r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 5h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/mostly_lurking 5h ago

If you think this is controversial you might have a boundary problem.

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u/Early_Particular9170 5h ago edited 3h ago

Agreed. I was a kid whose consent got ignored for things like hugs and kisses. At multiple points, my mom physically forced a kiss on me after I had verbally told her no. It feels awful to have your boundaries ignored when it comes to your own body, and it’s a dangerous lesson to teach a child.

She once gave a stranger consent to take a photo of me before I could give an answer. I had been an adult for years at that point. Some parents genuinely think their children are extensions of themselves rather than an autonomous human being with agency.

ETA: My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive throughout my childhood in ways that caused (professionally diagnosed) PTSD. That kind of thing changes how a person views affection from a parent.

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u/ncm0229 4h ago

Jesus Christ, you sound absolutely exhausting to be around. There’s something incredibly privileged about talking about affection from your own mother with this much contempt when plenty of people grow up desperately wishing their parents would show them any. That doesn’t make your boundaries irrelevant, but it might warrant a little fucking perspective.