r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/WingDairu 4h ago

This thread is full of people who really don't understand the point:

It's not telling you grandparent hugs are bad. It's telling you that ignoring other people's boundaries REGARDING THEIR OWN PHYSICAL BODY is bad.

This is especially important with kids, because it's important to teach kids that they're allowed to exercise bodily autonomy. If kids aren't taught that, it becomes far easier for someone to take advantage of them being trained to allow touching they don't want because they feel like they have to.

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u/DonnyShutup2019 3h ago

Yes! Literally had this today when visiting my mom. She asked "who wants to give a nan hug?" My son gave her a big hug, my daughter opted not too and gave her a big wave instead and shouted "love ya nana". And my mom respected her decision. Its so simple

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u/introgirlie 2h ago

This is the way. I mean why would anyone want to hug someone who doesn't want it? It's so controlling

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u/Misses_Ding 2h ago

As someone who grew up always having to give hugs and kisses and receive them. I did not want them and often still don't. It's about them. They want it so they'll take it.

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u/theatermouse 1h ago

and often still don't

The wild thing is, at least for me, I probably would be/would have been more open to hugs etc. now if they hadn't been forced on me when I was younger!!

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u/MooneyOne 2h ago

Damn. I do this to my cat because he’s so cute. Am I the baddie?

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u/lavendermoonoracle 1h ago

Exactly! If a kid doesn't want to hug or high five or even wave, that's fine! I am an adult and can regulate my feelings.

I saw my cousin recently and her baby started crying because he didn't want to interact with me. She started apologizing, and I was like "You don't need to apologize for a baby crying!" It doesn't hurt my feelings if a baby cries around me lol. It's a baby.

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u/DazzlingAd7021 1h ago

For centuries children (and women) have been seen as the property of their fathers and all the other men in their life tangentially. We're just now coming to grips with the idea that EVERY human being deserves bodily autonomy. 

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u/Fun-Proposal5391 35m ago

The other party not wanting it is part of the point.