r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/WingDairu 4h ago

This thread is full of people who really don't understand the point:

It's not telling you grandparent hugs are bad. It's telling you that ignoring other people's boundaries REGARDING THEIR OWN PHYSICAL BODY is bad.

This is especially important with kids, because it's important to teach kids that they're allowed to exercise bodily autonomy. If kids aren't taught that, it becomes far easier for someone to take advantage of them being trained to allow touching they don't want because they feel like they have to.

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u/DonnyShutup2019 3h ago

Yes! Literally had this today when visiting my mom. She asked "who wants to give a nan hug?" My son gave her a big hug, my daughter opted not too and gave her a big wave instead and shouted "love ya nana". And my mom respected her decision. Its so simple

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u/aint_exactly_plan_a 1h ago

We taught our daughters from an early age that they get to choose who they hug and who they don't and it's ok to say no if they don't want a hug. The first time my 3 year old said "No thank you" when my mom wanted a hug, my mom put on a big, exaggerated sad face. I said "Nope... we don't do that. If they say they don't want a hug, we respect that and make sure they know it's ok".

I think my mom was taken aback at first but quickly came to see the light. We grew up in the "You have to give everyone hugs if they want one" generation and it was awful.

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u/Darkwoth81Dyoni 26m ago

We grew up in the "You have to give everyone hugs if they want one" generation and it was awful.

I grew up feeling like this for years, but as time goes on I'm almost regretting being as adamant about it as I was. I'm extremely worried that, like many things, some parents will take this to the extreme and allow a small child to be a recluse because of 'consent'. Now my thoughts are towards finding a middle ground. Even a young kid needs to know that rejecting a couple hugs if they are uncomfortable isn't the same as never accepting human contact.

10 years ago? Sure, I was bitchy and didn't want to hug anyone.

Now I regret that I was allowed to be like that. People think I don't want anything to do with them, now.

If I could go back in time I would have hugged everyone WAY more.