Nah I get it now. I used to roll my eyes with him constantly pursuing her after what sheās done, but I get it. Heās trauma bonded. Sheās so clearly a narcissist and I KNOW she love bombed the fuck out of him in the beginning. Made him feel and believe she was the love of his life. Clearly he canāt heal or get over that. Then they got kids together so it makes it that much harder. Heās trying to rekindle something that can never be re-lit. Itās just sad cause she doesnāt give a fuck about him. Just the attention and adoration he gives her. But a narc gotta get their supply! Tragic.
Also he was raised in a home with domestic violence. Because he's a man and men victims are often forgotten when there is talk about intimate partner violence and its many forms he doesnt realize he's repeated a pattern and he's the victim. The way women perpetrators do IPV is not often talked about so he probably doesnt realize. Edited: to be more clear.
I think you hit the head of the nail. When you watch the infamous slap video, you will see Will laughing at the joke. He thought it was funny, but Jada does not find it funny. I can just imagine her giving him "the look" which made him feel like he needed to do something. Unfortunately the camera cuts away.
I think calling people a narcissist is over used these days but that being said, youāre spot on.
I remember at one point they said their motto was something like āmiserable together foreverā and she was laughing and Will looked like he was about to cry.
Yeah. I dated a narc without knowing and she destroyed me. I happened to come across it and began to learn what it was. Once I did, my eyes were open. Not only was I able to heal, I got my closure because suddenly everything that she did made sense. And now I can recognize it almost immediately. They all follow the same patterns and do pretty much the same shit. Of course there are a few differences between male and female narcs, covert and overt. But yeah, plenty use it willy nilly.
Dude the open relationship wasnāt his idea. I have a homie and itās the same. You can see how broken he is over it. But heās in love and thinks sheās the only woman for him. Itās sad.
I GUARANTEE you that wasnāt his idea or what he wanted. It was def her idea and the stipulations were probably either the relationship was open, or she wouldnāt be with him. Heās in love so he accepted. Itās sad.
Yeeeaaaahh, you know they donāt have to say āI love youā to love bomb you right? She also said that 3 years ago, way after everything sheās done to Will. Iām sure sheās discarded him, Iām sure sheās given him the silent treatment. And her saying that out loud was either to hurt him, or she wasnāt even thinking about how he may feel because she doesnāt give a fuck.
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u/The-Black-Swordsmane 6h ago
Nah I get it now. I used to roll my eyes with him constantly pursuing her after what sheās done, but I get it. Heās trauma bonded. Sheās so clearly a narcissist and I KNOW she love bombed the fuck out of him in the beginning. Made him feel and believe she was the love of his life. Clearly he canāt heal or get over that. Then they got kids together so it makes it that much harder. Heās trying to rekindle something that can never be re-lit. Itās just sad cause she doesnāt give a fuck about him. Just the attention and adoration he gives her. But a narc gotta get their supply! Tragic.