r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/mostly_lurking 4h ago

If you think this is controversial you might have a boundary problem.

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u/Early_Particular9170 4h ago edited 2h ago

Agreed. I was a kid whose consent got ignored for things like hugs and kisses. At multiple points, my mom physically forced a kiss on me after I had verbally told her no. It feels awful to have your boundaries ignored when it comes to your own body, and it’s a dangerous lesson to teach a child.

She once gave a stranger consent to take a photo of me before I could give an answer. I had been an adult for years at that point. Some parents genuinely think their children are extensions of themselves rather than an autonomous human being with agency.

ETA: My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive throughout my childhood in ways that caused (professionally diagnosed) PTSD. That kind of thing changes how a person views affection from a parent.

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u/theDefaultbunny 3h ago

yes! I'm in my 40's and my mom still tries to force hugs and physical contact with me. The thing is, I really enjoy physical contact. What I don't enjoy is having it FORCED ION ME. And then when she does hug me, it's like when a person is drowning, and they cling to the person trying to save them and end up dragging them both down. I hate it.

My partner and I make sure our kids know that they never have to accept unwanted touch, or even comments.

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u/Early_Particular9170 3h ago

Exactly how I feel.