r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 4h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/FindjeanniePDX 4h ago

I let my kid choose hug or no hug and she was always a good judge.

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u/sunshinerf 3h ago

My former best friend would always make his kid hug everyone when came by. They love to host and have guests more often than not. Whenever I would come in and she didn't feel like giving me a hug he would mad at her, and I would say no. You don't have to hug me if you don't want to, but if you do want to I would LOVE a hug. Guess who she would turn to when get-together got overwhelming for her? Without fail, she would go e me this look that I knew meant she needs a time out. I'd go to her, she'd ask if I can go to her room with her, and we'd lay on the floor in the dark looking at the glow in the dark stars on her ceiling or look at her new shoes or read a story. I was her safe space when she needed to get away from people.

I miss that kid a lot, it's unfortunate her parents turned into raging bigots I want nothing to do with.

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u/AlaeOrbis 2h ago

Man I wish men could do this. I always love kids. If I could, I would love to be the kind of person I wish was there for me as a kid. But dear god, if a man went into a room alone with a kid at a party or a get-together the amount of "he's creepy" or rumors or allegations would be insane.

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u/sunshinerf 2h ago

I never had any such thoughts about people I know well and am close with. I'm sure her parents wouldn't have been comfortable with that if it was a woman they weren't close with either, nor would they mind if it was a man they were close with. If you have a strong bond with a child no one who knows that bond would assume you're a predator.