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u/bluepushkin 3h ago

I was the first child in my parent's friend group, first kid in my generation for my family. I was hugged and kissed constantly. Didn't like it. Ever. No one ever cared that I didn't like it. It was funny to watch a baby, then a toddler and then a child bawl their eyes out and try to get away from grabby adults. Guess who is now 35 years old and still doesn't like people touching them? It's me.

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u/TangerineNo7118 3h ago

I’m the EXACT same.

I had a funny interaction recently! I don’t like hugging people (only if I haven’t seen them for a very long time or on special occasions). Met this girl a few days ago, we hugged when we met, I didn’t like it but I’m used to it at this point. When we were saying bye, she asked me if I mind hugging when saying hello. I told her no, I don’t mind and you know I really meant it. Was thinking about it all the way home. Literally just because she asked and because I no longer felt obligated or weird for not enjoying this social interaction I didn’t mind doing it.

I’m 27 and this was the first time someone has asked me this.

All my life I refused, was clearly not enjoying/uncomfortable, no one ever cares. Sure it’s just a hug! 😩 horrible stuff.

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u/aaronious03 2h ago

I'm typically a hugger. Hug my brothers, friends, etc. My sister in law doesn't like hugs, so we first bump when saying goodbye. And that's totally fine. Every now and then, she'll ask for a hug, and that's cool too.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting hugs.

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u/indicabunny 1h ago

I don't mind hugging but I always ask "Can I give you a hug?" if I haven't seen someone in a while, or saying goodbye, or saying thank you, whatever it is, its just so much more polite than assuming.

I don't get overly offended when people just hug me but when they ask first it shows that they care about how you feel as a person. I like people who are conscientious of others and I try to be that way too.

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u/100_cats_on_a_phone 25m ago

I've been told I'm the most awkward hugger. I do a half arm and shoulder pat. I take some pride in that.

With my close people I do sometimes real hug, or just lean.

I've also been told, unprompted, I give amazing hugs. But it's always someone I'm comfortable with I'm trying to comfort or provide a feeling of support to. Even if a stranger. And it's more about hitting the right pressure spots to help someone relax while hitting none of the wrong ones, and using your arms, not your hands -- keeping your hands where they aren't near anything.

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u/ratrazzle 1h ago

Kinda same. I like to hug close friends or my partner but im very picky about it and used to hate all touch. Now that ive had few friends ask if i mind i actually really like cuddling with them. It is nice.