r/Damnthatsinteresting • u/ArcherVisible5866 • 5h ago

Video New controversial Ad in Ireland about consent

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u/mostly_lurking 5h ago

If you think this is controversial you might have a boundary problem.

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u/Early_Particular9170 5h ago edited 3h ago

Agreed. I was a kid whose consent got ignored for things like hugs and kisses. At multiple points, my mom physically forced a kiss on me after I had verbally told her no. It feels awful to have your boundaries ignored when it comes to your own body, and it’s a dangerous lesson to teach a child.

She once gave a stranger consent to take a photo of me before I could give an answer. I had been an adult for years at that point. Some parents genuinely think their children are extensions of themselves rather than an autonomous human being with agency.

ETA: My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive throughout my childhood in ways that caused (professionally diagnosed) PTSD. That kind of thing changes how a person views affection from a parent.

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u/HouseofFeathers 4h ago

My mom has told me on multiple occasions that parents own their children.

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u/NekoArtemis 4h ago

Hey I've heard that one too. That and variations on "I brought you into this world I can take you out." 

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u/Early_Particular9170 4h ago

Ditto! And everything I owned, whether a gift or something I bought for myself, belonged to them and they could take it away at any time.