r/R4R30Plus • • 15m ago

[M4F] 33M, Filo based in NY

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Not too long ago I decided to move half-way around the world so that I can push myself to change and adapt. A place where in I had no family or friends who can support me. A place where I didn’t know a single soul. Since then I’ve built a career I’m proud of. I’m a proud home-owner and I’ve invested in myself long enough to achieve things I never thought possible I can do alone. It’s fair to say I became used to being alone which is kinda scary because I was always comfortable being around a crowd I call “my circle”.

I’m drawn to people who are kind, humble and honest. People who are weird but have a sense of responsibility, goal oriented and interesting enough to humor me once in a while.

Enough about me tho, come say hi and tell me about yourself! Maybe I can find someone cute to come home to after a tiring day at work and ask, what’s for dinner? Bonus if you are blonde and have cute dimples, paired with a contagious smile. 😏


r/R4R30Plus • • 27m ago

[M4F] looking for conversations

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Im in the Maine to Atlantic Canada area. Not looking to meet up or for anything special. Just someone willing to have real conversations. Let me listen. Give you my opinion whether it be good or bad. Try to be a friend. I won't judge you if you don't judge me.


r/R4R30Plus • • 50m ago

37 [M4F] single dad in central Ohio looking for my forever person with that obsessive clingy energy

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Im a single dad of 2 looking for my forever person I love cooking gaming watching anime and lately have gotten back into MTG. I want someone who I can be obsessed with who doesn’t mind me wanting to spend all of my time with them and who wants to spend all of their time with me. Im looking for a relationship with commitment one that leads to marriage and a child of our own some time down the line, family is very important to me. I don’t really care about an age difference as long as we want the same things and are willing to commit to them. Any other questions ask, im an open book hopefully I hear from my person soon


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

31 [F4M] | TO - Canada

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Looking for people to talk to throughout the day and have some good conversations with. Currently unemployed and dealing with the mental load that comes with it, so it'd be nice to have some company, get out of my own head, and have people to chat with about whatever.

I'm down for conversations about life, random thoughts, hobbies, or just how your day is going. Bonus points if you're also looking for someone to talk to regularly rather than just a one-off conversation.

*Not looking to meetup


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

40 [M4F] Oregon/Online - Seeking a remote work girlfriend

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40, Portland, OR, WFH in tech. The job is fine. The house is quiet. By 2pm I’ve already had entire conversations with the microwave and given two of the plants names they did not ask for.

Looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth. Bonus points if you also work in tech.

I’m on X more than I should be. I listen to the Red Scare podcast, Anna and Dasha. The Perfume Nationalist. Rare Candy. If you’ve been in that orbit, we will probably get along.

I’m not trying to make this a whole production. I like talking to someone who’s sharp and doesn’t take herself too seriously. If you can make a Wednesday afternoon interesting, that’s pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you’re avoiding at work or home right now. I’ll tell you about the latest meeting I keep postponing.


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

36 [F4R] Seeking connection

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I’m in Indiana, it’d be cool if you were close by. I have a pretty flexible job and can spend a good portion of my day chatting.

I do like to occasionally voice chat provided the banter is good.

Down to share bits of our day, pictures and videos, whatever.


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

46 [M4F] California/Online - Seeking Connection with Depth and Excitement - Voice call

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I'm a grounded, emotionally intelligent man, looking to find a fun and genuine connection. Let's start with good conversation and see where the chemistry leads.

I have a playful sense of humor, and enjoy conversations where you can joke And get deep.

So let's laugh about the comically violent inter-species brawl your cat got into today, or if we want to get reflective let's talk about the last great book you read, or the majestic bit of nature you saw on your recent hike.

I'm an educated professional, with eclectic hobbies from creative writing to meditation, so i'm up for a wide-ranging conversation.

I enjoy voice calls and have been told I have a calm and soothing voice.

I’m looking to connect with someone who:
-is warm and kind.
-appreciates chemistry with depth, and a bit of edge.

I'm 5'11, broad shoulders, athletic, in shape. Very open minded when it comes to intimate matters.

If you reach out please share a little about yourself, including your age and location. I would like to connect over voice calls, but we can text a bit first.

Looking forward to connecting!


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

34 [R4R] Canadian ..Where are my elder emos at?

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Do you remember the last time you felt your heart race when a message came through? Let's be that for each other.

Looking for mutual attraction so please be willing to send pics early!


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

32 [M4F] #Michigan #Online — Looking for serious, long-term, and no children (now or in the future)

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https://imgur.com/a/PaqL3AG

I'm looking for my best friend and life partner, but I'm happy moving at your pace. Your comfort is very important to me. I think I'm quite open-minded and chill overall. Touch and quality time are my biggest love languages. Possibly a bit clingy.

🍃420-friendly but not a stoner.

💯% authentic and non-nonchalant.

🧍🏻‍♂️6'3"/190cm for those who care.

♾️ Neurodivergent (autism/ADHD)

My biggest interests are history and '70s-'80s music. I play games on PC and would love someone to play with as well. I like a lot of different "types", so just because I don't have a bunch of cool tattoos doesn't mean I won't like yours, for example.

Some other tidbits: I'm an atheist and tend to align social-democratic politically, but you don't have to be the same, because we're adults and can respect that we may have different beliefs but the same basic values. I'm not a macho guy, but I don't think I'm feminine either. My mom thinks I'm funny and maybe you will too. Are you calling my mom a liar? 🤨

Thanks for reading! ~~Operators are~~ ^I'm standing by to take your ~~call~~ ^DMs !


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

39[F4M]#SF Bay Are— I still believe good conversations can lead somewhere

8 Upvotes

I believe a great connection can start with a simple conversation. I enjoy the little things—good conversations, silly laughs, and sharing the things we love

I'm looking for someone kind, respectful, and emotionally mature. No pressure, just two people getting to know each other and seeing where week


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

39 [F4M] #East Coast NYC USA looking for love

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I am looking to settle down with someone. Travel, gym, go for walks hold hands and tell each other about our days!! I’m tall and blonde and curvy.

Been told I have a dazzling personality…


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

35 [M4F] #Louisiana / US - Alt/nerd seeks genuine connection.

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I'm a quiet, private guy and I keep to myself until I get to know someone. I value upfront honesty and people who are comfortable being themselves. Most of my time goes into gaming, learning new crafts, reading, binging a series, or -doomscrolling-.

I'll take sporadic trips to nearby places I haven't eaten at yet when I don't feel like cooking and walk a few laps at a local park when I'm able.

I'm wired a bit differently and navigate the world with a neurodivergent mindset (ennui, choice paralysis, executivedysfunction), which means my attention and energy can fluctuate, but I'm always focused on my own growth and discipline. Just as well as my title implied I am a bit of an alt nerd with my style; a few piercings and tattoos and black nails. (Often mistaken for not presenting as straight and I find that funny.)

I'm looking for a serious, *strictly monogamous* relationship where we can just be completely transparent with each other.

A woman that is familiar with or at least willing to learn about *AuDHD*.

I'm *heavily* *introverted*, so an adoptive extrovert would be much appreciated.

The fuzzy dad-bod is here to stay.

I'm looking for someone who balances me out, and I often find myself most drawn to women from diverse cultural backgrounds. I really appreciate a partner who has a more assertive, protective, or nurturing presence that makes it easy for me to drop my walls and relax. I feel it should be effortless for someone to let themselves be vulnerable with someone else, I try to be as approachable myself. Witty banter, being more expressive and direct, attempts to relate or to be inclusive are easy brownie points for the taking! (Which, the closer you are the better.)

I feel like I gave enough to talk about though, so I look forward to hearing from you! ☺️


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

35 [f4r] Looking for Friends in TX or Online

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Hey. To repeat the title, I’m in Texas and looking for friends. You don’t have to be local, but similar time zones are helpful.

I tend to get along with people closer to my age. (35-40ish).

If you want to chat and make a new friend, send a chat request and tell me a little about you. 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

34 [M4F] #Ontario - Nerdy Sasquatch Seeks Powerful Woman

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Hello! My name is Kevin, and I am the embodiment of ‘The Bear.’ I’m big, hairy, and unintentionally loud. I’m hangry in the mornings and a cuddle powerhouse in the afternoon. I may look intimidating, but I’m actually a big softy on the inside. I give the best hugs, but you’ll need to ask first to get one. Sudden noises startle me. I don’t like confrontation, but come after my people and I’m a force of nature. Napping is a top five favourite activity. Feed me and I’m loyal to you forever. Back scratches are accepted currency in my life. I have experienced the many flavors of abuse and trauma, and would rather die than have someone in my life go through similar experiences unsupported. I am fiercely protective of those in my circle!

I give off real “That is the nerdiest lumberjack I’ve ever seen” vibes. That, or I reignite belief in cryptids like Sasquatch & Bigfoot. It is what it is, hence the bear metaphor fitting nicely. I’m 6’4” and have a pretty well developed dad bod. I’d much rather be cold than hot, so bring on the winter weather! I am also the kind of guy to interrupt whatever conversation we may be having to point out any dogs in the area, even if I am more of a cat dad. 

This hairy goof is looking for a lovely woman to connect with, be it over the internet or in person. Long chats into the early morning hours, movie nights, fun outings, trying new restaurants or recipes, I’m all in. Let’s get cozy cuddling under some blankets or playing some games online and see where things go?

I’m not looking to rush into anything, but I am yearning for that deeper connection and intimacy that comes with trust, familiarity, and vulnerability. I crave movie and board game nights, or days spent exploring new neighborhoods and cuisines. I believe in a healthy mix of time spent together and apart, and that we should both be complete people looking to enhance each other’s lives. I’m ready! Hopefully you are too!

I’m a simple, easy to please man at heart. Food, animals, movies, and a board game are the way to my everlasting love. I am a big time history and sci-fi nerd.  I was raised by a single mom and have a deep respect for strong women, which I also attribute to my love of characters such as Sarah Connor, Ellen Ripley, & Xena. This combined with such figures as Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross, & Steve Irwing gave me a pretty well rounded outlook. You could say I was radicalized by basic human decency. 

As for some other interests I volunteer with local animal rescues in several capacities, and I am also getting involved with the local hospital’s library program. If you want cute cat pictures, I’m your man! I run an active tabletop gaming group every Sunday. I’m the kind of nerd that builds and paints models to escape from the world for a while. 

I am very left leaning politically and do not tolerate any forms of bigotry. I do not smoke and very rarely drink, but I do love my baked goods a little too much. I do not have nor want any children of my own. My ambitions are humble but deeply personal; give me a small house, a loving partner, and some rescue animals and I’m more than happy with life! 


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

31 [M4F] #McAllen, TX- Looking for my taco eating, horchata drinking soulmate

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Hey, Hi, and Hola; Well to start off with Latino here (morenito), 5'8, kind of slim dad bod, 210 lbs (but not fat looking I guess super dense.) I got lots of things that I like from nerdy to geeky, photography, working out, anime, and video games. I have a healthy relationship with my hobbies and likes so you won't catch me gaming 24/7, nor a total gym rat. Only thing to worry about is that I am more addicted to being in bed and rotting. Little more likes are the beach, going out to new places to eat, hanging out with my friend when I can, and love being with my orange cat.

I am looking for someone nearby (RGV preferably) or can go to Corpus or San Antonio (making the effort to see you)

I am catholic but not hardcore religious just, Catholic in respect to my late father. So religion does play a minor part in my life but doesn't dictate the way I live my life ultimately.

I have no kids, but would love a child in the future (one or two.) Hopefully you would like 1 or 2 but no more than that.

As for my character I consider myself loving, easy going, respectful, shy and awkward at times. (you can ask me more about me lol couldn't think of much when writing this)

As for what I am looking for someone that's friendly and also easy going, active in some way shape of form (not asking for a model but someone that takes care of themselves and their body). Would prefer a Latina and or someone that talks Spanish, but I am on Foreveralonedating so yeah..... As for age someone younger or older is fine with me just be mature, If you are the cold type then expect me to be the opposite, and if you are physical and love to show love then come to me!!!!!! jajaj


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

[M4F] 43 - SoCal Mtns - Looking for rain buddies and hiking partners

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Well, I'm a divorced man loving alone that REALLY misses my female friends. I have lots of guy friends but have always been great at being close with women. I'd love for it to slowly build into something more than just friends, but it doesn't have to.

I love to go and hike and have been getting in great shape doing it. It'd be great to have someone that helps to keep me on that track by joining me. As the rain starts, I realize that I miss having someone to hike in the rain with, then come back home and sit by the fire while we laugh and relax together. My house is mighty lonely and quiet and I miss the sounds of laughter inside.

I live in the mountains so I know snow is coming too and I have a bunch of flexibility in my schedule thanks to running my own business. I'd love to find someone that wants a friendship but may be open to finding a great partner. If you're down for pure friendship, I'd still love to hear from you!

Even if we stick to text to begin with it sounds fun, but I'd love to have time doing things in person together and enjoying nature!

Let me know your favorite weather or best memory outside!


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

57 [m4f] #portland my ideal woman

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  • tells it like it is
  • has good ideas and some bad ideas and hopefully a few totally filthy ideas we can discuss further
  • has never visited albania, or has spent a lot of time there
  • understands a little bit of algebra
  • is looking for a man or at least isn't against the idea of a man being around her sometimes - this is a dealbreaker because i am a man!
  • can get fiery when she believes in something
  • will actually go in the ocean with me at least up to the waist
  • gets my oblique sense of humor. doesn't have to like it, i'm realistic. but gets it.
  • has blue, brown, or green eyes. white eyes would be too weird.
  • owns at least one sweater that looks hella sexy on her
  • doesn't use the term "hella"
  • really likes that tangerine dream song from risky business
  • will help me - us - create lasting memories that will soothe my soul in my senescence
  • will argue films with me over coffee
  • single
  • near portland
  • believes in science
  • likes long stupid lists like this one

r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

36 [M4F] let's be best internet friends

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Hi, I am a 36m from New York. I live way up at the top part near Canada, and I've never been to New York City. I enjoy all of the standard things, like books and video games and movies. Horror is my favorite genre. During the summer I like to have a big garden so I can eat as many fresh veggies as possible, and I have a labradoodle that likes to help dig the holes. I'm looking for someone to talk to everyday, because it's nice to have someone like that. Send me a message if you'd like to chat!


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

45[F4M]#CA-Hoping to Meet Someone Genuine

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Hi! I‘m a 45 year old singe woman looking to meet a kind, emotionally mature man who values honesty, respect, and good conversation!

I believe the best connections start with friendship and grow naturally over time. If you enjoy meaningful conversations, a little humor, and getting to know someone without rushing things, I'd love to hear from you!


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

37 [M4F] #Colorado — Sleepy, exiled single dad. Impossibly good looking, somehow still single.

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37, single dad, exiled, sleepy, and — through no fault of my face — alone. Impossibly good looking, tragically under-snuggled. No strings, down for whatever kind of thing. Not looking for drama or a dossier, just a warm human, some quiet, and falling asleep like people are supposed to. Western Colorado-ish. Write me something real and I'll write back the same.


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

38 [F4M] SPOOKY GIRL 4 U #CLEVELAND

8 Upvotes

Blonde Alt-Curvy Tattooed Baddie

Cleveland, Ohio

Diet coke>Everything

Learning to function with stiletto nails

Lover girl inside, pointy exterior hard-shell - this one bites. 🦇

Professional Stardew Valley Farmer

Horror (Any) >Everything

MySpace Millennial

Aggressively Myself

Hiking, Nature Photography, Cozy Coffee Shops, Creative Writing, Bugs, Fluffy Blankets & Concerts.

I love any/all music. My "liked songs" playlist is ridiculous. There is no rhyme or reason. It's perfect for me.

I'm looking for someone who above all else has

✨️ good grammar, spelling and sentence structure. ✨️, that just vibes with me in all the right ways and knows how to communicate like an adult. I can't quite put my finger on it but I feel like you just click when those words meet action. I love beards, tattoos, attention, CONSISTENCY and men with a sense of humor, confidence and wit. Yappers get bonus points!

Mutual attraction is 100% a thing. It's a disservice to everyone involved if you don't face the reality of that. We're humans! Be prepared to swap pictures semi-early to make sure that's a thing between us.

I really appreciate a person who knows how to take everything slow and low pressure. I'm looking for consistency and attraction - not a source of instant dopamine. If you're here for a fix, find another source.

Oh, and I don't mind distance (if it's for something truly special) but local boys to the front. 🖤


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

38 [M4F] Texas/USA - BFF position open, apply within!!

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* No experience needed, applicant will be trained

* Paid in memes and pup pics

* Must work weekends and holidays

* Must be fluent in sarcasm

* Must come in early and stay late

* Benefits include being my bff and that’s about the best benefit ever.

I'm guessing you're wanting to know about me now huh? Well you're in luck because I feel like sharing some Fun Hobbies (lol jk they aren't fun at all, kinda sad TBH) I like to partake in, here there are!

Hobbies include...

* Switching between the same 4 apps for hours.

* Not speaking to anyone for days at a time.

* Listening to the same songs i listened to 15 years ago.

* Putting myself in situations that will never exist

* Long walks to the liquor store.

* Staying in my pajamas way too long.

* Staying up wayyyy too late.

* Being tired all day due to previous statement.

* Drinking everything but water.

* Putting stuff in my cart online but never checking out.

* Making lists of things i will never do.

So yeah! If that sounds like your type of friend, hit me with an orange envelope. Due to difficulty with trying to keep a conversation with someone with the opposite schedule, please be somewhat close to central time. Or just like…not opposite Lol. Mention the phrase Pineapple on pizza so I know you read the entire thing please 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

42M [M4F] - Halfway There! Happy Wednesday!

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42/M from Michigan. I use this app/ account as my rabbit hole when I’m bored. It is where I explore topics and check out pictures etc. Lol..I’m mostly looking for someone to chat with, decompress, laugh, and talk about whatever’s going on in life. The good, the bad, the Personal…

Not looking for anything romantic. Just a smart, funny woman who can hold a conversation. I’m Middle Eastern, sarcastic, and spicy but always respectful. If you can match my energy without making it weird (a little weird is fine), say hello.


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

32 [F4M] #South Yorkshire, England

4 Upvotes

I’m a busy career professional, and my work pattern can be a little unpredictable at times, so I’d love to meet someone who understands that life doesn’t always fit neatly into a Monday-to-Friday, nine-to-five routine. My career is important to me, but so is making time for the right person.

I’m naturally quite introverted, so I can be a little shy or quiet when I first meet someone. Once I feel comfortable, though, that definitely changes and I come out of my shell! I love genuine conversation, having a laugh and getting to know someone properly. I’d much rather things develop naturally than feel like either of us is trying to force something.

I’m hoping to meet someone who is kind, genuine and easy-going, with a good sense of humour and plenty of banter. Someone who can handle both versions of me. the lively, chatty one when I’m full of energy and the tired, slightly quieter one after a long day at work! 😂

Looks-wise, I have a few curves, and I’m more than happy to swap a photo privately. I think it’s only natural to want to put a face to the person you’re getting to know!

I have absolutely no idea what might come from posting this, but sometimes you have to take a chance and i am at that point of my life where i am fed up of single life.

So, if you’ve read this far and any of it sounds like your kind of person, come and say hello


r/R4R30Plus • • 7h ago

33 [M4F] Wales/UK — someone to cook with, laugh with, and get a little excited about

5 Upvotes

I’d love to have someone to make plans with, whether that’s a walk somewhere beautiful or deciding what we’re putting on a homemade pizza.

Someone I fancy, can be completely silly with, and look forward to hearing from at the end of the day.

I’m Joe, 33, from Cardigan in West Wales. I’m 6'2", autistic, and looking for an affectionate, monogamous, long-term relationship.

Gaming is a big part of my life, and sharing that enthusiasm matters to me. I mainly play on PC, with a PS5 and Switch 2 as well. I’m especially fond of Nintendo and Zelda, and enjoy a relaxed co-op session where we can laugh at our mistakes and keep each other company.

Away from games, I enjoy woodland walks, hiking for a good view, cooking and baking. A walk followed by making dinner together and settling down close with a horror film sounds lovely. I’ll happily make a case for The Thing (1982).

I appreciate clear, kind communication. I’d like us to be able to say we miss each other, ask for company, or admit we need a quiet evening. Affection, playful teasing and comfortable silences are all things I’d enjoy sharing.

I also fix electronics and do Pilates every week. I’m currently not working and looking into training as an electrician.

I’m hoping to meet a woman around my age who’s already based in the UK and has gaming among her main hobbies. I’m open to distance within the UK, with calls and gaming dates between visits. I’d love our next visit to become something we’re both counting down to.

Voice note
A little hello from me: https://voca.ro/12Md4grCmmXj

What’s something small you’d really enjoy sharing with a partner?