Finally Banged a Senior Citizen!

[u/AdventurousAnnual295]

Edit: The number of you that age shamed me with call it sex, not spicy sleep really? I have also been asked about the starter kit. That was just what I called it. I purchased a few things at the same time. I will add links at the bottom if I can, as to what I bought.

Second, my goal was actually just to help anyone going through this. I was feeling pretty alone in my journey. My friends were not having issues at the time. My Doctors dismissed me and my symptoms a lot. I was not good at advocating for myself, and sometimes I honestly thought I was going insane. Anyway here are the links. I also encourage anyone to check the menopause sub. That is where I found a lot of support.

First time posting, long-time lurker. I am a woman of a certain age. I went through menopause early at 45. (Shout-out to all my Gen-X rockstars that are dealing with periomen now; I promise it is better on the other side!) Things were ok for a while, but as time and age do, things started to not quite work as they should. Spicy sleep became painful, and I was diagnosed with atrophy. I went to a menopause specialist and asked for help. Here, use this cream and go home was basically all I got. Went back and said it's not working....try more. All this to say that spicy sleep was pretty much non-existent from that point on. My dear sweet husband never complained, never made me feel bad, never pressured. He hated seeing me in pain when we tried. So we had a dead bed for close to a year. I asked one night in January how he felt about it, and he said honestly, it was killing him. Because he missed us. I was determined to fix all of it, and I took to where else? Reddit for advice. After a lot of investigating, I basically bought the "fix your V@g started kit on Amazon and went to work. ( I also got a new OBGYN that actually listened to me) Lube, Kegel weights, estrogen cream ect. And after a few weeks and a lot of exercises, we tried again. And it worked finally! We slowly have been starting to have more spicy sleeps; this week was 3 times! My Husband tuned 55 in June, and of course we "celebrated" a certain way. After we were lying in bed talking, he said: "Well, you finally got to bang a senior citizen." I'm so lucky to have him as my person. Don't give up, ladies!

Last night's dinner: ricotta pesto with basil from my garden, fettuccine. Finally could sit outside because the wildfire smoke was gone for a minute!

Kegal weights

AH! Yes VM

Elrisme-Estriol-Cream

[u/GorgeousUnknown]

Luv this for you. Ladies, if your doctor isn’t listening…look for another immediately. Please don’t support or pay people that gaslight you…whatever their paper credentials are.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/GorgeousUnknown]

Yes this! The worst part was that she was a woman! It was so disheartening, and I put off going back till my PCP told me I had to and recommended a new place. I went in with all my questions and told them what happened with this DR. The NP literally stopped and said, "OK, what are your concerns?" I almost cried!

[u/Vast_Lecture → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

I think this is an example of a much deeper issue in American healthcare and medical research. When men start having lower levels of testosterone, there is an immediate trigger in medical providers’ thinking to put them on hormone replacement therapy. When women have lower levels of estrogen, most doctors don’t treat it like a serious issue. That leads to women suffering for years. Hormone replacement therapy should be more widely used and prescribed by doctors. Low estrogen and going through menopause, which is the total stop of estrogen is not healthy for women. It’s not just lack of intimacy. It’s things like bone density being impacted. I wish there was like a list of doctors that specialize in menopause care because it’s not something that women have to suffer in silence for years when men have these similar symptoms, medical providers automatically know what type of treatment to give them so they can have a good quality of life.

And if I can really be spicy: this is a political issue as well. Scientific agencies should be funding research into areas like this. Not cutting funding and allowing medical research to continue for things like male patterned baldness when women are literally losing bone density when they go through menopause.

[u/53Thatswhatshesaid53 → u/Vast_Lecture]

There is a list of menopause specialists Menopause Practitioner - Search - By Menopause Society I used this to find a specialist and asked my PCP for a referral to the one closest to me. My 1st appointment is next month (the have a long wait list.) I'm really hoping they will help me.

[u/GorgeousUnknown → u/Vast_Lecture]

100%!!!!

[u/Weird-Knowledge337 → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

Yeah it’s so frustrating because the answer to everything after you’re 40 is “that’s pretty normal for someone your age”. Well, dr it’s not normal for me and it’s making me miserable so could you take 0.5 seconds to consider how to make it better since that’s your literal job?

When I switch to my new place the NP was so kind and supportive I DID cry. Also she thought my previous estrogen cream situation was bananas and got me on a much simpler and better solution (suppository). Also she told me you can put a vitamin E capsule up there to help with keeping everything nice and happy. Just pop it right in! Pro tip for you😉

[u/Defiant-Handle7682 → u/Weird-Knowledge337]

They tell young girls that painful periods are normal- well sure most girls/women will have pain with their periods at some point, but endometriosis is NOT normal and there are many ways to reduce the pain or stop periods altogether. Which is what they should be told.

Just like IUDs should not be put in without offering pain control or to place it under sedation.

[u/all_Murky_no_Lurky → u/Defiant-Handle7682]

I had three gynecologists in my teens who told me the pain was all in my head. I had fevers every month, was I able to get out of the fetal position for at least a full day, etc. Luckily my mom kept looking until we found a doctor who actually believed me and diagnosed my endometriosis. I had three laparoscopies before 25 and am still dealing with symptoms as I slide into perimenopause. It’s a full time job in itself just to find a doctor to believe you and treat you.

[u/Weird-Knowledge337 → u/all_Murky_no_Lurky]

Yup and sadly it doesn’t get better as you get older

[u/Weird-Knowledge337 → u/Weird-Knowledge337]

That’s why I’m in here telling everyone about vaginal atrophy! If drs won’t tell us then we need to tell each other - ya know

[u/GorgeousUnknown → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

I’ve battled NPs like this for different reasons…it’s tough.

[u/Equivalent_Store1384 → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

This is how I felt going to a new OBGYN too 🥹 I’m 25, been suffering extremely painful and egregiously heavy periods since I was 13. My first gyn told me “it’s like this for everyone, you’re not special” and sent me on my way with birth control that didn’t help the pain or heaviness. Had to stop taking it because it made me queasy later on too. (Yes, she was a woman)

10 years later, I finally find the courage to see a different lady and she actually listens and goes “oh honey, you might have PCOS. Let’s go get you some tests.”

Lo and behold! I’m now taking hormone BC and my life has been so much better.

[u/Spiritual_Park3308 → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

I always marvel at the number of times, for a variety of concerns, a doctor has dismissed me but a nurse practitioner listened and was able to able me. I swear by nurse practitioners now.

[u/aurortonks → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

Women doctors have been the worst in my experience. Rarely ever helpful, with the single exception being the midwife that delivered both my kids 20 years ago, she was amazing. Women nurses though, they are healthcare rockstars and I appreciate them so much!

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[u/JapanCamp → u/GorgeousUnknown]

Absolutely! I tried three in my city and they all sucked. Found someone an hour away and she actually listened and is working to fix my issues.

[u/rheumination → u/GorgeousUnknown]

I feel like we are using “not listening” and “gaslighting” as interchangeable terms when they are two different things.

[u/ExtraordinaryNerd → u/rheumination]

I don’t disagree. However, doctors are kind of infamous for gaslighting the shit out of women.

[u/rheumination → u/ExtraordinaryNerd]

I see people say that a lot, but when they describe specific situations, it always sounds like women are ignored. That’s obviously a huge problem but it’s also different than gaslighting which involves a few different very specific behaviors. 

I’m not trying to defend how the medical system treats women. I’m just trying to clarify: do we think doctors are engaging in actual gaslighting or are they simply dismissing problems and not listening? Take a look at the definition of gaslighting and let me know what you think.

[u/ExtraordinaryNerd → u/rheumination]

Not being an expert here, I can really only speak from personal experience and also having had a ton of anecdotal experience. My mother was told for years that her pain was in her head or that her pain was a result of having children or that it was this that or the other thing. She had a hysterectomy. Her uterus lining was the thickest the doctors had ever seen. She was bleeding to extremes nearly every month.

Myself was told repeatedly that it was just cause I was fat. It was arthritis. It was this that or the other thing. No there was a vestigial piece of tendon in my knee that had stretched tight and was not being seen by any scans. And every time I walked, it would get radically, inflamed, and caused extreme pain. I lived with that for years. They didn’t wanna bother looking closer.

Medical dismissal of pain by doctors towards women is a scientifically documented thing that I’m certain someone smarter than I could research and look up and provide citations for I just know that it exists

[u/rheumination → u/ExtraordinaryNerd]

The idea behind gaslighting is that the person knows what the truth is and his intentionally misleading the person, making them feel crazy as a form of control.

For example, when you talk about your knee it sounds like they listened to you, took your pain seriously, performed scans, and the scans didn’t show anything.  It sounds l like they didn’t know what to do next since they couldn’t find the problem. In fact, it sounds like you know know what the problem is so somebody did eventually listen to you and figure it out.

So the question is, were they intentionally not telling you about the problem and gaslighting or were they just not sure what the problem was? Those are different things.

[u/ExtraordinaryNerd → u/rheumination]

I could type out this whole argument, but I’m not going to. You’re not going to listen. Gaslighting isn’t knowing the truth…. It’s about the control. So you’re half right. Regardless, you’re not here with good intentions so I am bowing out.

[u/GorgeousUnknown → u/rheumination]

I consider it gaslighting by a doctor if you go in with issues and they act like it’s normal, there’s nothing you can do, and you’re crazy for asking. They can do this by saying exactly what OP said she said…”so what is the problem”.

[u/rheumination → u/GorgeousUnknown]

“ they act like it’s normal”

Her original doctor didn’t act like it was normal. In fact they diagnosed vaginal atrophy which is not normal. They also prescribed estrogen cream. They wouldn’t have prescribed something if things were normal. 

“Act like there’s nothing they can do“

That happened but that’s not gaslighting. That’s Weaponized incompetence.

“Act like you’re crazy for asking”

This is the part never happened in this scenario.

The definition of gaslighting you provided isn’t consistent with the definition of gaslighting and it also doesn’t describe this situation very well. The situation better be described as a doctor initially listening, diagnosing a problem, prescribing first line treatment, and then no longer listening or providing any subsequent treatment. That’s bad, but is that gaslighting? Not by any definition I’m aware of.

[u/gatorgopher]

Ahem, 65 is when "senior citizen" starts. I am 59, I shall not be aged before my time! I reject your senior citizen label! 😉 But also, good for you for figuring that mess out. Have you been the the menopause sub? It's lovely and informative there.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/gatorgopher]

According to AARP it is lol. Hell, they started sending stuff to the house when we turned 50! That sub is where I went originally.

[u/timory → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

dude they've been sending me shit since my 30s

[u/skidmore101 → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

My sister got an AARP invitation when she turned 18 😂

[u/[deleted] → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

My husband is 2 years older than me and signed up first. So I got my AARP card before I was old enough to join. Lol. 😆

[u/Coriandercilantroyo → u/[deleted]]

There's no age requirement

[u/lil_liberal → u/gatorgopher]

My mom started getting a senior citizen discount when she was 55

[u/ShareEvening5856]

This was such a wholesome read and absolutely not what I was expecting from the title. Go you!

[u/EmmGoSep → u/ShareEvening5856]

My thoughts exactly!

[u/TheThiefEmpress → u/ShareEvening5856]

The title lured me in, too!

I'm in peri and damn do some doctors feel absolutely NO type of way about it. Seriously acting like I'm a hysterical woman who's uterus fell out because the train went too fast, and a lobotomy would just fix me right up! Legit happy for OP, we don't deserve to be ignored and gaslit like we are!

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[u/ComfortableFrame9834 → u/ShareEvening5856]

Same, it was a risky click for me lol

[u/hollowtear]

What's spicy sleep?

[u/malendalayla → u/[deleted]]

Yes, I was thinking horny dreams - like maybe getting turned on in her sleep was giving her pain? It took me a second.

[u/Massive-Fly284 → u/hollowtear]

[u/FeedbackFirst1589 → u/hollowtear]

I was thinking indigestion/ acid reflux 😆

[u/syluswife → u/hollowtear]

sex!!😝

[u/hollowtear → u/syluswife]

Thank you, I was picturing someone cuddled up with some sirracha.

OP just say sex.

[u/RichHomiesSwan]

Girl just say sex lmao what the hell is spicy sleep (happy for you though)

[u/ExtraordinaryNerd → u/RichHomiesSwan]

Spicy sleep had me dying

[u/TeamLaurent → u/RichHomiesSwan]

The giggle approach with this comment is fine by me, but PSA to the room: Rule Three includes ignoring grammar, spelling, slang, and I’ll add: euphemisms or silly phrasing, that you don’t like. Read for the point, and let’s don’t nitpick literacy stuff for cringe please :)

[u/aledba]

Great success 😁

[u/Weekly-Bill-1354]

55 is considered a senior citizen?

[u/nyx926 → u/Weekly-Bill-1354]

No. It’s 65 in the U.S.

[u/lil_liberal → u/nyx926]

My mom started getting senior discounts at age 55 (official ones—she had to show her license lol)

[u/nyx926 → u/lil_liberal]

Retail discounts for age aren’t the same thing as US government classification.

[u/lil_liberal → u/nyx926]

I understand that, but I figured that’s why OP’s partner was jokingly calling themselves a senior citizen

[u/Weird-Knowledge337]

Good for you! And ditto on switching drs if yours isn’t listening. For me, peri gave me UTI-like pain all day every day bc of vaginal atrophy - NOT GOOD. Was on 2 different creams. Finally switched drs, started HRT and an estrogen suppository that works so much better. All good down there now - she’s feeling 22! (But with no periods! Yay!)

Ladies - pay attention bc no one told me about vaginal atrophy when estrogen levels decline. And I was out here thinking I had multiple UTIs or BV - was doing all the wrong things probably making it worse and in total misery. Just because we don’t talk about this stuff. But it’s normal, it’s not weird or freakish and it’s pretty easily fixable with a dr who listens!

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Weird-Knowledge337]

Thank you for saying that. No one told me either till I went for a yearly and almost screamed in pain. The suppositories did not work for me as well as the estrogen cream does. My NP said that sometimes is the case. She's feeling 22! I love it!

[u/BlueDaBeast2408]

[u/Prudence_rigby]

As a grown up, this would have been a much easier read if your used words like sex and not "spicy."

That was confusing to read.

[u/tertiaryphase]

I’m so happy for you both! And also to hear that things can get better with atrophy. (Also, I’m genuinely relieved this was not a dentures-meet-lady-parts story, not that there’s anything wrong with it.)

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/tertiaryphase]

That's why I posted it. No one really helped me back then, and most of my Gen were not going through it, so there weren't a lot of people talking about menopause. Now my girlfriends are dealing with it, and I'm able to give them some advice.

[u/tertiaryphase → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

Thank you so much! :) Wishing you both all the best.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/tertiaryphase]

Dentures meet lady parts made me snort coffee through my nose btw!

[u/obfc]

Yay!!! This makes me so happy!!! My spouse and I have to stop fairly often because I end up in pain too— it makes me happy when other women share stories of their spouses being totally respectful when it comes to sex. I feel like that’s hard to come by sadly

[u/Weary_Surround5342]

I love this for you!! 

[u/pomegranateseeds37]

Wholesome as hell love this for you!! A supportive partner, community posts, and doctors that actually give af and listen. The holy Trinity.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/pomegranateseeds37]

[u/lunagalixy]

Cervical cancer meant I went through menopause at 30. Killed me that I thought such a huge part of me had just, died. I was wrong. Combinations of hormones, treatment and self love bought it back. It is possible.

[u/FeralAKan13]

Let no one tell you that this isn’t fixable. Find a clinic that focuses perimenopause and menopause, there’s more and more. I know 2: Phases Clinic in WA (https://www.phasesclinic.com/shoreline) and Intuitive Ayurveda (https://www.intuitiveayurveda.com/). The average PCP and even OB/GYN gets maybe a couple hours training in their schooling.

[u/WoodpeckerGingivitis]

is spicy sleep brain rot for sex? JFC

[u/Old-Ad3504]

you gotta use a term besides "spicy sleep"... thought you meant like wet dreams at first. you can just say sex if u want its not censored here

[u/Base_0]

Not a shade but spicy sleep is sex? I was reading first thinking it's typo, then nightmares or something until your last sentences 😅

[u/Botboy141]

Dr. Rachel Rubin on Diary of a CEO a few weeks ago, did a great job educating me (a dude) on this, and helped my spouse as well.

https://youtu.be/MM-Qhlxf1pM?is=vfXJMtKN3aG1mwHh

[u/TeamLaurent → u/Botboy141]

🪄✨

[u/Transgirlonakawasaki]

Lmao I was not expecting that at all but omg does that man have a good sense of humor. Also what a man to put his wife before his member, like I'm sure yall have been together for a while but it seems hes a keeper.

And congratz on getting proper care finally!  Happy humping friend.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Transgirlonakawasaki]

Thank you! Together 21 years on July 30th. Married 11. I was married once before, so we met later in life after my divorce. We went to the same college but didn't really know each other well and we reconnected in a Yahoo chat room, of all things!

[u/DryState5641]

I’m 45 and a couple nights ago I felt like my mind was breaking from reality. My husband of 23 years held me and comforted me while I was freaking out. I think I might be starting meno but not sure. I’m glad you and your husband worked it out in the bedroom, it’s the best feeling to know your partner is always there to have your back.

[u/Aynitsa → u/DryState5641]

Perimenopause can start 10 years before menopause so it’s likely and it’s a bitch. Itchy ears, frozen shoulder, bad sleep in addition to mood swings

[u/Flahdagal]

Put some links in for the "fix your vag" kit for some of us crones on here. I have the cream (lifesaver, omg, thank you, Dr K.) but what else is out there?

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Flahdagal]

I can update with it later once I'm on my laptop!

[u/Manic-StreetCreature]

Awww yay

[u/thislittlelight93]

I have the opposite problem. My libido ramped up with peri (felt like a teenager again) but I pretty much reclaimed my virginity about 10 yrs ago due husband's problems. Started HRT recently & provider keeps asking about sexual health; next time I'm probably gonna just answer blatantly. "Would love to get laid but will probably have to get divorced first"

[u/imyourdruidess420]

I was so scared it was going to be another post of a young 20 something talking about the grossly older man she was banging. Very glad it was not.

That having been said, congratulations!! I am very happy for you.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/[deleted]]

I can assure you it is not. I am a real person; this is really what happened. I didn't promote any brands.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/[deleted]]

I came to Reddit and looked at a sub about menopause. They recommended the weights and lube that they were using. I use the weights 3 times a week and do exercises. You can gradually use a heavier weight.

[u/BajaPineapple]

What is a "fix your vag" kit on Amazon? I can't find anything with that name. Link?

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/BajaPineapple]

Ha! That's just what I called it! I will post some links to what I used in an update later for you!

[u/AdministrativeBug161]

Such an important PSA!!! Find drs who listen to you! Thank you for sharing, OP.
Get ittttttttttttttttt!!!

[u/WorkerHumble6072]

I love this for you! Way to persist and find a solution that helps your spicy time and connection with your partner. And the food looks great!

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[u/hgielatan]

Yasss girl yasss! Happy for you queen!

[u/NetPurple5019]

Awww this is so sweet! Love that he was patient and understanding with you 🩷

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[u/hislovingwife]

awesome!!!! its so good to get a dr who actually listens and then helps. We pay so much, we deserve treatment!

[u/clarkspeach23]

Yayayay! So excited for you!!

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[u/Entire-Oil9595]

Wait, estrogen cream wasn't prescribed the first time?!

I'm just an er doc, and I know this!

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Get it girl!! So happy for both of you and wish you the most lovely time moving forward.

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Happy for both of you😉

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[u/tigrelili]

I love that for yall , I hope for many future smanging for yall

[u/cozywhale]

This makes me so happy. I started perimenopause at 39 and I began HRT at 40. A huge motivation for me to pursue treatment — and not simply suffer through this period — is so that I can show up as a good partner for my husband. And yes, sex! I want to keep having enjoyable, pain-free sex for as long as possible.

Good for you babe.

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[u/Tall-Reaction-4069]

I needed to read that there’s hope in the other side of meno thank you !

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Tall-Reaction-4069]

I'm glad I could help! I am always open to any questions. It is better once you are fully paused.

[u/Emotional-Builder-75]

Woot! Grats! So glad you didn't give up because intimacy with your partner, especially long term being rejuvenated is like honeymoon phase.

[u/Mewperz]

[u/[deleted]]

Elder Gen X checking in - at 58 I’m through the wilderness of menopause and got idgaf.exe installed for free!

We sleep separately but still have fun sleep overs a couple of times a week. I use the estrogen cream and put the extra on my neck/lips. Figure it can’t hurt. Lol

I love my 50’s - I’m so confident about my body and what I want it makes things so much better. Of course at first I had body issues after having three babies. My game changer was realizing I’m the hottest naked woman in the room.

Good on you sister!!

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/[deleted]]

Love this! That is the best thing about my 50's I lost all my give a fucks a long time ago!

[u/wearwolfinlondon]

So happy for you that both of your mature gardens are in bloom- basil pesto looks delish!

[u/Quizleteer]

I was going through this and started treatment over a month ago. Things are finally back on track after a long dry spell. Thank goodness for all the resources and being able to share experiences with other women going through the same thing here on Reddit! I've always embraced my sexual and sensual self and feeling like losing that part of me was so depressing. I'm so excited for us regaining this aspect again!

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[u/ImpossiblePlan65]

I'm glad you found what works for you!

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[u/shidded_farted]

Glad for you! If yall have extreme irritation mixed with crying that goes away when your period starts - check out r/PMDD!

You don't need to live on a roller-coaster

[u/Old_Employer8982]

Link to the starter kit? Asking as a GenX going through peri who also is having issues

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Old_Employer8982]

That's just what I called it. I bought a few things. I'll try to update and add the links.

[u/KorraNHaru]

Me running in here expecting a scandal and getting hit with a sweet story of a loving wife

[u/cookiedux]

dear god people are senior citizens at 55?? I thought it was 65??

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[u/harleenquinzel044]

Spicy sleeps! Hahaha. I’m a millennial but get along really well with Gen X. Good for you!

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/harleenquinzel044]

The number of people with a problem with that statement and not calling it sex on her is really too much.

[u/TeamLaurent → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

Babe you’re fine. 🙄

[u/Sunshine_daisies1234]

This was the best post on here. ❤️

[u/Sunshine_daisies1234 → u/Sunshine_daisies1234]

Lmao why'd I get downvoted...? the lady overcame painful sex and got laid again. How can you not be happy for her? 

[u/TrickAstronaut8609]

This is so cute I love it!!

[u/VioletFay]

Love a story with a happy sexy ending 🎉💜🌸 May the rest of your lives be filled with satisfying spicey sleeps with your husband!

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/VioletFay]

Thank you!

[u/Wittyfem]

44 in menopause and on HRT. My libido has vanished and I cannot find anything that helps. I've been told to add testosterone but I'm not sure if that will help. HRT fixed everything else. Glad you found something that works for you. Happy sex!!!!

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Wittyfem]

I tried testosterone as well. It helped a little but it made me mean. I think I was taking too much.

[u/Wittyfem → u/AdventurousAnnual295]

Oh wow it's crazy how it works differently for some.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/Wittyfem]

I might try again. I did OTC. Now that I have a better Dr. I might ask them.

[u/sweetthang70 → u/Wittyfem]

I recommend at least trying the testostetone. I had zero libido for several years after menopause. Estrogen and progesterone helped with the other menopause issues, but my sex drive was dead and gone which was sooo upsetting. I started a low dose of T this past January. It took a long time to start working but finally after 6 months it just kind of hit and now my libido is back with such a vengeance I think my poor husband is exhausted.

[u/Wittyfem → u/sweetthang70]

That's awesome!!! This gives me hope 😁 I will ask for a low dose on my next appointment.

[u/Finer_Sings_In_Life]

I’m so happy for you!

Yesterday, I found a very in-depth substack regarding female orgasms and I hope—if you get through it—the information can enhance things for you and your senior citizen. 🥰🥰🥰

https://open.substack.com/pub/saraszalmd/p/your-body-has-a-seventh-route-to?r=78qt4y&utm_medium=ios

Happy banging! 🥳🎉🎊

[u/no-sign-oflife]

As a similarly situated Gen X gal I can tell you hormones pallets make a huge difference in the capacity for spicy sleep and energy... A little pricey but so worth it. Look for an anti aging doctor in your area :)

[u/Dependent-Bug1219]

I'm so happy this didn't turn out to be a crazy age gap story. 😭 Happy for you too, enjoy your spicy sleep!

[u/Hyjennaist86]

Hahahaha OP that is the BEST title I’ve seen for a post in a long time!

Congrats, girl!

🤣👏🏼👌🏼

[u/Defiant-Handle7682]

Dr. Jen Gunter's books should be essential reading for all women (and medical professionals who claim to want to help women).

[u/redrotton]

So glad you got the care you needed! and I love "spicy sleep", am totally stealing.

Husbun and I had similar issues post menopause, which my GYN helped us solve with vaginal estrogen. She also pointed out that extreme vaginal dryness/stenosis (we referred to mine as "the Sahara desert") can also promote recurrent UTIs, which are horribly uncomfortable and can literally be deadly if untreated.

So all you ladies of a certain age with dryness, GET HELP!

[u/baconbitsy]

GET IT, YOU SPICY SEXY BEAST!!!!Never forget that you are a FIERCE goddess.  And your husband knows how lucky he is!