r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 5h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/mrblonde91 4h ago

I'm in Ireland, we've had these ads going for ages. They're not controversial...

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u/Additional-Sock8980 4h ago

Yeah they are.

People need to cop on, don’t want any physical contact, hand up and say oh no thanks I don’t do that.

This bull about being responsible for others unarticulated feels is stupid. And it muddies the real water. Consent for actual sexual contact is very very different to someone saying hello when visiting your home.

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u/Critical_Object2276 4h ago

So what’s the line? There is somewhere between sexual contact with a stranger and hugging a relative. Where do you draw the line?

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u/cyne-wolf 2h ago

the no-no square is the socially accepted line for this.

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u/Critical_Object2276 2h ago

I don’t know what that is. Can you explain it to me?

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u/cyne-wolf 1h ago

I think they allegedly teach it to kids, but it's also present in work place sexual assault/harassment awareness things.

It's generally any part of the body covered by a one-piece swimsuit (male or female). So chest, genitals of course, but also stomach, lower back, upper thigh. Intentional touch there is sexual assault. But touching someone's arm wouldn't be.

So in the context of something like a hug, you could hug someone like a co-worker and assume that touching them with your hands on the upper arm or something as part of the hug is implicitly okay unless told otherwise, but you can't press your body into them.

The no-no square rule of thumb also never applies if you touch them outside the no-no square but derive sexual gratification, so Touchy Tina in the cubicle over there isn't allowed to squeeze your shoulder half a second longer than normal either.