r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 5h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/Tananaka 5h ago edited 3h ago

The people who keep commenting "omg you're being sensitive" are so dumb.

This isn't a "Don't touch people anymore" PSA.

It's a "Hey, be more aware of what you're doing before you're doing it" PSA.

Half of y'all acting as if it's somehow your 1st amendment right to hug someone and that's just weird af 🫠

It's literally not that hard to greet someone without hugging them...

EDIT: People seem to be missing the point and keep considering the kid to be "sensitive" in the commercial.

The commercial isn't focusing on the kid here, it's focusing on the adults/huggers. The message is literally to be mindful. SIMPLE.

If you're someone that hugs people with ill intent, it doesn't matter. You're an ill-intented person anyways so you wouldn't care.

If you're someone that hugs people without ill intent, it's suppose to tell you to be mindful that no matter how good your intentions are, some people will be discomforted by it.

Those of you who are complaining about people being sensitive? You're part of the group that holds ill-intented, because why are you even making such a big deal about this if you truly care for the other person?

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u/BirdLawMD 4h ago

It’s not dumb. Researchers suggest that attempts to protect young people from emotional discomfort are inadvertently fueling the mental health crisis by stripping them of the resilience needed to navigate everyday adversity

This safetyism creates more anticipatory anxiety, amplifies minor grievances, and contributes to the “anxious generation” problem we’re seeing today

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u/CeramicToast 4h ago

Not even remotely the same thing. Teaching kids that they have a right to refuse to be touched, hugged, or kissed if they don't want to is not the same as preventing them from developing discomfort tolerance.

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u/BirdLawMD 4h ago

I think by telling the kid they can say no to any discomfort absolutely develops an intolerance.

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u/panrestrial 3h ago

by telling the kid they can say no to any discomfort

Good thing that's not what anyone is saying, then.

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u/Tananaka 3h ago

That's such a poor argument.

I'm not gonna say that "saying no to discomfort develops intolerance" is completely incorrect, but this isn't something that applies to things like hugs. There's nuance to that statement.

-You SHOULD teach your kid to say no to:

  • unwanted hugs
  • unwanted kisses
  • doing activities they don't actually want to do.

You SHOULDN'T teach your kid to say no to:

  • doing their homework.
  • cleaning their room.

Your argument only really applies when it's a non-physical developmental discomfort. Being "tolerant" of hugs does nothing for a child's developmental growth.

Saying "no" to unwanted physical contact doesn't make them "intolerant". It teaches them that they have their own bodily autonomy and consent. They shouldn't have to grow "tolerant" of people touching them and hugging them when they grow up. It doesn't matter who they are, how close they are to you, if you don't want to be touched it's that simple.

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u/CeramicToast 2h ago

Your link is about MEDIA, not being PHYSICALLY TOUCHED.