Just watched an interview where sheās talking about how devastating her brotherās death in 2023 was, because she realized sheād have to live life without him. Thereās a part where she says, āWhen our parents are gone, itās just going to be meā - so fucking heartbreaking that 3 years later, sheās gone as well. Fuck.
My one cousin died abruptly a few years back. His sister had been fighting cancer for years and getting better. After he died she told everyone she couldnāt live without him. She died one week later!
My brother lost the battle to pancreatic cancer in April of 2020. My momās heart was absolutely broken & she only made it to August, then she died too. My heart has never healed.
Me too. And my family were immigrants so it's just me on an island by myself. What a lonely thing it is to move away from your entire family to start somewhere else in the first place.
This is why itās hitting me hard. Seeing her struggles play out in the media and her suffering now coming to an end š reminds me that life isnāt fair for anyone
She had been through so much. I was so excited to hear she was going to be in Scream 6 as it was her first movie in more than five years if I'm not mistaken. She had even posted about the movie and returning to play her character. Then the week the movie premiered (or came out? I can't remember), her brother Jansen unexpectedly passed away.
I hope she and Jansen are at peace and get to see and hug each other again in heaven.
I haven't read it but I've seen a lot of people discussing her memoir (released this year) in the wake of her death and apparently a lot of her life struggles were due to intense stage parents who made poor choices around her becoming a star so young.
I am struggling in much the same way. It sounds so much easier to die at this age than to endure what continues. Iām sorry for her, butā¦I know.
Edit (aka what I really want to say): Thank you, each kind person who has heard my feelings, felt something in response, and chose compassion and kindness when we all know it is easier to choose those bad moods in those moments when our feelings are so big that it is hard to see outside those moments and listen to other human beings who choose love. You know, You. Thank you for being you. I will do my best to be me as long as you do your best to be you.
"death is lighter than a feather. Duty is heavier than mountains". I've battled addiction for my whole life. It sucks and each day is a new fight. Good days and good moments are worth it. But giving up the fight is always sitting there watching us. Stay strong and hold to what you need to hold onto. It is worth it to be here.
Also of similar age as her and having an existential crisis with this news. I haven't been this shocked by a celebrity's death since Robin Williams. I also struggle with mental health and it's hard for me to comprehend how she accomplished so much despite her struggles. Like I feel like I don't make any progress despite trying every day.
Anyway, I really enjoyed her work. Gonna have to watch Heroes in her honor.
Out of curiosity - did Chester Benningtonās death hit you as well? That one was super raw and also linked to mental health and previous abuse šš¢
I still have days where I am fucked up over Chesterās suicide. CSA is like this rotten seed that gets planted inside you, and no matter how good your life looks from the outside you can feel the darkness clawing at you from within. Mad love to anyone else fighting the good fight. The horrors persist but so do we.
As someone who's experienced a lot of abuse I really find this kind of mentality to be self defeating and disheartening.
It absolutely doesn't have to always claw away at you. Just because something doesn't just disappear doesn't mean it has to leave a nasty scar. It takes a ton of work and effort, there's plenty of bad days, sometimes it feels like things are regressing, but it gets much better.
This idea of it just always being present gnawing away at you and you're doomed just because it happened is terrible and not some inevitability.
People really need to stop talking like going through bad things is some permanent stain and that's just it for you. It pushes people who have already been kicked down further in many cases, and can make wallowing in pain seem like the only choice. This isn't the case.
You can talk about your experience or say something can feel that way etc. not saying you can't, but this talk like it's just the gold standard and hopeless for everyone is problematic and a lot of people feel very comfortable doing it.
I'm a CSA survivor and I agree with this. Of course everyone is different, but I'm fortunate in that it hasn't scarred me to the point that I feel defeated. Again, obviously that's not the case for everyone, (and that's totally understandable) but it can be true for some of us.
No but Chris Cornell's death did hit me just prior. My musical tastes varied and for some reason I wasn't as familiar with Chester as I was with Chris. We've lost some good people.
You've probably watched it before, but The Pretty Reckless had been on tour with Chris at the time of his death. They still played at Rock on the Range a few days later and Taylor sang "Like a Stone." It is heartbreaking.
And for us Buffy fans, it's four actors gone; with Anthony Head (Rupert Giles) dying this June and Nicholas Brendon (Xander Harris) back in March. And add Sam Neill to the mix now that both he and Head passed away from pneumonia!
Forget torpedoes, my nostalgia is being nuked out of the water!
I just found out. In between personal tragedies and the loss of Sam Neill, I guess him dying similarly is why he slipped from the newsfeed. I was wondering why he was missing in the new Ted Lasso season.
Such a heartbreaking picture. Michelleās passing hit me hard, as I grew up watching multiple things she was in, and now feel similar after seeing Hayden pass.Ā
It is. I was born in the early 80s and i already have noticed a signicant loss in quality of life in the city. My country is literally on fire every summer now yay.
Same. And my city is already suffering through drought with questions on whether we'll still have potable water in 50 years. That was long before 3 massive data centers started being built within the same zipcode. Forget having a home, nowadays I wonder if I can still live in my home city when I become an elder.
I was just rewatching Heroes and was having a good time. It's such a time capsule of show. I don't think I can finish after hearing the news. This is so heartbreaking and unexpected.
I think her mother was somewhat abusive and used Hayden so she became a commodity and not an actual daughter or a child to her mother and that's why they've been estrangedĀ
Her mother has a lot to do with all the issues she had
Parents who put their kid in 50 ads before 5 cannot be trusted. Whenever I read something like that, I immediately judge despite not being judgemental in general. Having said that, her parents still lost their last remaining kid and I can't help but feel bad for them.
Yeah for sure, I actually am pretty judgemental and sceptical about any child star and their parents TBH, a big part of why so many child stars go off the rails is because they never had that foundation at home I'm the first place and then were given away to such a horrific industryĀ
For sure, they lost their remaining child, although what hand they had in her demise is not lost on me and the fact her mother closed the door on a relationship with her because Hayden asked that it just be mother/daughter and no business is very telling, she didn't actually want a daughter, she wanted a productĀ
I had to call for someone else in crisis and I will never call again. it was such a horrible, demoralizing process. I know itās a tough job, but like, an ounce of sympathy or care is really needed in those moments
When I called (about 10 years ago) I was stuck into a queue of 16. The absurdity of so many people calling for help kind of threw me out of it and I hung up after just a few seconds.
I tried calling once when I was really in a bad place. The person on the phone was so dismissive and rude, she was really sternly telling me to ājust stop crying!ā and wouldnāt listen to me at all. And kept scolding me.
Iām doing better now, but I would never call them again if I was in a bad way. It made everything 1000x worse. I was just scared and feeling alone, that phone operator made me actually feel like I shouldnāt exist anymore even though I wasnāt at that point when I called. Thankfully I found the strength to call someone I actually knew for help.
I get that burn out happens; but I wonder how many deaths that personās attitude contributed to. She should have never been in that position if she was that nasty and hostile of a person.
She shared before about her postpartum depression and that she used alcohol and drugs to cope. Itās why she relinquished custody of her daughter to the father. She said something like she knows sheās not fit to take care of her daughter.
I just googled after commenting (should have first) and was shocked to see that. My mom is an alcoholic and a lot in my family suffer from alcoholism so I understand. This one feels so unexpected to me.
I made that error before (cause i wrongly associate Vlad = Mayor) haha, thanks for catching that i corrected myself. Theyāre pretty involved in each otherās lives, so sad for both of them and Kaya.
I like that these two replies are polar opposite but both are the shittiest thing you could possibly say to a person in mourning. Two sides of the same coin
I read she had been traveling with her on-again boyfriend. The one she wrote about abusing her. Who served jail time for abusing her. Multiple times. I have a feeling this is going to get messy. So so sad.
itās been confirmed they left LA together on a plane yesterday to South Carolina and itās also just been confirmed she passed as a result of an āincidentā that police responded to that is under investigation. doesnāt sound good š
This poor girl. I have struggled with a lot of things in my life and luckily had a support system that helped me get through to the other side. Itās so tough seeing people struggle and not prevail.
I hope she passed peacefully. I have enjoyed so many of her roles throughout her career and hoped she would heal. No assumptions as to what happened to her, but I hope she passed knowing the impact she had on her industry and had people in her life who made her know she was loved and valued.
I audibly said, "WHAT!?" I haven't really followed her career since Heroes, but I loved that show. I know she is younger than me, so this is a bit of a shock.
From what I have heard her parents laid a lot of baggage on her. First instict is to feel sympathy for them, I am not sure how much if any they deserve
Her 12 year old daughter on the other hand deserves and needs all the sympathy and support possible. Losing your mother that young changes your life and outlook massively.
I really thought she was on the upbound. She just did interviews about her book. This is so sudden and tragic. Her adult life had been nothing but stress and tragedies so I understand how it took a toll on her. It doesn't take away the depressing melancholy of this.
I could have sworn that she was in the news maybe 2-3 months ago for releasing a book in which she claimed a well known person in the entertainment industry, who was in his mid-30ās at the time it occurred, had his assistant bring her to his bedroom, saying he was hung like a horse, as he laid naked in the bed?
I believe this happened on a yacht. She didnāt name the guy, but if I remember correctly, she said he was in the music business.
She said she had just turned 18 at the time, and felt completely trapped as she couldnāt just exit the yacht and such.
And now, this. Seems just a trifle suspiciousā¦
ETA:
She was great as Amanda Knox. Thatās the only thing I believe I ever saw her in. I donāt remember the name of the movie or tv show that it was, but she looked a LOT like her in it.
ETA 2:
It was apparently named Ananda Knox: Murder on Trial in Italy
She was interviewed by jay shetty and spoke about it. There are so many possibilities from a heart condition to addiction to murder. No way to tell yet, but I hate them all. I thought sheād reach the other side of the tunnel one day.
KH and Heroes were the first things to come to mind when I saw the news...grew up during my high school years hearing Hayden as Kairi (she'll always be Kairi to me, even though she stopped voicing her after KH2 and DDD), then in college watching her on Heroes. So sad and 36 is so incredibly young, RIP.
Parents who allow/force their children to be working actors really do them a disservice. If your kid loves to perform, sign them up for a community theater program. Thereās no reason to expose them to the ups and downs of auditioning, volatility of the adults on set, or flashing lights of the red carpet. Let kids be kids.
I used to work on films and commercials. My co-worker wore the most penis-looking Tenacious D t-shirt along with a button on his jacket that had āFUCKā on it. There was a little kid on set and I told him he should probably cover or take it off in front of kids.
He was completely fine with doing so, it simply didnāt occur to him. The children were props weād see for one day and it doesnāt occur to people to act differently
I take it from her recent promotion of new projects. This wasnāt some illness but unfortunately, something more sad like suicide or accidental overdose, etc.. however even though Iām not too familiar with her career, I never came across hearing about her having any addiction issues or the such.
But I tell you when celebrities are dying younger than your own age and you still feel young, it definitely hits hard even though Iām not a celebrity fan boy in any sense.
Her and Michelle both have shocked me. When I see a celebrity death announcement, I expect it to be someone who was already an adult when I was a child. I don't expect it to be someone my age or younger, someone who was in Disney movies released during my childhood.
This is so sad. I feel for her family, her daughter especially.
Iāve read sheās had her battle with severe PPD when she first became a mother. I followed her ex/husband since I follow boxing for a long time and found their relationship interesting. Either way, sad to see her go so young since sheās only a couple years older than me and my wife. Very unfortunate.
And they still donāt do nearly enough for child stars. Iām heartbroken for her and all those before and after, who werenāt able to experience life outside of the spotlight, from such a vulnerable age. Getting older not only means seeing more death in life, but also having to see people lose themselves over time.
Yea her parents sound like they contributed to this result. People who harm children are the lowest level of life. But people who profit from it are somehow far worse.
š„ŗš„ŗššš The is heartbreaking. Iāve watched her work as weāve aged as Iām a year younger than her. I know she had some struggles and especially dealing with the loss of her brother. I hope she finds peace. And prayers for her daughter.
AP News just broke it for me, no mames! I know she was struggling with depression, but she just launched her book! She looked like she was recovering. I just passed through her IG account as a recommendation. Plenty of our celebrities from our youths are passing in these already tragic times. This year is getting worse and worse.
May she finally find peace through decades of insanity. I feel for her family for going through so much tragedy with the loss of her and her brother. I really do.
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