r/teenagers • u/Xx_Midnight_Starz_xX • 6h ago
Discussion Y'all ever want to be the opposite gender
I've been feeling that alot lately
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u/helpIcandrawfurries 16 5h ago
I just wanna be... no gender ig. Screw that stuff. I wanna be me and have style, I don't wanna be a boy or a girl
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u/Xx_Midnight_Starz_xX 5h ago
Gender was invented by clothing companies so they could give men only 3 colors to choose from and women the same fucking jeans with no pockets
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u/helpIcandrawfurries 16 5h ago
Exactly! Fuck gender based gatekeeping. Also, gender was co-invented by bathroom companies to sell more bathrooms
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u/Middle_Schedule2768 1h ago
This is kind of me, except I perform it in a cis kind of way
I am gender non-conforming because I want to be free from the restrictions of gender, but I do it by remaining cis and being both masculine + feminine instead of being trans :3 I think it's kind of cool
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u/CarefulSalad3505 16 6h ago
Well, I'll be honest. There was a time where I really wanted to be a woman. But not gonna lie, it blinded me to the truth that I was born a man, so I just accepted the fact I am a man and I am proud to be one. This is my personal opinion, and there is nothing wrong with being trans, this is my experience.
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u/Baltaxo2010 16 5h ago
I had something similar
There was a period in my life where I wondered what it would be like to be a girl and wanted to be one for a little bit. However it was just a phase, and now I'm happy and proud of being a guy
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u/Ill_Maize8988 6h ago
I'm curious, what do you mean by accepted? Do you still kinda not feel at peace or are you fully fine w it
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u/CarefulSalad3505 16 5h ago
I'm at peace, I just realized I was fantasizing about a reality I could never get, so I decided to focus on the one I'm currently living in.
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u/WillowEntertainment 5h ago
You absolutely can get that reality. Please don't hold yourself back. If you want to be a woman, be a woman!
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u/CarefulSalad3505 16 5h ago
It's just not the reality I want, I found there are plenty of things about being a man that I simply love more than about being a woman. But, I appreciate the compassion!
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u/Difficult_Theory_934 Teenager 6h ago
No i don't have mod dysphoria
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u/TheCentiped3 17 5h ago
I know who you are....
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u/Difficult_Theory_934 Teenager 5h ago
i also recognize you. You come from r/FossilPorn
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u/Familiar-Priority933 2h ago
That's kinda what it means to be transgender, cause i had those feelings for a long time, talked to my friends about it recently and turns out that is not normal.
I recommend going to online spaces and pretending you're the opposite gender and if you like it consider crossdressing.
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u/NovaDaBaka 6h ago
I'm genderfluid :D
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u/Xx_Midnight_Starz_xX 6h ago
Wat dat mean
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u/Majestic_Cod_1876 16 6h ago
He means drink him and you can become opposite gender
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u/wispers250 5h ago
If you’re genderfluid, your gender shifts from one moment to the next. One day you might be a man. The next day you might be a woman. The day after you might be something else that hasn’t even been named. Genderfluid, put more simply, means your gender is fluid and changing rather than being static.
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u/Majestic_Cod_1876 16 5h ago
Is it solely determined by the way you feel and dress?
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u/wispers250 5h ago
It’s solely determined by the person’s sole determination. Gender is purely a label. If someone feels they’re a woman, they’re a woman. If they feel they’re a man, they’re a man.
If a person feels that genderfluid is the term that best suits them, then they are genderfluid.
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u/Crashcrout 16 4h ago
So like... something that hasnt been named includes what.... a gnome?
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u/Appropriate-Bag-7910 4h ago
So the gender is changed only in label and personal opinion?
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u/wispers250 4h ago
Gender is labels and personal opinion. It’s nebulous and ever-changing. Doesn’t make it any less important.
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u/Appropriate-Bag-7910 3h ago
I see, so that would mean that gender is different from sex, right? I am only asking this since i constantly see people merging the two. So gender is what someone thinks and sex is what someone is born as, am i correct?
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u/wispers250 3h ago
That’s a good way to start thinking about it, but I’d say gender is more like a set of behaviors and labels, while sex is a set of physical characteristics.
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u/Beatrixt3r 17 5h ago
It means that they swap between genders or can potentially be in between genders at times
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u/Appropriate-Bag-7910 4h ago
I mean, I do wonder what it would be like to be a girl, like an actual xx chromosome human, maybe for like a month so I can experience what it is like being a girl, but then I'd want to go back to my old life tbh. Like it would be cool as an experiment, but no more than that, I think.
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u/ParkingEmployee6454 6h ago
Who are we to stop you from achieving your dreams, go be free young one.
I’ll accept you either way
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u/epicpersononthisapp 5h ago
So , 🩵💗🤍💗🩵 ?
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u/-_Brick_- 16 5h ago
you dont have 🩷 ?
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u/epicpersononthisapp 5h ago
🩷
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u/EnfpSunbeam 2h ago edited 1h ago
I always was “the opposite gender”, I just was born with mismatched sex characteristics and I didn’t figure out my gender for a solid 16 years (in case that’s cryptic, i’m transmasc, which is short for transgender masculine, which is trans man adjacent).
But I suggest you look into trans woman or trans man memes, depending on what opposite means for you, the meme compilations are part of what helped it click for me, and “am i transgender?” quizzes could help too.
There are also some decent subs here on reddit that may help, such as [r/egg_irl](r/egg_irl) and [r/traaa](r/traaa) (idk how many As there are but it’s a drawn out trans basically) and [r/ftm](r/ftm) or [r/mtf](r/mtf) (those stand for female to male and male to female respectively, the first one being the gender assigned at birth and the one after the t or to being the desired or real gender after transition). I recommend starting out with [r/egg_irl](r/egg_irl) and r/traaa and the compilations and quizzes. Trans tiktok compilations are good too, and often include definition tiktoks for newcomers to the community.
I realise this may be overwhelming, so I suggest deep breaths and starting with just one thing, like a meme video to start you off.
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u/Pond-Pole3821 Teenager 6h ago
I mean I’ve been having that same exact feeling lately, like three months ago. That’s when I started playing ULTRAKILL. Wait…
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u/Ill_Maize8988 6h ago
You miggghtt be trans. Not tryna push anything on you obv, but I think it would be worthwhile for you to check some resources if you feel that way.
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u/Sweet_Honey685 17 6h ago
I'd be a girl but only if I was in a matriarchal/post gender equal world
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u/Narrow-Ad6771 4h ago
Equal✅ Matriarchal/Patriarchal ❌, some people just wants domination and never an equality
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u/Sweet_Honey685 17 4h ago
I just said post gender equal world buddy, it's not like I never wanted equality
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u/Give-cookies 17 3h ago
A matriarchy can’t be equal… you realize that right?
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u/Sweet_Honey685 17 3h ago
I literally put the slash meaning matriarchy or gender equality also why the fuck are you condescending me even though you ain't reading shit clearly
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u/Ant_1_ITA OLD 3h ago
Sometimes yes, cuz some man really make me shame of being a man
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u/Alternative_Cod7515 3h ago
I think if you are a woman then some women will make you shame of being a woman...
Love yourself, you are not a bad human being if you are not punching cats for fun.
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u/Western-Victory-7414 17 4h ago
Yep. All the time. Every second of every day. I'm trans and I fucking hate it
U might be an egg btw op sorry to tell u
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u/diario24 4h ago
Fuck, well hope at least yo never enter r/colon3supremacy to expand the truth, they hate you, but hope you can soon have enough money
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u/Diddilinchen 58m ago
Yeah
I mean, I could have kids without being pregnant
I’d have a dick
I would be naturally taller
(I’d have a dick)
It’d be easier to gain muscle
(I’d have a dick)
Nobody would look at me like a dry fish when I want to be rather dominant
(I’d have a dick)
There are cute gay bottoms
(I’d have a dick)
And some other reasons probably
And we’ll, I’d have a dick 🤷🏽♀️
🤣🤣🤣
I find my own comment ridiculously funny, help! 🤣
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u/spragual 19 6h ago
Personally no. Not because I have anything against girls it's because I'm already so used to being a guy that it would be exhausting and a lot of work to switch things up now
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u/dumb_2011 Teenager 5h ago
Feeling what? I'm too smooth-brained to understand what emotions this gif is portraying lol
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u/coolbuybobb 5h ago
nah i like mine better there's just so many benefits I wouldn't give up for their counterparts
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u/yourlocalidiot134 5h ago
I've had a what if about it, but not an irrefutable urge to cut my pp off.
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u/Shady-777 5h ago
Never, I am curious as to what it would feel like. So probably for a day but that’s it
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u/Jupiter0373829 16 5h ago
Yes, now I am the opposite gender because gender is in the brain what I hate is that I am not the opposite sex and I am making efforts to trans the sex next
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u/wispers250 5h ago
My advice is and has always been “try everything once”. If you like it, keep having it. If you don’t, don’t keep having it.
Me personally? Never tried being a woman. Then again, I never really tried being a man either.
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u/Dizzy-Top-5516 5h ago
Obviously the question is offensive; the truth is I've always thought that the opposite sex has all the advantages.
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u/beartheperson 15 5h ago
nope, not once. and I've really tried (im in a LOT of queer communities and most of my close friends are trans lol)
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u/Alternative-Ebb-8326 Teenager 5h ago
Yes but also no. I am non-binary so I guess I would want to be intersex?
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u/Intelligent_River464 14 4h ago
kinda??? i wish i could play tackle football but i'm nowhere near big enough for it to be safe so it makes me sad but i don't want to be a guy really i just wanna play tackle football
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u/killuaisnowdrowning 4h ago
sometimes i wanna be a gay guy but not in a trans way, i love being a girl and tbh would hate being a boy
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u/diario24 4h ago
Na, i am happy being me, and I will never do it, even if I was the other sex, but have some self steem or go to the psychology, believe me it's a great help and you shouldn't be ashamed of
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u/fjdecker_imfucked 13 4h ago
no personally ive always liked my gender but its perfectly normal to feel that (also im told your something called a egg idk im not deep into the whole gender stuff dont kill me)
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u/Ok_Magazine7929 4h ago
Well not that I wanted to but of course we all thought about how it would be if we were the opposite gender?
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u/Give-cookies 17 3h ago
Sometimes but it’s more because it’s a lot harder due to my sexual orientation to find partners.
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u/Responsible_Box_1802 3h ago
I thought of it once, thought about pregnancy and periods and then said you know what? If I could, I'd rather be born a guy. Women do amazing work surviving that shit 😭
If you mean trans then, no I'm quite happy. Also, are you like... trans or something?
(Idk, I like this image)
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u/Senpai_Weeb_Theorist 3h ago
I love being a girl, but I want to be a boy sometimes. You guys feel freeier in a way and being attracted to girls would be easier
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u/clovercryptid 3h ago
I don’t know..
I love being a woman. Like even the painful parts.
But I also wonder what and who I’d be if I was a man..
I wonder if I’d be more confident or something like that.
Both are hard in their own way😮💨
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u/VisibleConfusion12 3h ago
yeah but only for like a day to experiment and then back to normal
also very subtle, OP
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u/zerior23 14 1h ago
idk, don't care about my gender realy. But being what I already am is the most convinient, so no
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u/Educational-Bowl-819 47m ago
I always wonder what it would be like as a girl. Sometimes I wish I could reset my life with the sole difference of my upbringing being that I was a girl simply to see what would change
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u/Dr_Nonnac 16m ago
Only like half the time. That's half the time my flat chest feels like an empty pit sucking out all of my joy, and half the time I'm just hungry and dont feel that. Fluidity baby
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u/astrollixa 1m ago
Deadass yes.
All my friends are dogs bro you know how devious the trolling gonna go
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u/Xx_Midnight_Starz_xX 5h ago
I don't understand half of what you guys are saying Also why is some guy talking about eggs