r/AskReddit • u/Sukhsagagaming • 9h ago
What harmless thing instantly makes you think, "I don't trust this person"?
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u/softlavander 8h ago
Anyone who says “I’m brutally honest” like it’s something to be proud of
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u/Scr4p 8h ago
Those people tend to care more about the brutal part than the honest part. It's so often just a synonym for "I'm going to be an asshole and I'm going to act like it's a good thing"
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u/fjrka 7h ago
Also known as “Sure I’m an asshole, but at least I never own it or apologize!😂
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u/jonathan_santos359 4h ago
A good test is whether they accept that same "brutal honesty" from other people. If not, it's just a one-way pass to be rude.
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u/wizardvictor 5h ago
Anytime somebody says that, just tell them that’s a symptom of autism and see how they react.
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u/MustGoOutside 5h ago
Ironically they almost never react well when somebody is brutally honest with them.
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u/_Handsome_Jim_ 4h ago
People only say that when they're about to say something mean.
And they certainly don't believe in brutal honesty when it comes to them.
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u/Inevitable_Emu_7424 4h ago
Nothing bad about being honest as long as manners are maintained and it's not aimed to hurt another human. Honesty, yes but with a tint of diplomacy.
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u/Honest_Aardvark3908 8h ago
Back when I used to live in the ghetto people would act really friendly and act really nice to you before they attacked you and that's one of the things that sets me off. Like oh hey dude like I'm okay I'm not a bad guy I'm not going to hurt you and then bam that's when they start swinging on you or something. So like one thing that really catches me off guard makes me think of persons no good as like when they are seeming like they're nicer and trying to assure you that they are nice even though you never really said they aren't nice and like that's that s*** you got to run away from
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u/OntLawyer 8h ago
What really is the tip-off is when they start repeating themselves. Like if you hear "I'm not a bad guy I'm not going to hurt you" repeated twice or three times, you've got to get out. That's the frontal cortex losing control to the limbic system.
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u/bakedlayz 3h ago
Omg they're trying to convince themselves they're a good guy while they disassociate into their other personality....
Thanks for this pro tip
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u/pennywhistlesmoonpie 2h ago
Yes!! Check out The Gift of Fear. It’s absolutely outstanding. He talks about this exact type of thing predators do that comes off as being friendly, but is a giant, glaring red flag. Example: Someone offers to help you carry your grocery bags upstairs and promises out of nowhere that they’re a good guy. Like…why would you say that? An actual good guy would just carry the damn bag or not even offer help that wasn’t wanted in the first place!!
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u/Its_Pine 1h ago
This is all fascinating to read through. As a gay guy that women seem to immediately clock and are comfortable around, I’ve never even THOUGHT to tell someone they can trust me or I’m a good guy. I’m usually just like “oh damn lemme help you with that” and then they say thanks and I go on my merry way.
I’m trying to picture how I’d react if someone kept saying they’re a nice person, I think I’d be naive and take that as a cue to reassure them or ask if they’re alright.
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u/Salmonfreaky 6h ago
This checks out because I’m not from, nor have ever lived in, the hood/ghetto but have a lot of extended family that are. They are so suspicious of kindness and always thinking I mean something else or have some weird ulterior motive by just…being myself (someone that values kindness and respect). I’ve always known it was merely projection while also understanding that this is how people raised on survival/constantly in survival mode operate.
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u/Superb-Salad6323 2h ago
I was walking around in NYC when a tourist approached me with a smile to ask for directions. My first thought was this guy is either going to mug me or scam me because that was my experience growing up in a really shitty neighborhood. People there didn't smile or ask strangers for help without an ulterior motive, plus it seemed shady that the guy didn't just use his phone to look up directions. Turns out he was harmless and my friend later told me I was being paranoid, but people with the same lived experience as me will get why I reacted the way that I did.
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u/RumHamComesback 3h ago
It's a street smart to know that someone that acts like they are your best friend and been looking all over for you is a red flag. Just basic courtesy and etiquette shouldn't be triggering but I understand.
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u/ProbablyNothingx 4h ago
I’m becoming like this and I can’t tell if I’m being paranoid or wise. Anyone who is too friendly too fast sets off alarms for me and I start inventing brothers who are cops who live in the house with me and my very large, unhinged pitbulls.
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u/buttercreamarray 9h ago
Considering everyone else the asshole for pointing out their bullshit. Definition of weakness.
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u/TheGreatMalagan 8h ago
A malicious sense of humor.
Like, laughing about a stranger's misfortune. For instance, a school buddy of mine laughed a person arrived slightly too late to catch the bus and therefore missed it. He found that amusing, but what's amusing about that? All that happened was that some guy's day got a little worse.
Some people seem to just enjoy when bad things happen to people they don't know.
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u/Suitable_cataclysm 7h ago
I'm this same vein, comedy that is centered around laughing at someone's awkwardness or misfortune. (prank tiktoks etc)
I've been told I don't have a sense of humor, simply I don't find humiliation funny.
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u/CAK3SPID3R 6h ago
Pranks are only funny if they confuse but don't harm anyone.
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u/Suitable_cataclysm 6h ago
And after that confusion resolves, if both people aren't laughing then it's just bullying
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u/JumboDakotaSmoke 8h ago
Someone getting left behind by a cruise ship because they are IMPORTANT and thought the ship would wait? Hilarious. Someone having a rough day and missing the bus or train? Not funny.
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u/Its_Pine 1h ago
I think this is where it falls into the spectrum of schadenfreude and seeing someone get their comeuppance vs someone just having a bad time.
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u/d_inthe_wilderness 3h ago
This one. And you can figure it out at a young age too. A lot of the guys that use to make those terribly unfunny dead baby jokes always ended up being scumbags from my school. Also, the guys that would make the “if there’s grass on the field it’s fair game.” Always thought that kind of humor was weird af
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u/TheGreatMalagan 2h ago
A lot of the guys that use to make those terribly unfunny dead baby jokes always ended up being scumbags from my school.
Oh, I always found this fact so weird too! As you rightly point out, the guys making those jokes invariably turned out to be scumbags from your school, so I'd be left wondering what on Earth they were doing all the way over here? We're hundreds if not thousands of miles away from your school!
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u/KoriSamui 7h ago
I think there's value in finding sad situations a little amusing. Makes life more tolerable. You can be sad and amused at the same time. Like "haha that happened to me too the other day."
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u/Inevitable_Emu_7424 4h ago
Some people seem to be so disappointed with their own life that they find pleasure in others failing, this only means how little the person is :/
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u/pmIfNeedOrWantToTalk 4h ago
Reminds me of my first love. She was fun, funny, and relatively smart.
One day I was walking her to her bus stop in the middle of the night when we saw a couple across the street having some sort of argument. Guy got in his car and sped off as his girl ran crying after him until she tripped and fell.
Just so happens this woman was a bit overweight and had large breasts that really bounced as she ran. My girl started cracking up and laughing because, "Did you see how her titties slapped her in the face?!?"
We were both young, but it was probably the first and only time I was incredibly annoyed at her after making such a shitty remark.
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u/CrowMeris 6h ago
Someone who uses my name more than once in conversation. This creeps me out.
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u/Loud-Background-2204 6h ago
Yes, that's true... It's like they have watched some stupid course on how to treat people, especially in business... For me it's just creepy.
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u/julcarls 5h ago
Loud-Background-2204, unfortunately I am terrible at remembering names, so repeat and use their name several times so I don't look silly later. I hope that makes sense, Loud-Background-2204
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u/Loud-Background-2204 5h ago
You choose to look silly right away in order to not look silly later 🤣
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u/keithstonee 5h ago
At my last job I could tell my boss took business classes on how to manage or lead or some shit. And they just basically did it by the book and it was super obvious to me. It killed me cause it just made everything feel disingenuous.
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u/soleilchasseur 5h ago
Supposedly that’s a business tactic taught because “everyone’s favorite thing to hear is their own name” 🙄🙄🙄 I haaaaaate it.
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u/simplemijnds 4h ago
I experience that a lot in the retirement home where my mother lives: the way the scolding nurses (the upper level) adress me in a scolding way. To enhance the scolding effect and to show maybe that they are in charge, not me, to show me my place, they repeat my surname like 3 times per sentence. Same way as they are talking to the dement inhabitants of theirs.
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u/starryvelvetsky 5h ago
I recognize a sales technique when I hear one. Been through the training.
I hate doing it, and I hate being targeted by it.
Fuck sales.
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u/4ngelsh4rk 5h ago
Yep, I've been told to do that to make people feel connected with me. Makes me squirm too. I work a fast paced corporate job so in my personal life I honestly like for people to not directly address me at all.
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u/CLE-Mosh 3h ago
yeh, the "Dont take no for an answer" personality. Uhm, NO and STFU...
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u/CAK3SPID3R 6h ago
Sometimes I do this to remember a name, but usually only at the beginning and end of the convo.
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u/butchudidit 5h ago
Lol i work in an ER and everyone that i dont know knows my name… im very quiet and keep to myself and work. Ive never introduced myself to any of those ppl. They must be talking hella shit
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u/keithstonee 5h ago
I refuse to ever use someone's name unless a absolutely necessary. Fascinating. I even call my cat cat and my dog dog and they do have real names.
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u/Desert-sea-sparkle 8h ago
The way they talk about people behind their back. The way they treat animals. The way they treat anybody who would be be lesser in their eyes. If they put the shopping cart back. Not necessarily political views but the amount of value they put on life in general.
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u/Milyaism 7h ago
I've become more and more vary of men who talk nicely about women they like, but talk badly about women they dislike.
Especially if these women are older and/or overweight, or they happened to disagree with him on something.
It is such a red flag for a misogynistic mentality.
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u/Salmonfreaky 6h ago
YES. Any man that puts women in categories is guaranteed to be a misogynist. Same goes for men that struggle with the Madonna-whore complex.
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u/sexyhands12 8h ago
Someone who has something bad to say about everyone. Don’t think you’re the exception
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u/FoolzInTheRain 8h ago
The way they talk about other people.
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u/alexplex86 8h ago edited 6h ago
I have a colleague who always complains about how stupid everyone else is and somehow they're still one of the most popular people in our office. It drives me nuts.
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u/smallwonder25 6h ago
For some reason, people love to be told other people are stupid to give them validation. It makes them feel like the person “telling them” gives more value to them and their opinion.
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u/alexplex86 6h ago
Yeah, they actually made me feel that way too, to be honest. But then I looked at the situation from outside, and thought, yeah... they're probably saying the exact same thing about me to others.
But then I have another colleague who's the exact opposite. Always positive and thinking the best of others. I enjoy their company much more.
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u/Salmonfreaky 6h ago
Meanwhile their stupid asses are too stupid to realize the same person is likely calling them stupid (or whatever insult fits) behind their back, too. SMH
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u/No_Use7920 9h ago
they are constantly complaining behind people's backs and are always nice to their face.
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u/GasStationTiefling 4h ago
When someone says they’re a Christian. Listen, I know there are good Christians. But I also know there are bad ones. And more often than not, the ones who have to vocalize that they’re religious soon after meeting you, those are the bad ones.
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u/Its_Pine 2h ago
This for sure. If they open with being Christian or try to make that their identity at the get go, I know it means that I wouldn’t have deduced anything Christlike from their behaviour and they had to say it instead.
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u/Switchbladekitten 2h ago
This is also a red flag to me. Like you said, there are good Christians. But it seems like the loudest ones are the worst kind of people.
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u/TheRealGongoozler 1h ago
Grew up church of Christ and knew something was amiss from a young age. I still have a visceral response to someone talking about Christianity in front of me
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u/zelda_reincarnated 2h ago
Ooh this is a good one! I'm atheist but I was surprised when talking to a (very christian) coworker who said businesses advertising as being Christian seemed untrustworthy. I just assumed it was like, advertising shorthand, like "oh, I'll use Christian roof repair bc they're my people and I want to give my people my money!" But his take was very "if you're telling me, I don't believe you".
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u/JumpingThruHoopz 8h ago
Excessive, obvious Christianity.
Right-wing bumper stickers or items of apparel.
Frat boy vibe.
Extreme conformity with whoever is the most popular (or whoever has the most social power.)
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u/2KneeCaps1Lion 6h ago
I was behind a car the other day that had both a Trump/Vance 2024 sticker and a “Make Art, Not War” sticker and was extremely confused.
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u/something_nauseous 5h ago
The whole thing was a performance piece with the Trump/Vance sticker designed to lure people who agree into a false sense of security only to hit them with "Make Art, Not War" inflicting a form of psychological warefare.
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u/General-Young-206 8h ago
Obvious Christianity 😂 love it
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u/GoldenRamoth 7h ago
Religion is like a penis:
If you have one, great! Enjoy it on your own time.
But if you're whipping it out in public and trying to shove it down people's throats - we've got a you problem.
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u/Shadowhawk0000 5h ago
How they treat animals. Makes me judge them right away.
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u/Nearby-Line-8020 4h ago
I once went on a date with someone who walked me back to my apartment building wanting to meet my dog. Then proceeded to show me how to discipline her and make her listen to me and started to drag her aggressively. I got scared, grabbed the leash and went back into the building, it was the first and the last time I ever saw him
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u/Forsoul 3h ago
So I know most people dont like spiders. But there have been two separate occasions where I have seen someone sloooooowly kill a basic house spider. And something about that just rubs me the wrong way.
Coincidentally, both people were "emotionally unavailable" due to coming out of relationships at the time they did it. Maybe I am reading into it too much, but it just seemed like such a huge metaphor for how they would treat another person if they were to jump into a new relationship.
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u/Pebblestone_97 7h ago
When people go from 0-100 for any & everything. Thats the kind of person that would put you in dangerous situations.
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u/Present_Teacher7966 6h ago
They make contact when they need something, whether that is financial, materialistic or emotionally. Quickly see how they are not there when it is time to reciprocate
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u/TurquoiseLady 3h ago
When someone is extremely charming right off the bat when you first meet them. I had an Uncle who was a sociopath and I can now spot it a mile away.
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u/Suitable_cataclysm 7h ago
If they are dropping off a friend and don't wait for them to get into the building before pulling away.
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u/VashetsWhistlingDog 6h ago
When someone says "I'm an empath".
Nope, nope, nope!
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u/Cyclibant 5h ago
That has become the most tofu word ever. Basically it's been watered down to "feeling things about things."
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u/SGT-JamesonBushmill 9h ago
An outrageously over-the-top, long, bone-crushing, hand shake, as if they’re trying to assert their dominance.
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u/WillingnessOne2462 3h ago
People who don't flush or clean the fuckin toilet seat before leaving the stall.
Like were you raised by dogs?
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u/theHBICvolkanator 8h ago
Someone who says "everybody loves me"
Usually people who say this are the most annoying ones
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u/Clean_Recover_1211 8h ago
when they talk shit about their close friends. i understand when ppl upset you but constantly putting them down or saying oh they only look good bc they got lip filler is like?? isnt that ur cousin
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u/Both-Hawk-6521 9h ago
When they use phrases like "to be honest" or "trust me"
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u/icecriticsgetbanned 8h ago
I have found a lot of people who have english as there non-native language use "to be honest" as something akin to emphasis. It happens often with Europeans and Asians, in my experience.
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u/Defenestratio 8h ago
Is it not just used as emphasis? I've never prefaced a conversation with "to be honest" that I might have lied otherwise during. It's just flavor text, like "actually" or "you know what I think"
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u/ElectricMayhem06 7h ago
I just realized that I use "to be honest" as a filler phrase to give myself an extra second to organize the words that are about to come out.
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u/SirJean_0 8h ago
« Trust me » is kind of phrase where you shouldn’t trust this person but you’ll follow their lead and laugh of the trouble they brought
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u/grrrlgone 8h ago
Speaking in baby talk. Not only grosses me out but it’s a weird behavior I don’t trust.
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u/Mhc2617 8h ago
The way they “compliment” friends when those friends aren’t around.
I had a friend who was my biggest fan to my face, but when I got her a job in my company, too many people pointed out the second she was at a work event I wasn’t at, she would comment how everyone must be so shocked we were close friends because she’s so put together and mature and I’m just fun to be around. Afterwards, I started noticing how every comment about our friend group was backhanded. A friend from our hometown was so sweet and kind even if her taste in men wasn’t good and her husband was a workaholic. A coworker was so funny and she could see how men found her attractive because she had a cute face even though she was overweight. But every comment would go back to how she had it all together. When I cut her out of my life three years ago, I was shocked that every single one of my friends, no matter how long I’ve known them said “good, she’s a bitch.”
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u/MariaOfficialxo 4h ago
When someone tells me what's in my best interest but I barely know them. Not the naturally nice person feeling but more like they are driving my mind to a certain direction kinda feeling.
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u/Embarrassed_Tale_371 6h ago
Saying that you are goin to do something and then not doing it or even doing the completely oppisite
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u/RumHamComesback 3h ago
When their attitude towards you completely changes when other people are around. Especially if it's a different social circle.
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u/camilapetall 5h ago
When someone is unnecessarily rude to waiters or customer service workers. If you’re an asshole to people who can’t do anything for you, I assume you’ll eventually treat everyone the same way.
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u/Own-Emergency2166 8h ago
When they say something like “oh I LIKE you!” early on like I’ve been auditioning for their approval. It feels insincere and like they’re trying to quickly get me to like them back.
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u/Lionheart1224 8h ago
Treating service people like shit, but then turning around and treating me nicely.
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u/unoptimisticoptimist 8h ago
Someone who will gossip to me about someone, will most certainly gossip about me to someone else.
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u/Relative_Progress946 8h ago
Gossiping about another person or spilling another person's secret. If they are betraying others, then I fully expect them to betray me too and therefore I distrust them automatically.
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u/ivanasleep 6h ago
I catch them studying me in a group setting when they think I'm not paying attention. There's a certain focus to it that's well beyond a normal glance and not friendly.
Also shortening my name or using a nickname when I barely know them. It feels like an attempt to accelerate familiarity/trust.
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u/Longjumping-Depth-10 1h ago
I have a thing about people who call people nicknames quickly too! Massive red flag in my books. I knew someone who did it and she turned out to be a terrible, destructive, manipulative person. She got people onside quickly and then manipulated them to turn against other people. Gross. Other things she did: change her dress style to appear to be someone you had more in common with; acted protective and like she really had your back against all those bad people out there; she saw crime everywhere and was extremely suspicious of strangers (turns out it takes one to know one); master at triangulation; a lot of guilt tripping and other manipulative tactics.
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u/Tycoonmade1-1 9h ago
when someone says "trust me" right off the bat. like bro if you have to say it im instantly suspicious lmao
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u/curtiss_mac 8h ago edited 2h ago
If they tell me one thing and tell someone else something different, even a slim fraction different, I immedietly DONT trust them.
If they are THAT QUICK to make shit up, just think about how much of their character is actually fake.
AN EXAMPLE:
Bill comes to my office and says : " Ill handle that for you."
But then goes to Matts office and tells him : "She said she would handle it."
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u/natttsss 6h ago
As someone with a terrible memory this makes me laugh haha
You'd definitely think I'm a psycho then.
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u/Warm_Aspect_3206 7h ago
People that are adamant about adding people as friends and followers on social media when they literally just met. IDK why, it's just weird to me.
I have that issue with my wife. She thinks it's harmless and will literally add anybody that she interacts with in real life immediately. I personally don't like strangers seeing pictures of my kids and where we're going on vacation, but if I bring it up, I'm apparently just insecure and controlling.
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u/SwitchIndependent714 4h ago
When you can read underlying misogynistic, sexist, homophobic view in their behavior or what they say
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u/Damerize 5h ago
Inconsiderate banter or humor. Disregarding others for immoral ethics. Hierarchical tantalizing.
Be straight up. I don't trust you if you're not straight up.
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u/dooitfast 9h ago
not washing their hands when eating
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u/Trebuchet_boom 8h ago
tbf, most people don't wash their hands while eating.
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u/JunieBeanJones 7h ago
Nice nasty attitude. People usually don't hide it because they think there's nothing wrong with it.
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u/Medusaink3 4h ago
Not putting their grocery cart into the cart garage. Literally don't care about anyone but their lazy asses. Most of us have car payments along with regular household bills. To have someone smash their cart into something so expensive, is just a douchebag move. Self centred boogers.
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u/kcarnation 1h ago
When they have on their social media ‘mind your business’ or anything about unwanted opinions not allowed. Always always always a misogynist, male or female, that wants to perpetuate or profit from an ideal that is harmful like fitness/body image/ beauty and willing to receive 0 critique. Basically screaming ‘if you don’t agree with me you’re wrong because I refuse to self reflect’
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u/CapitalPassage9584 8h ago
when on the very first meet that person check u up and down with judgy eyes
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u/TheSoberSunflower 8h ago
They don’t look at me when talking to me or are always on their phone vs interacting with the people they are speaking with
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u/natttsss 2h ago
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u/Solmanti 8h ago
Couldn't say, because when I stop trusting a person then what they did was not harmless in my opinion
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u/TacoLocoConQueso 7h ago
People at work who wear sweatpants and a hoodie all day everyday, complain that it's hot in here all the time... and choose crank down the AC so everyone else suffers instead of just taking off their sweater. What are you hiding under there that you don't want anyone to see?
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u/Independent_Steak326 2h ago
People who are rude to waiters but incredibly nice to anyone they think is important. Tells you everything you need to know.
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u/SookHe 1h ago
People who say “I don’t read books”, like it is something to be proud of.
Doubly so if they say it’s because they don’t want to taint their personal view
Or people who claim not to watch tv or listen to the news news but will 100% regurgitate right wing political talking
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u/Switchbladekitten 2h ago
When they don’t read. What do you MEAN. You can listen to audiobooks to easily.
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u/Forgotenzepazzword 1h ago
One perspective: growing up, I was an avid reader. Always had a book, my mind in a fantasy world.
As an adult, I realized I was just dissociating from a really stressful childhood and had better mental health when I focused on the world around me rather than escaping it. I’m still a voracious learner, but reading novels is honestly a red flag for my mental health.
Not saying this applies to every reader, just wanted to share my experience.
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u/10MileHike 7h ago
People who put photos of their children up on FB and other social media.
NOT SAFE.
I wouldn't trust their judgement, that's for sure.
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u/chelicerate-claws 6h ago
People who put photos of their children on their dating profiles are especially HUGE flags of poor judgment.
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u/mearlpie 8h ago
Animals, 100% animals. If your dog/cat doesn’t like someone … get rid of that person.
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u/Zero187 8h ago
Pets can be poorly trained, and in that case, may not be a good judge of character. I've seen cats who were antisocial and extremely aggressive to strangers, as well as dogs that just bark non stop at a specific person in a group, for no apparent reason. Happened to me one time on a high school trip where a girl brought her Maltese, and the thing just kept barking at me the whole time. By the end of the trip, all the girls were convinced I was a bad person because of it. Ridiculous! Meanwhile I have a wonderful cat and dog of my own who are very well behaved.
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u/Veerya19 5h ago
idk about that the amount of dogs I have seen attack children or try to is ridiculous. I think if your pet does not like someone it is more likely that you yourself don't like someone and maybe don't realize it yet
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u/Narwalacorn 8h ago
It’s a little silly to drop a person just because your cat doesn’t like them. It may literally be because they smell like another cat or something. Caution is one thing, blind trust of your pet’s judgement is another entirely.
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u/NawfSideNative 7h ago
Used to have to discipline my dog for trying to eat his own shit. Love him dearly but don’t exactly trust his judgement on most things.
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u/punktualPorcupine 8h ago
That could also be a sign that the animal is abused or there are hostile people in its life.
When I was growing up we had a lovable derpy lab that was friendly and sociable with everyone but old bald guys. We had an old bald neighbor that would throw rocks into our yard and yell at our dog to get her to go inside. He really didn’t things moving past our shared fence and she would try to patrol the perimeter.
She was never aggressive and barely made noise, but she was terrified of him and anyone that looked like him but she was brave enough to keep patrolling. I think part of him just liked causing misery and terrorizing animals.
As a result she wouldn’t approach old bald guys. She would just “hrrumph” walk away and lay down where she could keep an eye on them.
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u/HowYouSeeMe 8h ago
That's funny, because my harmless thing that makes me immediately distrust someone is when they delusionally think their animals have some deep insight into a stranger's character.
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u/DisastrousCopy996 8h ago
Co-workers who will ignore you when they randomly see you on the street instead nodding or simply saying hello.
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u/jasames7 8h ago
Not making eye contact. If they don’t read and are not interested in learning.
If they believe in conspiracy theories and fall prey to disinformation. If they don’t care about the wellbeing of others
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u/Point4ska 4h ago
Lack of eye contact is extremely common with neuro divergent people, especially those that otherwise pass as neurotypical.
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u/CheekyAzureDragon 8h ago
When they talk badly about someone else behind their back in a way that they couldn’t say directly to their face.
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u/ImprovementFar5054 6h ago edited 6h ago
They ask leading questions. It's manipulative and an instant red flag.
Where are you trying to lead me, and why are you insulting my intelligence?
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u/Funny_Safe_6993 4h ago
When you mention anything, they have to tell you a story about themselves, in relation to something you said. I always forget what I was even going to say and just drop it.
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u/Proper-Astronaut-164 4h ago
Talking bad about their “best friend” like not talking about actions that upset them but like just trashing them, making fun etc. yuck!
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u/Life_as_a_new_weeb 4h ago
An untrained/average man thinking they can beat a professional woman at a sport.
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u/caoilinstudio 9h ago
If nothing is their fault