r/R4R30Plus • • Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

68 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

39[F4M]#SF Bay Are— I still believe good conversations can lead somewhere

10 Upvotes

I believe a great connection can start with a simple conversation. I enjoy the little things—good conversations, silly laughs, and sharing the things we love

I'm looking for someone kind, respectful, and emotionally mature. No pressure, just two people getting to know each other and seeing where week


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

46[F4R] Germany - Looking to expand my social circle

16 Upvotes

Hey there!

My name is Alex and I habe to admit that after my divorce I lost a rather big part of my social circle so I was hoping to meet some new interesting people this way.

I'd say I'm rather uncomplicated and talk without much of a filter about mundane or the most private topics which some people like and some don't so best to find out yourself. I don't expect to get a reply instantly but value if we both match in effort so one word messages are not my cup of tea I'd say. Anyway, if someone is still witv me at this point, feel free to message me:)


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

38 [F4M] SPOOKY GIRL 4 U #CLEVELAND

10 Upvotes

Blonde Alt-Curvy Tattooed Baddie

Cleveland, Ohio

Diet coke>Everything

Learning to function with stiletto nails

Lover girl inside, pointy exterior hard-shell - this one bites. 🦇

Professional Stardew Valley Farmer

Horror (Any) >Everything

MySpace Millennial

Aggressively Myself

Hiking, Nature Photography, Cozy Coffee Shops, Creative Writing, Bugs, Fluffy Blankets & Concerts.

I love any/all music. My "liked songs" playlist is ridiculous. There is no rhyme or reason. It's perfect for me.

I'm looking for someone who above all else has

✨️ good grammar, spelling and sentence structure. ✨️, that just vibes with me in all the right ways and knows how to communicate like an adult. I can't quite put my finger on it but I feel like you just click when those words meet action. I love beards, tattoos, attention, CONSISTENCY and men with a sense of humor, confidence and wit. Yappers get bonus points!

Mutual attraction is 100% a thing. It's a disservice to everyone involved if you don't face the reality of that. We're humans! Be prepared to swap pictures semi-early to make sure that's a thing between us.

I really appreciate a person who knows how to take everything slow and low pressure. I'm looking for consistency and attraction - not a source of instant dopamine. If you're here for a fix, find another source.

Oh, and I don't mind distance (if it's for something truly special) but local boys to the front. 🖤


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

35 [f4r] Looking for Friends in TX or Online

7 Upvotes

Hey. To repeat the title, I’m in Texas and looking for friends. You don’t have to be local, but similar time zones are helpful.

I tend to get along with people closer to my age. (35-40ish).

If you want to chat and make a new friend, send a chat request and tell me a little about you. 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

32 [M4F] #Michigan #Online — Looking for serious, long-term, and no children (now or in the future)

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https://imgur.com/a/PaqL3AG

I'm looking for my best friend and life partner, but I'm happy moving at your pace. Your comfort is very important to me. I think I'm quite open-minded and chill overall. Touch and quality time are my biggest love languages. Possibly a bit clingy.

🍃420-friendly but not a stoner.

💯% authentic and non-nonchalant.

🧍🏻‍♂️6'3"/190cm for those who care.

♾️ Neurodivergent (autism/ADHD)

My biggest interests are history and '70s-'80s music. I play games on PC and would love someone to play with as well. I like a lot of different "types", so just because I don't have a bunch of cool tattoos doesn't mean I won't like yours, for example.

Some other tidbits: I'm an atheist and tend to align social-democratic politically, but you don't have to be the same, because we're adults and can respect that we may have different beliefs but the same basic values. I'm not a macho guy, but I don't think I'm feminine either. My mom thinks I'm funny and maybe you will too. Are you calling my mom a liar? 🤨

Thanks for reading! ~~Operators are~~ ^I'm standing by to take your ~~call~~ ^DMs !


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

45[F4M]#CA-Hoping to Meet Someone Genuine

8 Upvotes

Hi! I‘m a 45 year old singe woman looking to meet a kind, emotionally mature man who values honesty, respect, and good conversation!

I believe the best connections start with friendship and grow naturally over time. If you enjoy meaningful conversations, a little humor, and getting to know someone without rushing things, I'd love to hear from you!


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

39 [F4M] #East Coast NYC USA looking for love

5 Upvotes

I am looking to settle down with someone. Travel, gym, go for walks hold hands and tell each other about our days!! I’m tall and blonde and curvy.

Been told I have a dazzling personality…


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

34 [M4F] #Ontario - Nerdy Sasquatch Seeks Powerful Woman

4 Upvotes

Hello! My name is Kevin, and I am the embodiment of ‘The Bear.’ I’m big, hairy, and unintentionally loud. I’m hangry in the mornings and a cuddle powerhouse in the afternoon. I may look intimidating, but I’m actually a big softy on the inside. I give the best hugs, but you’ll need to ask first to get one. Sudden noises startle me. I don’t like confrontation, but come after my people and I’m a force of nature. Napping is a top five favourite activity. Feed me and I’m loyal to you forever. Back scratches are accepted currency in my life. I have experienced the many flavors of abuse and trauma, and would rather die than have someone in my life go through similar experiences unsupported. I am fiercely protective of those in my circle!

I give off real “That is the nerdiest lumberjack I’ve ever seen” vibes. That, or I reignite belief in cryptids like Sasquatch & Bigfoot. It is what it is, hence the bear metaphor fitting nicely. I’m 6’4” and have a pretty well developed dad bod. I’d much rather be cold than hot, so bring on the winter weather! I am also the kind of guy to interrupt whatever conversation we may be having to point out any dogs in the area, even if I am more of a cat dad. 

This hairy goof is looking for a lovely woman to connect with, be it over the internet or in person. Long chats into the early morning hours, movie nights, fun outings, trying new restaurants or recipes, I’m all in. Let’s get cozy cuddling under some blankets or playing some games online and see where things go?

I’m not looking to rush into anything, but I am yearning for that deeper connection and intimacy that comes with trust, familiarity, and vulnerability. I crave movie and board game nights, or days spent exploring new neighborhoods and cuisines. I believe in a healthy mix of time spent together and apart, and that we should both be complete people looking to enhance each other’s lives. I’m ready! Hopefully you are too!

I’m a simple, easy to please man at heart. Food, animals, movies, and a board game are the way to my everlasting love. I am a big time history and sci-fi nerd.  I was raised by a single mom and have a deep respect for strong women, which I also attribute to my love of characters such as Sarah Connor, Ellen Ripley, & Xena. This combined with such figures as Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross, & Steve Irwing gave me a pretty well rounded outlook. You could say I was radicalized by basic human decency. 

As for some other interests I volunteer with local animal rescues in several capacities, and I am also getting involved with the local hospital’s library program. If you want cute cat pictures, I’m your man! I run an active tabletop gaming group every Sunday. I’m the kind of nerd that builds and paints models to escape from the world for a while. 

I am very left leaning politically and do not tolerate any forms of bigotry. I do not smoke and very rarely drink, but I do love my baked goods a little too much. I do not have nor want any children of my own. My ambitions are humble but deeply personal; give me a small house, a loving partner, and some rescue animals and I’m more than happy with life! 


r/R4R30Plus • • 50m ago

36 [F4R] Seeking connection

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I’m in Indiana, it’d be cool if you were close by. I have a pretty flexible job and can spend a good portion of my day chatting.

I do like to occasionally voice chat provided the banter is good.

Down to share bits of our day, pictures and videos, whatever.


r/R4R30Plus • • 10h ago

40[M4F] Looking for a chat buddy who won’t judge my protein intake

12 Upvotes

I’m a 40-year-old guy who’s somehow convinced himself that going to the gym 6 days a week is a personality trait. When I’m not lifting heavy things for fun, you’ll usually find me outside hiking, exploring, or trying to convince my German Shorthaired Pointer that squirrels are, in fact, off-limits.
Looking for a woman who’s up for good conversation, sarcastic banter, and can handle the occasional dog picture (there will be many). Bonus points if you enjoy the outdoors or can appreciate someone who’s way too excited about training their dog.
One request: please be willing to trade a selfie early on. I just think it’s nice to know we’re both real humans instead of two AI-generated raccoons pretending to have hobbies.
If you’re funny, kind, and can keep a conversation going, send me a message. Worst case, we waste 10 minutes. Best case, we both get a new friend.


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

33 [M4F] Wales/UK — someone to cook with, laugh with, and get a little excited about

5 Upvotes

I’d love to have someone to make plans with, whether that’s a walk somewhere beautiful or deciding what we’re putting on a homemade pizza.

Someone I fancy, can be completely silly with, and look forward to hearing from at the end of the day.

I’m Joe, 33, from Cardigan in West Wales. I’m 6'2", autistic, and looking for an affectionate, monogamous, long-term relationship.

Gaming is a big part of my life, and sharing that enthusiasm matters to me. I mainly play on PC, with a PS5 and Switch 2 as well. I’m especially fond of Nintendo and Zelda, and enjoy a relaxed co-op session where we can laugh at our mistakes and keep each other company.

Away from games, I enjoy woodland walks, hiking for a good view, cooking and baking. A walk followed by making dinner together and settling down close with a horror film sounds lovely. I’ll happily make a case for The Thing (1982).

I appreciate clear, kind communication. I’d like us to be able to say we miss each other, ask for company, or admit we need a quiet evening. Affection, playful teasing and comfortable silences are all things I’d enjoy sharing.

I also fix electronics and do Pilates every week. I’m currently not working and looking into training as an electrician.

I’m hoping to meet a woman around my age who’s already based in the UK and has gaming among her main hobbies. I’m open to distance within the UK, with calls and gaming dates between visits. I’d love our next visit to become something we’re both counting down to.

Voice note
A little hello from me: https://voca.ro/12Md4grCmmXj

What’s something small you’d really enjoy sharing with a partner?


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

32 [F4M] #South Yorkshire, England

3 Upvotes

I’m a busy career professional, and my work pattern can be a little unpredictable at times, so I’d love to meet someone who understands that life doesn’t always fit neatly into a Monday-to-Friday, nine-to-five routine. My career is important to me, but so is making time for the right person.

I’m naturally quite introverted, so I can be a little shy or quiet when I first meet someone. Once I feel comfortable, though, that definitely changes and I come out of my shell! I love genuine conversation, having a laugh and getting to know someone properly. I’d much rather things develop naturally than feel like either of us is trying to force something.

I’m hoping to meet someone who is kind, genuine and easy-going, with a good sense of humour and plenty of banter. Someone who can handle both versions of me. the lively, chatty one when I’m full of energy and the tired, slightly quieter one after a long day at work! 😂

Looks-wise, I have a few curves, and I’m more than happy to swap a photo privately. I think it’s only natural to want to put a face to the person you’re getting to know!

I have absolutely no idea what might come from posting this, but sometimes you have to take a chance and i am at that point of my life where i am fed up of single life.

So, if you’ve read this far and any of it sounds like your kind of person, come and say hello


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

35 [M4F] #Louisiana / US - Alt/nerd seeks genuine connection.

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I'm a quiet, private guy and I keep to myself until I get to know someone. I value upfront honesty and people who are comfortable being themselves. Most of my time goes into gaming, learning new crafts, reading, binging a series, or -doomscrolling-.

I'll take sporadic trips to nearby places I haven't eaten at yet when I don't feel like cooking and walk a few laps at a local park when I'm able.

I'm wired a bit differently and navigate the world with a neurodivergent mindset (ennui, choice paralysis, executivedysfunction), which means my attention and energy can fluctuate, but I'm always focused on my own growth and discipline. Just as well as my title implied I am a bit of an alt nerd with my style; a few piercings and tattoos and black nails. (Often mistaken for not presenting as straight and I find that funny.)

I'm looking for a serious, *strictly monogamous* relationship where we can just be completely transparent with each other.

A woman that is familiar with or at least willing to learn about *AuDHD*.

I'm *heavily* *introverted*, so an adoptive extrovert would be much appreciated.

The fuzzy dad-bod is here to stay.

I'm looking for someone who balances me out, and I often find myself most drawn to women from diverse cultural backgrounds. I really appreciate a partner who has a more assertive, protective, or nurturing presence that makes it easy for me to drop my walls and relax. I feel it should be effortless for someone to let themselves be vulnerable with someone else, I try to be as approachable myself. Witty banter, being more expressive and direct, attempts to relate or to be inclusive are easy brownie points for the taking! (Which, the closer you are the better.)

I feel like I gave enough to talk about though, so I look forward to hearing from you! ☺️


r/R4R30Plus • • 7h ago

37 [M4F] NYC, Must love house music more than me!

3 Upvotes

Hi beautiful people!

I will start by saying that I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for, however, I'm opening to dating & meeting people and seeing where it goes!

About Me:

  • 37M (Libra if you're into that).
  • Work as an operations director and a ramp rat in aviation PT. Im pretty comfortable right now, financially speaking, but could be doing better.
  • I love cycling. I ride my bike everyday, everywhere I go (work, going out, meeting people, etc). I probably ride 100+ miles a week.
  • In addition to cycling everyday, I also hit the gym a few times a week. When it starts getting too cold to ride, I'll be in the gym 5-6 days a week.
    • I will say I'm not "fit", but over the last 6 months, I've lost a ton of weight from riding my bike and have been getting LOTS of extra attention lately, so I'm "fit" enough for now.
  • Music is a huge part of my life. I listen to everything, but I have a real soft spot for house music (not to be confused with EDM or Techno). Lately, I've been listening to 70s and 80s genres. So much good music during these eras! As a 20-year DJ, I play mostly class style house and deep house, disco, and funk.
  • Since I work PT in aviation, I get to travel for free, so I do alot of that. More spontaneous trips. I'll literally book a ticket hours before the flight leaves.
  • Other hobbies include going to record shops, discovering new music, going out dancing to house music, soccer.
  • Thoughtful, high emotional EQ (i place a huge emphasis on this), silly, and try to be funny, but doesn't always happen. I also do therapy too, but I find cycling being the best therapy for me.

My Red Flag (this is subjective as others may not find these as red flags)

  • I have a 3 year old son, but lives with the mom full time. Theres no baby mama drama. Me and the mom make it work. I have no expectation for any future partner to be involved unless they so choose. Even then, it would take time before that introduction is made.
  • I'm not interested in having any additional children, however, I'll keep an open mind if the stars are aligned.
  • I have 2 room mates, but are awesome and we keep our place very clean. If you live in NYC too, you know this is pretty normal, even at my age. I just can't justify paying the extra money for my own space when I'm not really home like that or I'm in my room.
  • I'm not religious or political, but relate more with liberal policies. Yes, I will vote this November.

What I'm looking for:

I'm not looking for anything specific. I'm open to different races and ethnicities. All that I ask is that you are doing SOMETHING with your life and not doing nothing all day, everyday. There also needs to be some level of physical attraction. For me, this means you exercise regularly and generally eats pretty healthy. Most importantly, you LOVE music! House music to be exact. I don't mean John Summit, Dom Dolla, Mau P, etc. I'm talking about Kerri Chandler, Ron Trent, JT Donaldson, Karizma, Cloud9, Koze, etc.


r/R4R30Plus • • 5m ago

37 [M4F] single dad in central Ohio looking for my forever person with that obsessive clingy energy

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Im a single dad of 2 looking for my forever person I love cooking gaming watching anime and lately have gotten back into MTG. I want someone who I can be obsessed with who doesn’t mind me wanting to spend all of my time with them and who wants to spend all of their time with me. Im looking for a relationship with commitment one that leads to marriage and a child of our own some time down the line, family is very important to me. I don’t really care about an age difference as long as we want the same things and are willing to commit to them. Any other questions ask, im an open book hopefully I hear from my person soon


r/R4R30Plus • • 26m ago

31 [F4M] | TO - Canada

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Looking for people to talk to throughout the day and have some good conversations with. Currently unemployed and dealing with the mental load that comes with it, so it'd be nice to have some company, get out of my own head, and have people to chat with about whatever.

I'm down for conversations about life, random thoughts, hobbies, or just how your day is going. Bonus points if you're also looking for someone to talk to regularly rather than just a one-off conversation.

*Not looking to meetup


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

[F4R] 32 just a semi-nerd looking for someone to be friends/game/chat #online

8 Upvotes

I am looking for someone to get to know, game with, watch movies with, and talk about anything and everything.

First off, I am in college and work full-time, so I cannot be available to talk all the time, but I would like someone to talk to and hang out with on a regular basis.

About me:

I am somewhat of a nerd; I love video games, LoTR, Avatar the Last Airbender, DnD, Legos, and Star Trek Next Gen. Besides that, I am learning to longboard and play guitar, I love exploring out in nature and in new cities, I will make any excuse to go to a bookstore, I have a small sneaker collection, recently came into ownership of my mom's old vinyls and plan to get a player, I get really excited about rocks, and I love to paint, draw, and write.

My favorite music artists are Kendrick Lamar, Sza, Hozier, Taylor Swift, Joji, Noah Kahan, Childish Gambino, Troye Sivan, Chappell Roan, and the Beach Boys. My favorite film is Ferris Bueller's Day Off, and I have a long list of movies I love and ones I need to see. I am always down to watch something funny, and I frequently watch Smosh on YouTube.

Hopefully I will find someone who is smart, funny, loves to have deep talks and get into the sociopolitical themes of shows, enjoys learning new things, and wants to help me learn how to PC game because I am VERY new to it. I have ARC Raiders, Stardew Valley, Overwatch, Dead By Daylight, Peak, and REPO so far. Someone who enjoys the outdoors who would like to share fitness tips and share the stories of their explorations is also appreciated.

Please tell me a bit about yourself and include your ASL


r/R4R30Plus • • 38m ago

40 [M4F] Oregon/Online - Seeking a remote work girlfriend

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40, Portland, OR, WFH in tech. The job is fine. The house is quiet. By 2pm I’ve already had entire conversations with the microwave and given two of the plants names they did not ask for.

Looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth. Bonus points if you also work in tech.

I’m on X more than I should be. I listen to the Red Scare podcast, Anna and Dasha. The Perfume Nationalist. Rare Candy. If you’ve been in that orbit, we will probably get along.

I’m not trying to make this a whole production. I like talking to someone who’s sharp and doesn’t take herself too seriously. If you can make a Wednesday afternoon interesting, that’s pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you’re avoiding at work or home right now. I’ll tell you about the latest meeting I keep postponing.


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

46 [M4F] California/Online - Seeking Connection with Depth and Excitement - Voice call

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I'm a grounded, emotionally intelligent man, looking for connection. Let's start with good conversation and see where the chemistry leads.

I have a playful sense of humor, and enjoy conversations where you can joke And get deep.

So let's laugh about the comically violent inter-species brawl your cat got into today, or if we want to get reflective let's talk about the last great book you read, or the majestic bit of nature you saw on your recent hike.

I'm an educated professional, with eclectic hobbies from creative writing to meditation, so i'm up for a wide-ranging conversation.

I enjoy voice calls and have been told I have a calm and soothing voice.

I’m looking to connect with someone who:
-is warm and kind.
-appreciates chemistry with depth, and a bit of edge.

I'm 5'11, broad shoulders, athletic, in shape. Very open minded when it comes to intimate matters.

If you reach out please share a little about yourself, including your age and location. I would like to connect over voice calls, but we can text a bit first.

Looking forward to connecting!


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

34 [R4R] Canadian ..Where are my elder emos at?

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Do you remember the last time you felt your heart race when a message came through? Let's be that for each other.

Looking for mutual attraction so please be willing to send pics early!


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

36 [M4F] let's be best internet friends

2 Upvotes

Hi, I am a 36m from New York. I live way up at the top part near Canada, and I've never been to New York City. I enjoy all of the standard things, like books and video games and movies. Horror is my favorite genre. During the summer I like to have a big garden so I can eat as many fresh veggies as possible, and I have a labradoodle that likes to help dig the holes. I'm looking for someone to talk to everyday, because it's nice to have someone like that. Send me a message if you'd like to chat!


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

34 [M4F] #italy - Open to new possibility

3 Upvotes

Hi, i'm a young italian who is looking for a connection, far from the toxic dating apps.

I'm 5.6 ft (1.71 m) tall, curious, romantic and i love to spend time caring for the people i care.

i'm in rome right know, working for a international company and i travelled a lot for work.

Other than english, i'm learning spanish in my free time (still low level but improving) and I don't close the door if she is from outside europe.

Feel free to contact me, Ciao!


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

35 [M4F] Pennsylvania/Online - It’s Wednesdayyyy

5 Upvotes

Had some great chats last go around. Looking for some to get me through my work day today. Open to anything long or short term and anything in between. New or previous chat parters welcome.

About me:

- tall (6’3 to be exact)
- works in healthcare
- enjoys the great outdoors.
- enjoys a nice round of disc golf
- plays video games, primarily on PC but you can bet your ass I’m playing GTA when it comes out.
- enjoys a good old fashioned
- likes a nice jog, although not so much now that it’s getting cold out
- naps because who doesn’t
- beer but not IPAs and anyone who likes them is a liar

Maybe some other interesting things.

You:

- Not an AI bot
- can do at least one jumping jack (not really)
- loves pizza

Down to trade pictures but also not a requirement.


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

31 [M4F] #McAllen, TX- Looking for my taco eating, horchata drinking soulmate

1 Upvotes

Hey, Hi, and Hola; Well to start off with Latino here (morenito), 5'8, kind of slim dad bod, 210 lbs (but not fat looking I guess super dense.) I got lots of things that I like from nerdy to geeky, photography, working out, anime, and video games. I have a healthy relationship with my hobbies and likes so you won't catch me gaming 24/7, nor a total gym rat. Only thing to worry about is that I am more addicted to being in bed and rotting. Little more likes are the beach, going out to new places to eat, hanging out with my friend when I can, and love being with my orange cat.

I am looking for someone nearby (RGV preferably) or can go to Corpus or San Antonio (making the effort to see you)

I am catholic but not hardcore religious just, Catholic in respect to my late father. So religion does play a minor part in my life but doesn't dictate the way I live my life ultimately.

I have no kids, but would love a child in the future (one or two.) Hopefully you would like 1 or 2 but no more than that.

As for my character I consider myself loving, easy going, respectful, shy and awkward at times. (you can ask me more about me lol couldn't think of much when writing this)

As for what I am looking for someone that's friendly and also easy going, active in some way shape of form (not asking for a model but someone that takes care of themselves and their body). Would prefer a Latina and or someone that talks Spanish, but I am on Foreveralonedating so yeah..... As for age someone younger or older is fine with me just be mature, If you are the cold type then expect me to be the opposite, and if you are physical and love to show love then come to me!!!!!! jajaj