r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/mostly_lurking 4h ago

If you think this is controversial you might have a boundary problem.

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u/Early_Particular9170 4h ago edited 2h ago

Agreed. I was a kid whose consent got ignored for things like hugs and kisses. At multiple points, my mom physically forced a kiss on me after I had verbally told her no. It feels awful to have your boundaries ignored when it comes to your own body, and it’s a dangerous lesson to teach a child.

She once gave a stranger consent to take a photo of me before I could give an answer. I had been an adult for years at that point. Some parents genuinely think their children are extensions of themselves rather than an autonomous human being with agency.

ETA: My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive throughout my childhood in ways that caused (professionally diagnosed) PTSD. That kind of thing changes how a person views affection from a parent.

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u/Xav_NZ 4h ago edited 3h ago

As a kid I was forced to kiss a deceased Aunt in her coffin at the funeral.

I have refused to attend any open coffin funerals since or attended only after the coffin was sealed.

Actual life long trauma right there.

Edit: thanks for all the kind words internet strangers.

PS Consent and boundaries should absolutely be a thing within a family and no one let alone kids should be forced into uncomfortable situations without asking them first.

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u/SherBear127 4h ago

My grandfather used to kiss me on the neck and I hated it, And told my mom it made me uncomfortable. She told me he is my grandfather and to basically just deal with it.
Later found out my grandfather was a pedo and my mother knew the whole time

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u/BingleFlip94 4h ago

Jesus Christ. I’m so sorry 😔

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u/tsukipon 3h ago

omg the same thing happened to me. And then when he passed, she was surprised that I didn't want to go to the funeral

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u/SherBear127 2h ago

I was there when my grandfather died, All I felt was relief

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u/tsukipon 55m ago

I hope you are in a better place now. So sorry you had to go through all that

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u/SherBear127 35m ago

Thanks, I’m ok now 💜

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u/Danimalscrossing 2h ago

This happened to me with my stepdad, same thing. Turns out he was a huge pedo.

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u/Plead_thy_fifth 4h ago

Thats fucked up.

But to be fair, you aren't missing anything. I refuse to see open caskets of anyone I know/loved because that turns into my final memory of them and every time I see them I just think of their fake looking dead body, instead of the great memories I had with them.

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u/chasing_the_wind 3h ago

Yeah I got pressured into seeing my dead twin brother at the morgue. I didn’t want to go but everyone was convinced I wouldn’t be able to accept he was dead without seeing it.

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u/NekoArtemis 3h ago

That's horrifying and insulting. I'm so sorry. 

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u/whineyinternetkid 4h ago

Omggg thats actually insanity. Im sorry you had to do that. Who would think is ok to do that

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u/Early_Particular9170 3h ago

That’s horrifying. I’m sorry you had to go through that

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u/Max-Phallus 4h ago

Well that's a bit different! Jesus. I am so sorry that happened.