r/memes • • 9h ago

Just... ask for more money?

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u/I3adIVIonkey 9h ago

Tipping culture in the US is actually for every service rendered?

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u/ResponsibleBowl492 9h ago

Yep. And lord have mercy on your soul if you don’t tip

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u/Happy_Disaster7347 9h ago

I might not have a lot to be proud of about the UK, but fuck me I am so glad we don't have a tipping culture.

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u/Exark141 9h ago

I would say most restaurants here do add on a 10% service fee at the end, they just hope you don't notice

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u/Happy_Disaster7347 9h ago

Most places near me, you can see things like that either on the digital screen or on the receipt

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u/codekb 8h ago

Reading comprehension is rare

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u/Great_Scott7 8h ago

What

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u/RetroGamerBoi 7h ago

READING COMPREHENSION IS RARE

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u/CaptinEmergency 7h ago

I can’t hear a damn thing without my glasses.

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u/aschwarzie 6h ago

These words are deafening!

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u/Hamster-Food 3h ago

You'll have to speak up, I'm wearing a towel.

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u/arthriticpyro 4h ago

Quit yelling we can hear you just fine!! Damn kids, no respect lol

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u/Zestyclose-Power-132 7h ago

They meant people don't comprehend everything they read.

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u/Adventurous_Book_501 6h ago

What do you mean?

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u/mrmartymcf1y 8h ago

Attention and focus even more so

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u/Flooping_Pigs 8h ago

what's going on over there

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u/Acceptable-Drive3781 8h ago

You didn't tip him enough to read carefully.

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u/icallitjazz 8h ago

I dont care if its more expensive, food just is now, idc. Thats not the problem, the problem is that you make something optional, but actually its not optional. You choose to tip, but actually you cant choose to not tip. Thats the whole american freedom, its so backwards. Like there is more freedom in europe like that, if you want there is private health care if you want to pay, but also other options. Like, if you really want, you can tip in europe as well, but that would just be your generosity, not something expected. Just include the damn tips in your prices and sell shit at the actual “what you pay” price, not some honky “secret math problems” price.

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u/cortez_brosefski 5h ago

The risky move is that you can absolutely just choose not to tip here, but you'll likely get terrible service or just outright denied service next time you go there

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u/BulletDubz 4h ago

So perfect for tourists visiting then lmao.

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u/cortez_brosefski 4h ago

Yes absolutely lol

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u/Endy0816 4h ago edited 3h ago

Not really... Where I'm at we see hordes of tourists so everyone has some idea of what behavior to expect.

If where they're from is obvious, they may get the bare minimum in service.

There can also be mandatory tipping where it's been an ongoing issue. Often costs more.

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u/Parking_Line_3704 3h ago

You get what people expect you to pay for is the key distinction here.

Since tipping is after the fact, service providers can form biases and provide services based off their expected tip. It's a demonstratedly racist, sexist, whatever else-ist practice. And that works both ways.

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u/Endy0816 2h ago

You don't want people taking advantage of the fact that you well may never see them again either though.

Honestly, many tourists are borderline overly generous about tipping in my experience. There's only a few regions that don't follow the 'When in Rome' philosophy.

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u/zcontium 9h ago

10% isn't bad, but here in the US you're kind of expected to tip 20%-25% on most things

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u/nnnoooeee 8h ago

Which i still dont get. Standard used to be 15% and now the default os 20%.

I know everything is more expensive, but that should be accounted for with a %, versus a static number, no?

(not asking you personally, just venting out loud)

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u/RiparianTreeLobster 8h ago

In California they also add “service fees” and “cost of living fees” with the letters description being “to provide adequate pay and insurance for employees. This is not a tip, please tip your server” and that exists so management can scrape off an additional 15% that goes into an “employee fund” which just means they take it and pocket it.

Like how about you just pay your employees and then if I think they did a superb job I will give them a little extra

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u/sender2bender 8h ago

They list those fees, like COL, healthcare, ect, to send a message. Usually to complain about a politician or law. I've been in a couple restaurants that had it listed and they name the governor and/or the law. They don't have to, they can put it in the price like everything else. If one of their vendors raises prices they don't and try to make a statement or list it as a separate cost. It's disrespectful to the employees too, like I didn't want to give my employees enough money to live but unfortunately I have to. I once brought it up to a waiter after getting a bill with added costs and you could tell she hated her boss for putting it on the menu. Made sure to give her cash tip. I don't eat at those restaurants anymore and will walk out as soon as I see it listed.

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u/SleepyLabrador 6h ago

Just don't tip or take any fees from your tip.

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u/RiparianTreeLobster 6h ago

While I really agree, I know how much I am struggling out here so I do tip just so the employee can eat dinner (I also just don’t go out to eat anymore cuz I just can’t afford a $25-30 meal that becomes $45-50 with random fees and the tip). I also like to do cash tip so I know they get it and not come scummy management. But again, can’t afford it anymore except for an occasion or if I need a pick me up lol

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u/RedneckScienceGeek 8h ago

I'm old enough to remember when standard was 10%, and 15% was reserved for exceptional service.

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u/pisspeeleak 8h ago

I still do that. Minimum wage here is like $18/hr. It’s not like the states where you can pay them $3/hr. I refuse to tip a minimum of 18% like so many machines insist on

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u/Zebidee 7h ago

I've had arguments on here with people who say 10% was never a thing. I'm Gen X, so it wasn't even that long ago.

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u/pisspeeleak 6h ago

I was born in 97. This is in Canada so it is a bit different, but I always grew up with 10%, 2019/2020 is when it started just skyrocketing

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u/Appropriate_Ride_821 6h ago

Im a millennial and it wasn't that long ago

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u/ipourmilkfirst 6h ago

I am shocked to see people saying 10% was a thing, been tipping since the 90s and never tipped below 15%. Everyone I know tipped either 20% or double the tax (about 15-20% depending on the year)

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u/Quick1711 3h ago

Me too

They’ve passed on the cost of paying their employees on to the consumer being required to tip them more. It’s total bullshit

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u/zcontium 8h ago

I know you weren't asking me directly, but I genuinely believe its because of the corporate culture shift, trying to put more pressure on the customers to pay employees directly, thus having the employers pay less.

10-15% is a good tip. 25% feels like were fronting the employee wages on top of the service fees.

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u/blackcray 7h ago

That's exactly what it is, most states still have the tipped wage set well below the federal minimum, and the companies operating them don't want to give that up.

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u/StrictlySanDiego 8h ago

I tip 15% minus any added service fee. I don’t care anymore.

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u/Biduleman 6h ago

Where I live, during Covid they pushed us to tip more because people at home ate less delivery food.

The reason people at home ate less delivery is because lots of people stopped being paid so it was pretty tone deaf from the start.

Then, restaurants and servers saw that people did it, and then continued after covid, so the expectation stayed.

Restaurant prices grew so tips would have gone up anyway (15% of $30 is more than 15% of $20) but they're still asking for the 18%-25%.

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u/cortez_brosefski 5h ago

Yes, that's exactly how a percentage works. The higher the base price, the higher the tip will be.

I don't understand why the expected percentage changed to 20% all of a sudden. Hell, some people are even asking for 25-30% now

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u/meh_69420 2h ago

The standard went to 20% because the mental math for 15% is too hard for most people these days. All the other old rules are out the window as well, like you're only supposed to tip 10% on alcohol and tip on before tax amounts not the total.

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u/dontnation 8h ago

Agreed. The whole point of a percentage is that the tip will increase along with prices. Now some servers are arguing that a 20% tip is the "minimum", which is crazy. On the other hand, the minimum base pay for tipped workers hasn't increased since 1991. Some states have increased that limit, but the majority have not, and many that have only require base pay to supplement tips up to minimum wage combined.

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u/lexalander 8h ago

The standard is still 15%.

These people just have to show everyone what victims they are.

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u/Moderator-Admin 8h ago

I don't get why people keep saying it's higher. They must be workers that get tips trying to sway public opinion so they make more money.

As prices for food goes up (which they have quite ridiculously), 15% of that amount also increases. Why should I give an even higher increase for no reason?

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u/JaysFan26 8h ago

15% is definitely the lowest tip option on a lot of checkout systems now, if not 18%. I'd assume it won't be long till 18% is the new minimum on the majority of screens and you need to press the "other" button in front of the person who served you to put in 15%.

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u/Mekisteus 8h ago

If the person who served me is hovering over me watching me complete the tip portion to pressure me, they're not even getting 15%.

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u/lexalander 7h ago

The fear you all have of clicking on other is crazy.

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u/MazerNoob 6h ago

On top of w.e random fees they have already included

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u/fiddeldeedee 5h ago

That's something that's holding me back from visiting your country... that and the several ingredients that are allowed in your food that are banned in Europe.

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u/Quick1711 3h ago

No tf ur not!! 15% is a good high

20-25% is outrageous for services rendered

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u/zcontium 3h ago

Idk about your experience but most of the time I use services, anything from a gas pump to doordash to a coffee vendor the tip screen always shows "10% - 20% - 25%" making 20% in the center and subliminally the "default" option.

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u/Quick1711 3h ago

We are being passed on the costs of paying their employees.

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u/zcontium 3h ago

Exactly. It sucks. :(

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u/NefariousnessOk209 7h ago

So on a night out if you scan a menu you just gotta assume everything on the menu is 75-80% of full cost.

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u/DadBodZawa 7h ago

And a lot of restaurants still add a service fee.

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u/TheCookieButter 8h ago

I only ever see that in London

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u/thepickleton 6h ago

They do that in the US too and then expect a tip on top of that as well.

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u/TheKeyMaster1874 4h ago

Where the hell are you eating out? I've seen it maybe once and I did what all men in the UK do....get the Mrs to ask them to take it off so I don't have to have the awkward polite conversation.

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u/Hefty-Report-4930 8h ago

10 percent is fine compared to the 20-50% people expect here in the states.

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u/schizophrenicbugs 7h ago

It's 12.5% as a standard, but yes.

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u/JobWelt 7h ago

Most? It’s very rare I see a “discretionary service charge”. I always ask, politely, for it to be removed.

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u/epiDXB 8h ago

That's not a tip, it is just breaking down the bill into food and service. It is clearly stated and you know in advance it is part of the bill.

A tip, if any, is in addition to this.

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u/smellsliketeenferret 9h ago

We do increasingly have an "optional service charge" added automatically to the bill in a lot of restaurants though, which is done in the hope people are too British to ask for it to be removed.

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u/Stickel Scrolling on PC 8h ago

Brother it's trash can we be a colony again?

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u/Happy_Disaster7347 8h ago

We're on the downhill trend too I'm afraid, fascists taking over :(

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u/quarterrat13 8h ago

Please, I like tea!

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u/Kutikyla 8h ago

How do you make a tea? Step by step please. I saw how americans make tea and i was horrified

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u/quarterrat13 8h ago
  1. Set my electric kettle to the temperature, usually 170-175, hotter for herbal tea.
  2. Rinses the mug with hot water, use one tea bag (I lost my strainer in a divorce)
  3. Pour water over tea bag & let it steep (3-5 minutes, herbal 5-6)

Remove tea bag, enjoy

  1. with a book (I still like reading actual books)

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u/DeBouillonIV 8h ago

Love the humor. But if you were not joking about losing that strainer in the divorce, then I'm sorry, man.

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u/quarterrat13 7h ago

The strainer went with the house, cars, & bank accounts. I’m poor but happy.

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u/4limbedemperor 8h ago

It’s extremely obnoxious in the us

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u/kuchma86 6h ago

Just returned to Canada from the UK and I miss the easy tap for everything because they're not asking for tips for every damn thing

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u/atteh0 4h ago

Same in Finland and I would say the whole baltic and northern europe.

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u/Roger_Cockfoster 3h ago

No they just add 12.5% without even asking. That happens in literally every restaurant in the UK now.

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u/Orleanian 8h ago

I lament your measured 0.5ml liquor pours though :(

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u/OldDoubt1577 8h ago

Calling it culture unfairly legitimizes it, everyone hates it. Its tipping coercion.

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u/ToXiiCBULLET 7h ago

it's slowly creeping over. i've seen a bunch of tipping screens in cafes. worst case was when they didn't actually make the coffee, they just used a machine similar to those self service coffee machines in a spoons, and then showed me a tipping screen. you're already charging me £4.50 for a dead mocha from a machine you just pressed a button on, i'm not tipping you shite

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u/14Pleiadians 7h ago

They're working on it don't worry, you will

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u/TGIFIDGAF 8h ago

Yeah I don’t understand tipping your tattoo artist, like it get it’s normalized, but they set the price

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u/dkinmn 8h ago

It's traditionally been a cash tip that people want so they can avoid taxes

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u/Longjump_Ear6240 7h ago

Back in the day people didn't always set their own price if they worked in a shop, but thats a pretty dated practice now. Every artist I know today does set their own prices.

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u/zitaloreleilong 8h ago

I always thought it was for the original tipping purpose. They did a good job and you want them to continue doing a good job on future pieces. I didn't realize there was an option to not tip an artist.

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u/Kriztauf 2h ago

I think it depends on the country. I'm from the US where you tip tattoo artists. I now live in Germany where it's less common to do so here. My tattoo artist here is German but he works at a studio in the US half the year, where he obviously gets tips. So I always tip him here in Germany both because I'm super happy with the work and because I worry it would low key come off as a little mean not getting a tip from an American client who normally would be tipping tattoo artists.

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u/BoxCarTyrone Lurking Peasant 7h ago

God forbid I don't tip on an order I am driving 10-15 minutes to pick up myself.

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u/MPetinho 8h ago

Why?

Make mandatory an optional payment makes absolute no sense for my LATAM/Europe culture

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u/I3adIVIonkey 9h ago edited 9h ago

I mean people in the EU tip too on most services but compared to the 15% to 20% most Americans use to tip it's nothing and also not every single time.

Tattoos at least here seem already expensive enough. Tipping again like 20% of that just seems like too much.

Edit typo

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u/fryerandice 9h ago

Tattoos are expensive as all get-out here too, most shops are owned by the artist doing the work.

So tipping is fucking insane. I don't get tattoos but 20% on a $700 tat is crazy work. If you don't tip them they won't work with you anymore though. Even though you almost spent a band at their place.

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u/shiftdown 9h ago

On tattoo's some artists expect something like a 30-50% tip. and that can be on top of a 800-1,200USD tattoo

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u/I3adIVIonkey 9h ago

Here tipping on a 680 tattoo for example. Make it 700 and that was already a generous tip and a lot don't tip at all on such amounts.

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u/pukesmith 8h ago

And somehow they're booked for the next 6 months too...

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u/TetraThiaFulvalene 9h ago

Where in Europe? Nobody tips where I live.

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u/I3adIVIonkey 9h ago edited 7h ago

Well first question what job are you working?

I speak mostly about benelux and Ruhrpott. I already said not everybody tips everytime. The standard food places I go to I tip like every 5th or 6th time I order there, a euro or too. Never said europe tips a lot,but tipping exists.

I used to work as student in a restaurant that was a little bit more high class than the average restaurant, but even the people with more money don't tip a lot or every time.

Edit: sorry my brain is poop. I was talking about waiter and hotel jobs when I said most services.

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u/loulan 8h ago

You said "people in the EU tip too on most services".

That's nonsense. We don't tip tatoo artists, the people cutting our hair, etc.

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u/I3adIVIonkey 7h ago

Yeah I meant mostly waiter and hotel jobs. Could've worded that better. Mea culpa.

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u/I3adIVIonkey 8h ago

Oh no that's badly worded then. I meant mostly horeca restaurants, hotels and stuff. Not to usual for customers here to leave a small tip.

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u/TetraThiaFulvalene 8h ago

What job I work doesn't matter. I don't know anybody who ever tips anywhere.

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u/I3adIVIonkey 8h ago

I might have to specify that I talk mostly about waiters and hotel stuff when it comes to EU tipping. Anywhere else is possible but surely statistically like winning the lottery. So you've been all over Europe?

West Europe and central people tip but by far not like in the US.

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u/TetraThiaFulvalene 8h ago

You're the one that side Europe in a generalized way. That's why I asked where you were. Nobody tips in any industry in the Nordics.

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u/plaxitone 7h ago

When I went to a Michelin starred restaurant in Stockholm, a tip was expected.

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u/I3adIVIonkey 7h ago

That might actually becoming more and more common in the haute cuisine in europe. Seen a post about Gordon Ramsey trying to do the same in his restaurants.

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u/I3adIVIonkey 7h ago

Well been to Norway and honestly for the price of half a liter beer in bergen I get 3l in Belgium. I sure as shit didn't tip up there, it was expensive enough for me. It made the impression to me the way Norwegians drink with those prices that they have relatively high income in relation and they might tip a little from time to time.

Buying a pack of cigarettes almost made me cry and that was back in 2015. If they ramped the prices up the way belgium did recently I bet a 25 pack costs now 25-30 euro in Norway.

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u/Celtarra28 8h ago

I'm from Spain, nobody tips ever here.

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u/IcingD 8h ago

I'm in my 30s and have tipped like 3 times in my life for truly exceptional service at a restaurant or a bar and I've spent weeks in all the biggest European countries and visited many of the smaller ones too (and live in one of those). Tipping culture is not a thing, although you certainly CAN tip if you feel like someone truly went above and beyond for you.

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u/Electrical_Flan4957 7h ago

Almost nobody tips in the Netherlands. Yes sometimes but it is mostly to make a round number.

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u/Techno_Gandhi 8h ago

We tip when we get great service, in the US they seem to tip for absolutely everything. The idea of tipping the cashier in mcdonalds is insane to me.

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u/manitaker 8h ago

People tip when they think the service is worth some extra, at least where i live

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u/I3adIVIonkey 7h ago

It's the same where I live.

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u/Correct-Fly-1126 8h ago

This is news to me… and I live in the EU. Maybe 10% if I’m out at a fine dining restaurant but that’s always optional - never on a tattoo, never on any other services I can think of.

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u/toplessrobot 8h ago

but nothing happens if you just don’t tip

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u/ThatDokkanPlayer 8h ago

They side eye you and make the social interaction awkward, ive never gotten a tattoo but a few of my friends have, and never mentioned a tattoo artist receiving tips from anyone, tattoos are already expensive

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u/Medaphysical 7h ago

lord have mercy on your soul

They side eye you and make the social interaction awkward

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u/ThatDokkanPlayer 7h ago

I mean he asked, you aren't forced to tip but they definitely try to make you feel bad by not doing so

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u/Medaphysical 7h ago

Sure. It's just funny what different people's ideas of a bad time are.

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u/tpolakov1 7h ago

No, you make the social interaction awkward. The services were already rendered and payment sent as agreed. No more interaction, social or otherwise, needs to happen.

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u/FishDawgX 8h ago

I tip only for restaurant service and haircuts. Nothing else. Not every transaction needs to add a tip.

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u/TheBourbonTurtle 7h ago

I'm too old to give a damn anymore. I cannot be judged into parting with my money.

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u/Maleficent-Pea2041 5h ago

Tattoos are one thing but at restaurants, servers get paid $2 an hour to help cover taxes so all they make are tips

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u/Meggarz66 4h ago

Is tipping the mailman still a thing? Is this why my neighbors and I get each others mail all the time?

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u/ceslobrerra 4h ago

As an asian, I can’t understand why tipping in America seems like almost an obligation. In asian countries, it’s not really necessary but you can do it if you want to. In Japan, I think it’s a different story. I read somewhere that it’s kind of disrespectful to tip.

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u/what_username_to_use 8h ago

The lord themselves ask for tips too

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u/Derangutan 8h ago

If what you did was the baseline needed for the transaction to go through, no tip.

That includes making my sandwich or coffee (looking at you Subway and Starbucks).

Make my pizza and I come and pick it up? No tip. Make my pizza and deliver it to my house? Tip!

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u/Naturebrah 8h ago

Why? I don’t tip in most ridiculous instances and no one says anything.

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u/doe3879 8h ago

fuck it, not tipping anyway if i'm visting. like I'd ever gona go back

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u/Shouleyy 8h ago

what are they gonna do they already gave me the service i paid for lol.

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u/SpeaksSouthern 8h ago

I haven't tipped above $5 in like 3 years

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u/gahd95 8h ago

I will pay the agreed upon price. If they wanted the price to be higher, they should have made the price higher. Like why make part of the price optional and then throw a fit when people choose option B?

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u/RPGDesignatedPaladin 7h ago

One year on my birthday I was broke but I had received a gift card for exactly enough money for an order at Chili’s. I went to the pick-up-to-go counter and paid. The guy behind the counter yelled at me for not tipping ON A PICK UP ORDER so loudly that I walked out crying.

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u/abc24611 7h ago

I don't really feel this is true...

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u/wa27 8h ago

It's absolutely not for every service rendered.

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u/Kennysded 8h ago

Dunno why you're getting downvoted. I did service calls (plumbing), and we never expected a tip. Some people did tip, and it was always appreciated (Mormons were a favorite: they'll feed you whether you want it or not). The vast majority did not, and it was no biggie. I once had someone try to tip in a very Brazzers way, if that counts?

Also worked grocery: no tips, explicitly not allowed.

Also worked various fast food where tipping is not regular, if allowed at all.

I do tip my tattoo artists and barber. But that's because the artists have been fuckin phenomenal, and my barber is a friend. Gotta support your friend's businesses.

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u/wa27 8h ago

Probably 90% of my transactions are not tipped, and no tip is expected. But people here will lead you to believe people are tipping at, like, Walmart.

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u/FUPAMagneto 9h ago

Bro nobody cares. Y’all desperately trying to paint yourselves as victims bc there’s an option to hand the guy at the counter an extra $2 is so fucking lame

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u/fflyguy 8h ago

It’s not an option though, it’s an expectation that comes with future business relationship damage if you don’t.

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u/zdh989 8h ago

I don't have a "business relationship" with the 19 year old cashier at the coffee shop. Its 100% optional.

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u/FUPAMagneto 8h ago

The 22 year-old barista is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to tip? Or you’re just so soft and fragile that a screen asking you a question feels like a personal attack?