r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 5h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/mostly_lurking 5h ago

If you think this is controversial you might have a boundary problem.

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u/Early_Particular9170 5h ago edited 3h ago

Agreed. I was a kid whose consent got ignored for things like hugs and kisses. At multiple points, my mom physically forced a kiss on me after I had verbally told her no. It feels awful to have your boundaries ignored when it comes to your own body, and it’s a dangerous lesson to teach a child.

She once gave a stranger consent to take a photo of me before I could give an answer. I had been an adult for years at that point. Some parents genuinely think their children are extensions of themselves rather than an autonomous human being with agency.

ETA: My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive throughout my childhood in ways that caused (professionally diagnosed) PTSD. That kind of thing changes how a person views affection from a parent.

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u/bb_economy 5h ago

Are you insane? A fkin consent for a kiss from your own mother?

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u/Less-Ad-1327 5h ago

I can't imagine being so sensitive a kiss from your mom sets you off. Wild.

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u/Mediocre-Cobbler5744 5h ago

Your lack of imagination doesn't make you right.

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u/Less-Ad-1327 4h ago

There was nothing in the post I was commenting that indicated an abusive relationship (or the context of this video)

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u/panrestrial 4h ago

They've already covered the fact you're only capable of imagining what's been explicitly spelled out for you.

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u/Mediocre-Cobbler5744 2h ago

Touching someone against their will is abusive in and of itself. The relationship doesn't matter. I kiss my wife multiple times a day. That doesn't mean Im allowed to do it when she doesn't want me to. For any or no reason.

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u/Less-Ad-1327 2h ago

Yeah I guess I mixed the comment and the video. The post I responded to said they explicitly said no and theyre mom kept trying. Which is no beauno. The video was more the grandparents just going in for a hug in a normal situation.

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u/JurassicParkCSR 5h ago

What's funny about idiots like you is that you think that your life is conducive to everyone's life. Since you lived a cookie cutter happy mom and dad life you think everyone did. To you every mom is your mom. I'm hoping you're young and that you learn that everyone's life is different.

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u/Early_Particular9170 5h ago

Would you want to be kissed by someone who told you that they were considering divorcing your dad and it was your fault?