i have a trusty bullet vibe i very often use on my clit and sometimes for penetration, but with vibration off and it’s always felt good but i finally hit some sort of balance with everything and was able to cum like 1 min into penetration which i think is crazy.

i can cum in 20-30 seconds from stimulating clit only but always thought it would just take longer for penetration. i’ve used it for much longer and then felt a bit sore inside (i prob needed lube honestly) so i would just switch back to my clit and cum that way, but i def always felt like i could cum from penetration.

my bullet vibe is also like 3-4 inches long, so i’m wondering how that will translate for p in v sex. does that technically mean a 4 inch long dick would do the job? mind you my bullet vibe is also very skinny.

ive hear of more endowed people having to make shallower thrusts with only the top part of their dick to give someone a g spot orgasm, so would someone with a 4 inch to average inch dick just be able to do that more easily with normal thrusts (for me at least)?

i am a virgin so excuse me if i say anything kinda silly

Hello, I’m 18F. Well, the title really says it all. I’ve been talking for a guy (18M) for a few months and had my first time with him. I’ve had sex with him maybe 3 times. I’ve given him head (unprotected every time. I didn’t think about it ever.) and we’ve had vaginal sex a few times, with him wearing a condom. I told him through text before the first time we had sex that I only felt comfortable with a condom, and that I wasn’t only worried about pregnancy, but STIs too. He insisted that he didn’t have any STIs, but he’d wear the condom anyway (even though he complained it felt weird). Today he was over at my house, we were both naked cuddling, I was on top of him.. and it went inside. I wasn’t thinking - I didn’t think about a condom. Last time before he went inside he asked if I wanted him to wear a condom and I said yes. This time he must’ve forgotten, or might’ve thought I was fine without one because I might’ve seemed to be initiating it. Which is understandable. I just genuinely wasn’t thinking. I didn’t realise till we were already having sex that he wasn’t wearing a condom. I didn’t tell him to pull out and put one on. I’m just so ashamed right now and afraid I have an STI. My therapist literally warned me a few days ago to always use a condom because some STIs aren’t curable. And my mother has warned me too. I’m just so, so afraid and ashamed - worried my life is going to change forever for the worst. It’s worse that I have to wait 12 weeks to take a test for most accurate results, and that it’s my OWN fault. I just can’t believe myself, I’m so ashamed and feel so dumb. I told two of my closest friends and even they can’t believe I could be so silly. I feel so stupid. I’m sorry for the vent, I just have no one to talk to about this.

Hii i am 21F and i have never masterbated in my life, i know weird lr whatever but i grew up in a household where privacy is almost non existent and it still is but i read somewhere that your clit can vanish/shrink if you dont stimulate it and that scared me, so i want to try masterbating and getting comfortable in my own skin. Any and all advice is appreciated. Please help me out!!

Ps: i watch lesbian p0rn every now and then and its nicer to watch but i never felt like masturbating because of it?? Is something wrong with me? Please help me!!

I’m curious how people’s idea of good sex changes over time. It seems like what you think matters when you're younger can be pretty different from what you value after having more experience.

For some people, it's chemistry and excitement. For others, it's feeling comfortable, being able to communicate, or not feeling pressured to make everything perfect.

For those of you who've had different experiences over the years, what matters most to you now that didn't matter as much before?

so i had sex 2 days before my day of ovulation which was last week thursday. (Oct 15th) We used protection and we checked the condom as well. and nothing seems out of the ordinary. His penis is a little large and sometimes it hurt and i felt a lot of friction because we kinda of rushed into but today, too much information but he fongered me and i started bleeding and idk why the bleeding was medium, not heavy or light. I did feel a slight prick bc of his nails. But the bleeding was heavy enough so get on my clothes and stuff but yeah

29f. i’ve bought a few smaller vibrators over the years and my problem is that some seem convenient at first but eventually just sit in a drawer.

these days i’m more interested in what actually makes a compact toy useful. for me it’s probably simple controls, consistent vibration, and something that isn’t annoying to hold. i don’t really need a bunch of different patterns if i end up using the same couple settings anyway.

i’ve been looking at a few different styles, including mini wands for steady vibrations, but i’m not sure if the wand shape really makes much difference when the toy is that small.

for people who use smaller vibrators regularly, what makes one worth keeping around? is it mostly the size, or do you notice more of a difference from the shape and controls?

My husband and I are pretty comfortable talking about almost anything. We can spend hours discussing finances, savings, or random life stuff, but when it comes to talking about what we like in bed, suddenly neither of us knows what to say lol.

I recently tried bringing up the idea of trying something new together, and he just laughed nervously and said he was fine with whatever I wanted. Then we somehow ended up talking about dinner instead 😂

We have a good relationship and our sex life is fine, so it's not like there's a major issue. I just wish we could talk about this stuff without making it awkward. For those of you who used to struggle with this, what helped you get more comfortable talking about your preferences without making it a whole serious conversation?

28f

Still a virgin but i've been seeing a guy for the past few weeks and about a week ago we did some sexual stuff at my place.

He is very nice and patient with me, but I felt like my performance was lackluster all around.

I tried to deep throat him and embarrass myself with gagging.

I couldn't even dry hump him right.

He mostly did all the work and I felt bad.

I never outright told him i was virgin but I did tell him I was inexperienced.

I didn't even get wet that much 😭

We had to use lube for him to insert his fingers in me, and even then it was too much for me.

He did oral sex on me and i did enjoy it, it was just an overwhelming sensation unfortunately.

I just feel like eventually he's going to lose patience with me.

So how long does it take for someone whose been a virgin for damn near 3 decades to be good at sex?

He's also very very experience compare to me, so i know he's doing it correctly and i'm failing.

My overthinking brain says because I didn't have sex young and my frontal lobe is fully developed, i'll never be good at it, it's too late for me, and that i'm too old.

Hello! I (F23) love masturbating, but I feel like I cum to fast. I enjoy stroking myself, but after 4-5 minutes I climax and I'm done. And the climax is not always that good...

When I watch female masturbating online, they can keep stroking for dozen of minutes and have massive orgasms. I would love to increase the length of my masturbation sessions.

Do you have any recommendations?

I've been really irritated lately with the lack of representation depicted in porn, despite the fact that there is probably more porn out there than ever before. I tried watching mainstream porn when I was a teenager and was generally put off by the misogyny and performative spectacle of it all. It was all just so same-y, the dude just jackhammered some pristine hairless wailing woman with his massive dick until someone came. It all felt fake and crude and cringe-y. Sure, I get that gets most people off and its only for entertainment mostly, but I've never found anything particularly suited to my own unique interests.

I mostly read erotica (fanfiction) because I can get very picky with the content filtering of it, and the writing style is a lot more erotically vs pornographically focused. But sometimes I want something visual. I am bi, but a lot of porn out there does not seem to be made with anyone else in mind than cishet men... I've bought subscriptions to erikalust, a content creator couple, and filthy figments to try and bring some visual and creative diversity in, and while those were all lovely exceptions to the rule, their catalog is limited, and does not seem as extensive as sites like pornhub or something. There's only so many times I can jerk it to the same video before it becomes easier to just use my imagination.

I've recently taken to just making the content I want to see in the world by writing and drawing some characters that are representative of what I find arousing, but I'm sick of doing everything myself! Its even hard for me to find reference images to draw the sort of stuff I want to see of the male body type I'm attracted to. I like very tall lanky alternative (tattoos, piercings, mohawks, looks like a strong breeze would knock them over, etc.) men but even on the subreddits dedicated to "alt porn" its always just focused on women, sorry, ~goth girls~ What if I want to objectify an inked up man!?!!

The main things that I want to see change:
-skinny lanky guys
-alternative men
-seeing a dudes face while people are boning, not just a close up of the fucking
-literally any normal amount of body hair on women
-different body types for women (I'm talking fat girls and muscled girls and older women whose boobs sag!)
-Gender minorities that are not fetishized (idk if I've seen any trans or non-binary representation where their marginalized identity was not overtly fetishized outside of filthy figments comics which are made by a lot of GNC artists)

It feels frustrating that there is diverse content for fetishes as specific as inflation or JOI or furries or hypnosis or feminization out there with LIBRARIES worth of media but a girl with unsymmetrical labia? Nearly impossible to find. It just feels so monotonous and lame at this point. I know culturally we're still getting over the whole "women can be interested and enjoy erotica" point but cmon now. romantasy is one of the best selling fiction genres annually. Can we at least consider editing the script on these videos?

TL;DR there should be more diverse porn out there that caters to me and my interests, specifically.

Me and my roommate have been living together for almost 3 years now and tbh it's been so much fun. We're both girls, she's bi and somewhere along the way things got a little more than friendly lol. We were never in a relationship or anything but sometimes we'd hook up when we were both in the mood. It was always super casual, no feelings or expectations and somehow it never made things awkward between us.

She's moving out next month and idk why I'm getting so emotional about it... We've had so many good memories together and I kinda wanted to give her something personal to remember our time together. I was thinking about giving her my WhisperVibe and my Nipple clips since we've used them on each other before lol but now I'm wondering if that's just a really weird goodbye gift??

Sometimes I feel like everyone else knows exactly what they like and what works for them, and I'm just here figuring things out as I go lol.

I've had moments where something felt good, but when it comes to explaining what I actually want, I honestly have no idea how to put it into words. And sometimes I just go along with things instead of speaking up because I don't wanna make the moment awkward.

I know it's probably something that gets easier with time, but does anyone else feel this way? How did you get more comfortable exploring what you like and actually telling your partner?

we finally had a chance home alone to actually love each other properly after months, and it was great! i love that he is very caring and makes sure i give full consent and am ready for everything :)

Hi, i'm F(24) and always have problem with my sexuality (because of past trauma) and my boyfriend bought me a sextoy for me to take back my sexuality.

We have sex but not often and he really doesn't shame or pressure me to do it. He encourage me to explore it with smut in books and asked me if a sextoy would help me and at the time i said yes and i believe it but i'm at loss..i tried it but it feels weird and there's a LOT of settings and i feel bad..it's like he offered me a sweet opportunity and i waste it.

The funny thing is that the toy has the same name as me and i kinda like it

I can share the link if it's relevent just tell me

i feel like a lot of JOI audios go for that super commanding voice lol. nothing wrong with that, but sometimes i wonder if a calmer, more natural voice would actually work better.anyone here into the softer kind? curious what you think.

I 21F have grown up syntribating before i even knew what it was (crossing ur legs until climax) this has worked for me great until i started getting in relationships and couldn’t even finish with my partners. I had tried using my hand before it just never seemed to work. After a lot of research i decided to take a break from syntribation and try using my hand. About i week ago i tried it, i started off crossing my legs a bit and then when i felt turned on enough i switched to my hand. This worked as i started to feel close, still it didn’t feel half as good as syntribation and it felt a bit different than syntribation as i was getting close because usually i just finish and that’s that but this felt like finishing was taking longer and like i kinda had to push it out? then out of nowhere that feeling went away and i started feeling nauseous and exactly how i feel post orgasm. The weird part is that i didn’t feel the orgasm part but i think i came? So i tried it again a couple days later and same thing happened. I’m lost idk what to do i want this so bad.

I didn't know what the appropriate flair would be for this. Sorry, lol.

I scrolled on tiktok and saw a video captioned "went on a dream date today", and it was a woman in the woods with her bf with a ghost face mask on. He was chasing her around. My bf and I were thinking about doing this recently!! I was thinking we were weird, but I guess not! Even the women in the comments were saying how badly they wanted to do it. 🤣🤣

Have any of you guys done this before? And what is this fetish called? I know I have a mask kink, but I'm talking about the chasing thing.

Update: My bf was asking me a bunch of questions on why I find masks sexy, which ones, what clothes, etc. 👀 I guess I'm in for a wild ride, y'all!! 😭😭❤️

I’m 33 and had an emergency hysterectomy in 2023. I still have my ovaries, but my cervix was removed, so I have a vaginal cuff. I also have endometriosis and deal with chronic pelvic pain.
I’m also a virgin, which makes my situation a little more complicated.
It’s not because I’m waiting until marriage. I’ve just never met someone I felt comfortable enough with or had that kind of emotional connection with. I don’t want my first time to be with just anyone.
I’m hoping to start dating soon, and if I meet the right person, I really do want to experience intimacy. But I’m nervous. I’ve never had sex, and now I’m wondering how having a vaginal cuff and endometriosis might affect things. I’m scared it could be painful or that something could go wrong. I know I’ll need someone who’s patient and willing to take things slowly.
I’m also not sure how to explain all of this to a man without scaring him off. How do you casually tell someone you’re a virgin, you’ve had a hysterectomy, and sex might be painful? 😅 I don’t want to make it into this huge thing, but I also don’t want to pretend my circumstances are different than they are.
And then there’s the infertility part. Having my hysterectomy and losing the ability to carry my own children has been absolutely devastating. It’s something I’m still grieving, and I’m terrified of having to tell someone I’m dating that I won’t be able to give him biological children together in the traditional sense. I know having children is a dealbreaker for some men, and I completely understand that, but the thought of someone walking away because of something I never chose really hurts.
I want to be upfront about it because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time, including my own. But I also don’t feel like I should have to tell someone my entire medical history before they’ve even gotten to know me.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation. What was sex like after your hysterectomy, especially if you have endometriosis or a vaginal cuff? How did you explain everything to your partner? And for those who were single when they had their hysterectomy, how did you navigate dating and telling someone you couldn’t have children?
I want to believe I can still have a normal relationship, fall in love, and have a fulfilling sex life. I’m just scared that everything I’ve been through is going to make finding that harder than it already is.
Any advice or personal experiences would mean a lot. ❤️

Hi! I was talking about smut with my bf and realized we have different attitudes to it. I treat it like a low effort thing and am too lazy to read a full book. I’ve read mostly blogposts (I love girlonthenet!!) with the explicit intention of getting horny and getting off relatively quickly. I get annoyed with flowery language.

He enjoys the world building and gets aroused but he doesn’t get off to it, it’s like a tease. On the whole he enjoys written smut a LOT more than I do.

Do you ladies enjoy just reading without any stimulation? Or do you get off while reading?

I grew up very religious woman and never even touched my self until 2 years ago when my sex drive got to be alot so maybe 1 or a few times I month I have to help myself out. I am interested in dating men and I feel like such a fake adult. I get anxiety thinking of any physical intimacy and I used to disassociate on dates completely until recently. I don't feel I know alot about my intimate parts because I ignored them for so long. How do I prepare to date and possibly have my first time? It is something I am open to in theory but nervous about the logistics, or "if I'm normal down there" etc. ..I have been seeing an OBGYN as regularly as I should even though I hadn't been sexually active.

Hello! idk if this is the right place I should ask this so sorry in advance. Im 19 and recently when I try to finish with my partner it hasn’t been happening. I have sexual trauma so alot of the time I let my partner finish first and then I go second (idk why but me finishing first reminds me of my past). With that being said, I also typically finish myself while I have my partner help in other ways (fingering, dirty talking, teasing, etc), I prefer it this way idk why. Normally, me finishing comes by pretty quickly. Theres always forplay and I do genuinely enjoy the intimacy, so I’m not understanding why I’m having a hard time? It will be there for a second and then go away randomly. I’m not rlly distracted, I NEVER masterbait unless I’m with my partner (idk im not rlly in a sexual mood outside of being around him), and I’m not on any medication other than birth control. Has anyone else had this problem before??

Have any of you had a mfm?

im a woman and i've always been wanting to have an mfm or even two boyfriends. I like the idea of being so good that I can please 2 men at once while they praise and worship me. I've gotten close to having a mfm, but it doesn't work out because of trave/they back out/they make me feel like a whore (in a degrading way. big praise kink here lol.) I live in a somewhat small town and there arent many bisexual men here. I typically go to the town 40 mins away whenever I try to make it happen since I don't wanna end up being posted on the city group gossip Facebook.

im looking on advice advice but it's also nice to just share one of my biggest fantasies.

I'm maxed out around 3