4684]

I’ve taken it a step further and now my phone is indefinitely on “Do Not Disturb”😅

[u/faithOver]

Started in 2016. 10 years strong.

[u/Interesting_Force618]

Even millennials who have kids? My phone never goes to silent because I never know when one of my kids might need to contact me. My oldest doesn’t live here, and sometimes, the teenager will text me from his bedroom when he’s feeling down, rather than coming to talk to me.

[u/bitsybear1727 → u/Interesting_Force618]

This is what I'm thinking. I have 3 kids and I'll be damned if I'm not answering when they need me.

[u/MainusEventus → u/bitsybear1727]

Yes I have two kids. They don’t have phones yet, but I configured my dnd to allow alerts from their schools (and my wife’s phone). Otherwise everything else gets silenced.

[u/Hot-Significance2387 → u/MainusEventus]

This is the way.

[u/Toezap]

Sorry, I am the exception. I want to know when people are trying to reach out to me.

[u/Obtuse-Posterior → u/Toezap]

I have a ring tone for my contacts and one for everyone else just so I can tell if I want to answer my phone without looking.

[u/Notios → u/Obtuse-Posterior]

I miss the little blinking lights you could set on some phones. Different colours for different notifications/apps/contacts. Meant you could see if you had a message and who it was from without even going near your phone

[u/ninjakitty117 → u/Toezap]

Me too. I realized I do a better job of putting my phone down when the volume is on. If it's on silent, I'm constantly pulling it out to check if I have any messages. And after I check, then do the social media circle (reddit, email, Instagram, etc) and end up down a rabbit hole.

But with the volume on, I can put it down and focus on other things. Counterintuitive, but it works.

[u/Alukrad → u/Toezap]

I'm 40 and my phone's volume is always high.

Now, do I consistently get notifications and phone calls? Nah. It's very rare my phone goes off, unless my mother is calling me or someone texts me.

[u/New-Marionberry8680]

Mine is permanently silent. Only reason it isn't if I'm waiting for a call from my wife or mom.

[u/Billy_Plur]

Do not disturb, but yeah

[u/Ilovefishdix → u/Billy_Plur]

Plus only friends and family can get through. They're the only ones I want to talk to, and most of them just text me. Everyone else goes straight to voicemail.

[u/ickyvic613]

Vibrate more than completely silent. Though either is fine since I just use my watch to locate my phone if I misplace it. I genuinely get pissed off when I accidentally turn my volume on. Lol.

[u/SQLCloud]

It's just... the more old I'm , the more I realize how fake the world can be and I enjoy being alone and away from hypocrites and people that only look for you just to ask something from you... Is this growing up for us?

[u/antiramie → u/SQLCloud]

Yup. The older I get the fewer people there are in my inner circle. Hard finding fellow adults who are chill, good people that I have stuff in common with.

[u/MetalEnthusiast83 → u/SQLCloud]

This is one of the most immature things I've read on this subreddit, which is impressive, so no, it's not what growing up is like.

[u/ermaecrhaelld]

One of my older coworkers leaves her volume on and has notifications going off all day. It’s so annoying and unprofessional.

[u/Michael_Dautorio]

Wait.... Is this a thing? I couldn't imagine my phone being on silent.

[u/Strawhat_Truls → u/Michael_Dautorio]

Crazy to me too. Most of the time my wife's phone is on silent and I can't get ahold of her when I need to. I'm like come on.

[u/REC_HLTH → u/Michael_Dautorio]

It’s absolutely a thing. Unless I am actively waiting for a super important call I can’t miss, I have no sounds or vibrate on for notifications of any kind. With very few exceptions, my phone has been on silent for at least 5+ years, and the 5 or so years before that on silent much of the time but not always.

I do have an Apple Watch that taps my wrist with incoming calls and GPS turns, so that’s good enough for me. I have most of the other notifications turned off for my watch though.

[u/Crypto_Force_X → u/Michael_Dautorio]

Yeah it is a thing. It is usually spam anyways.

[u/hookes_plasticity → u/Crypto_Force_X]

No one calls me more than Potential Spam 🥺

[u/anticked_psychopomp → u/Michael_Dautorio]

Yeah full silent seems wild.

I accomplish selective silence in a more round about way. I have all of my app notifications off and text message alerts hidden. Badges only. And phone calls can come through - from 6am-10pm. I sound like a strict factory, with odd business hours and questionable practices lol

[u/Spiceb0x → u/Michael_Dautorio]

Yeah I mean I don't always have my phone on me and I don't like missing calls from people like my parents who are getting older lol

[u/CenturyLinkIsCheeks]

always on do not disturb unless i am expecting a delivery or an important call

[u/aftercloudia]

well it's me. i have my ringer on. i'm not always on my phone so i need to actually hear when someone texts or calls me.

[u/flooperdooper4 → u/aftercloudia]

Same, I don't compulsively check my phone or always have it in my pocket or next to me. If I can't hear it, I might not know for hours.

[u/CynnBynn]

Ngl i seriously thought it was just me 😭 i get so overstimulated from the constant noises

[u/nightpanda893 → u/CynnBynn]

If it’s on vibrate I feel like I’m always “waiting” for it to vibrate and it’s always in the back of my mind. Having it on silent helps me self-regulate a little better and I just check it when I have the chance.