r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/WingDairu 4h ago

This thread is full of people who really don't understand the point:

It's not telling you grandparent hugs are bad. It's telling you that ignoring other people's boundaries REGARDING THEIR OWN PHYSICAL BODY is bad.

This is especially important with kids, because it's important to teach kids that they're allowed to exercise bodily autonomy. If kids aren't taught that, it becomes far easier for someone to take advantage of them being trained to allow touching they don't want because they feel like they have to.

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u/Buzz_Mcfly 3h ago

Yep, sometimes my kids don’t want to hug my father in law and he said “awe but now you are making grandpa sad “. Without skipping a beat my wife said “well Grandpa is a grown adult responsible for managing his own feelings and kids arnt obliged to make him feel better”….. he didn’t know what to say, and I was so proud of my wife.

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u/saragIsMe 2h ago

I wish I had an adult who said that to the adults in my life as a child. Good for your wife, keep protecting your kids

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u/saelwen89 2h ago

100%. I was raised in a very children must obey adults household and it directly led to me feeling like I couldn’t say no or speak up during my own abuse. Children need to be taught this

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u/LilMissy1246 1h ago

Exactly. My father doesn’t understand that consent doesn’t even have to be sexual or physical. If he makes a joke I find offensive (ie anti-trans jokes or racist comments about immigrants) he’ll get defensive and say that “It was a joke, calm down.” Or if he makes a noise that annoys me or he’s being loud, he gets angry and says, “It’s my house. I can do xxx whenever I feel like it.” And as someone that was bullied a lot in school and verbally abused by a sped teacher in grade school, it really bothers me that even as an adult, I can’t even speak up for myself in my own home…it seriously upsets me.