r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/Buzz_Mcfly 3h ago

Yep, sometimes my kids don’t want to hug my father in law and he said “awe but now you are making grandpa sad “. Without skipping a beat my wife said “well Grandpa is a grown adult responsible for managing his own feelings and kids arnt obliged to make him feel better”….. he didn’t know what to say, and I was so proud of my wife.

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u/saragIsMe 2h ago

I wish I had an adult who said that to the adults in my life as a child. Good for your wife, keep protecting your kids

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u/saelwen89 2h ago

100%. I was raised in a very children must obey adults household and it directly led to me feeling like I couldn’t say no or speak up during my own abuse. Children need to be taught this

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u/LilMissy1246 1h ago

Exactly. My father doesn’t understand that consent doesn’t even have to be sexual or physical. If he makes a joke I find offensive (ie anti-trans jokes or racist comments about immigrants) he’ll get defensive and say that “It was a joke, calm down.” Or if he makes a noise that annoys me or he’s being loud, he gets angry and says, “It’s my house. I can do xxx whenever I feel like it.” And as someone that was bullied a lot in school and verbally abused by a sped teacher in grade school, it really bothers me that even as an adult, I can’t even speak up for myself in my own home…it seriously upsets me.