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I KNEW IT middle seat asking the aisle seat to swap for a MIDDLE seat? Bitch fuck no. Book your shit in advance and/or pay the extra to pick your seat. “I just miss my husband” for a 10-hour flight…bitch how the fuck do you work a day job with this toddler separation anxiety
My money is on the husband did book their seating: her up here, him back there, and each with middle seats so people are less apt to trade. “Sorry, honey! The airline messed up our seats again!”
I had an airline bump my wife and I from our seats (that we paid extra for) and put us not next to each other. It was because a family booked their kids not next to them and didn’t pay extra to be together. Seems totally fair but even after complaining I couldn’t get the money back that we paid to pick our seats.
I didn’t cry the whole time though lol
Yeah, no... that's a write to corporate and blast them on social media until they respond type thing.
You can't pay extra for them to withdraw the service you paid for and then have them keep that money. You essentially paid to subsidize a stranger's kids' tickets. Just, no.
I was getting on a connecting flight once when i saw my brother waiting to board. We ended up in the same row. He was on the left aisle seat. I was in the right middle. There was one dude between up, right aisle seat.
We asked him to swap with my brother. Aisle for an aisle, just switch sides.
Maybe I'm weird, but I prefer to lean to my left. So when I book a window seat it's on the left side of the plane so I can lean on the wall, and an aisle will be the right side so I can lean on the armrest. I could see someone declining to swap out of their selected spot.
I don't ever want to sit in a middle seat and neither does my husband. We both prefer window seats so we usually just pick those in two consecutive rows. We're spending our whole damn lives together. I don't need to see him on the flight. It's a few hours of just quietly reading, watching a movie, or taking a nap.
My wife wants to sit by me 100% of the time, so we do what any reasonable person does... and pays the extra so we are sitting next to eachother.
Price of being married I guess. This lady should have at minimum offered 100$. Seat swaps are you get the SHITTIER seat, or you pay money. You dont get upgraded for free, thats bullshit
This happened to me once. Guy in the middle seat asked for my aisle seat because his friend was in the aisle seat across from me. I obviously said no. Flight takes off and it turns out the middle seat next to his friend was open. The guy didn’t move to that middle seat to sit with his friend though. Funny how that works.
Another option would be to pay the person you are asking to swap with. It would probably cost more money than booking them together originally, but it is an option she could have tried. Instead she just thought she could guilt trip and annoy her way into the seat.
Also, even if the woman had swapped with her she still wouldn't have been next to her husband, just a couple of feet closer. Almost certainly she just wanted an aisle seat and it had nothing to do with her husband.
That’s just good life advice for many situations in life. Don’t stay at a miserable job, don’t stay in a miserable friend group, don’t stay in a miserable routine.
My mom would have told her did she want her to really give her something to cry about. She used to say that to us when we were kids. Now she’s 90 and she dgaf she tells people whatever she wants.
The crier sounds ridiculously needy. Also, like she uses the crying to bully people into acquiescing. An aisle seat for a middle seat is not a fair trade.
Considering her husband, I'm sure he all like "I don't need to buy, I get it for free from all waterworks she always performing out in private & out in public..."
I have bad news honey. There arent any seats beside each other left. I even called the airline and spoke to the ceo personally. He said nothing could be done.
Seriously! When this happened to my husband and I I jokingly said to him, "I'm going to go make new friends! See you soooooon!" Haha I did end up making a new friend with the lady next to me 🤣 I can't imagine asking someone to move let alone cry about it for 3 HOURS! 🤣
White dude here. Had a young white lady ask me once to change so she could sit with her newly wed husband. I said sure. Got stuck between a 400lb priest and an old lady. Spent the eight hour flight pushed over onto the old lady by the priest who should have bought two seats.
Never falling for that shit again.
Oh this is why they sell noise cancelling headphones for crying babies and crying adults. LOL.
Why do people do this? I never understand. If you want to sit with someone, book seats together.
She thought, "Oh, I will book this because don't worry babe, someone will switch seats with me." To her surprise. She thought her tears would win her a seat but now she is a global meme. Is it worth it? For what? Everything is recorded these days. EVERYTHING!!
How embarsassing if you have a job and now they talk about you, mock you.
We constantly get this from Snowbirds on flights to Florida. They book the cheapest seats (usually two middle seats in separate rows) and ask us if we will switch our Comfort + seats so they can be together. And get into a huff when we decline or ask them to pay us the difference. We call it the elder entitlement disease.
And they use being old to make you feel guilty for saying no. "It's so hard for me to get in and out of a middle seat because I can't move so good anymore". Oh well, don't book a middle seat then. Not my problem.
My wife and I only book seats together. Every single one of out last 6 flights, we had to have the gate agent move us back next to each other because I have a medical condition. Booking specific seats is meaningless in 2026 in my experience
My wife and I book seats together and I've never in 10 years not sat next to her. The only exception is when we both got upgraded to first class in separate rows.
They both had middle seats, so finding anyone to switch was a big ask. If this was so gotdang important to her, I can’t figure out why she just wouldn’t fork over the few extra dollars for seats right next to each other. Seat choices get more expensive as it gets closer to the day of the flight. If she started planning early, it literally would have been a few extra dollars.
I'm super confused. Blogger was in an aisle, crying lady in the middle, and husband two rows up? What would switching seats do for crying lady (other than the obvious)?
Husband was two rows up in a middle seat. Crying lady wanted the blogger to switch with husband so husband now gets blogger's aisle seat next to crying lady and blogger gets downgraded to husband's middle seat two rows up
If she knows she’s in that kind of need to sit next to her husband, why not purchase the seats? Why rely on the kindness of others and when you don’t get what you want, cry? Seems silly.
Especially with a 10 hour flight. It was likely a flight to or from the US - Europe and from my experience paying to pick your seat seems to run about $40-100 extra per seat. I always just pay it because my wife would prefer that then chancing it like this couple did.
Definitely. I was flying back home a few months ago with my cat. Airline required me to have a window seat when flying with a cat. But this entitled family of 3 had their little snot-nosed kid sitting in my seat. A classic power move because they must have seen that that seat was booked, and they just hoped that I would give up my seat when it was time to sit down.
Which was fucking ridiculous because they were in the aisle and middle row, and their son was seated in the opposite aisle seat. So they were basically all seated together.
Flight attendant intervened. But instead of forcing the kid to move back to his own seat, they made me switch with the opposite window seat, and asked the guy in the window seat if he would take the kid's aisle seat. The guy was flying alone and he agreed, likely because it was a flight attendant asking. I felt bad for him. It was only a 2 hour flight, but I bet he was really looking forward to having a window seat.
Like, it's one thing to politely ask someone if they are willing to switch seats to accommodate you. It's something else entirely to sit in their seat and ask them to sit somewhere else. Or to throw a tantrum like this woman did.
I am so sick of people who promise their kids things from complete strangers and then pretend the stranger's response is the problem. Using children like pawns is embarrassing.
Right. I’m not responsible for your poor planning or trying to game the system so you don’t have to pay extra to select your seat. You FA now FO.
For the 20% that were calling her mean…how about you deal with a middle seat for 10 hours. Shit, I won’t even move for my 3 hour flights. Not my circus, not my 🐒
when you buy tickets together, they’ll usually put you together unless her husband purposely changed the seat or they bought their tickets so last minute that they were only a few seats and they were not together. Although a lot of people when they buy economy seats, they don’t get to assign their seats until the day of the flight were they will get a random seat selected so I really do think the husband just chose separate seats so he could sleep better lol
Okay so black people, especially black women, seem to occupy this dual space. They are simulateously the "worst people", yet somehow are self-sacrificial mammies who should be expected to prioritize any non black person over their own comfort or quality of life at any given time.
Folks get so fabberglasted that a black woman would say "no." And then they go into the weirdest histrionics.
It feels like its a hold over from those Jim Crow dynamics.
I’m an Irish guy (like born, raised and living here) and have to say the time I spent living in nyc, black people, especially women were so damn helpful and approachable. So for the US to have the mindset that they’re the ‘worst people’ is nuts to me.
I will say though, that woman crying on the plane fits the stereotype here of a ‘typical yank’ and how a lot of Irish people perceive people from the states. I don’t think I’ve ever had that thought about an individual American who wasn’t white 🤷♂️
Had this happen the other day while flying on a work trip. A person asked to switch seats because he wanted sit next to his colleague and work on a project. It was in business class, and my row had the extra space when fully reclined. I wasn’t moving. Dude looked at me like I had 3 heads. I said his coworker can go back to his seat then.
Yea, he was a few rows behind in the same Polaris section. I always choose the bulkhead area for that extra space when the bed lies flat. Like you said, it was poor planning on their part.
THIS is the real reason. Even a child would stop after an hour or continued crying. People like her are absolutely insane and have no shame or manners about how to behave in public. They just see what they want and nothing else matters, no matter how absurd the want.
Wait, the end of this is hilarious. So the husband is chilling probably happy to be away from that woman, and the wife is having a whole breakdown for 3 hours?! 😂😂
But no if I'm not in the middle seat I'm not about to give up my non middle seat to be in the middle seat for 10 hours. Y'all should have planned better for your trip if you wanted to sit next to each other.
I immediately thought that, too, why not plan ahead and book better...it's like the couple thought "we'll charm someone out of their seat with our white privilege, no big deal to plan ahead."
Anyways, I can't even imagine throwing a fit about not sitting next to a signifcant other. I'd be happy for the peace and quiet. Granted, I'm single and do not want to mingle. Some couples are cringe enough to ruin the fun vibes everyone else is having.
White women think the world will do whatever they want if they cry. It’s like they think it’s their superpower and a lot of people will cave in. Stay strong against this manipulation people!
I honestly just think they never stop doing it. We all kind of do it as kids, and we're either taught directly or through experience that it doesn't work once you're not like a toddler anymore.
I'm a bartender and I've seen it a lot. Grown ass women crying at the host stand because we've "ruined" their mother's day brunch.
I'm sorry but tears do not replace having booked a reservation.
Yeah. At best she is simply someone so privileged she has never been said no so she couldn’t handle it… but probably she wanted to weaponize her tears and get her kicked off the flight and put on the no-flight list
How do people performative cry real tears like this? If I cry in public, it's because something really devastating is going on in my personal life that I can't hold in at the moment. Not over an aisle seat 😭
I'm thinking about my in-laws. My MIL raised her kids (now in their 30s) by 'protecting' them from any adversity, and I mean anything. Hurt yourself running in the house? It was the floor's fault. No joke. And now, they literally can't emotionally cope with ANYTHING. Like no matter what emotion they're feeling, they cry. They're also both unemployable college graduates. Neither can handle working a full-time job. They both live with their mom. All this is to say, it may not be performative - this person is WILDLY unable to emotionally cope. It's pathetic.
And crying (real crying, anyway, for real reasons) is EXHAUSTING. I can't imagine keeping it up for three hours. I hate everything about it within three minutes.
How about we normalize paying for things we want and stop trying to act like random strangers owe you jack shit bc you’re an entitled weirdo.
She had the option to buy 2 seats together or take a flight where that was possible but no, she chose to try and manipulate this woman with crocodile tears smh. Tried to make her feel uncomfortable, guilty, and jerk her out of what she paid for, fuck that.
I hope this woman’s husband let her know how embarrassing and immature she was. I’d be embarrassed to even walk off the plane with her.
This blogger was polite. There were 4 possible people to switch with. Did she ask all 4? Either way, you’re now crying more than the baby on board. Once the decision is made, shut up and move on
Instead of disturbing the peace. Entitled jackhole
Exactly, an aisle seat is worth more than a middle seat on a 10-hour flight. Expecting someone to take a lower value than what they are giving you (a complete stranger) is ridiculous.
I am disabled, travel with a wheelchair and generally always with my husband. Though, have traveled by train alone. I can’t imagine behaving like THIS, the codependency is strong. So glad this woman didn’t give up her seat but what a terrible flight!!! What has happened to people in general? Just no sense.
This happened to me on an international flight. Asked to move to accommodate an old lady.
I tried to help but when I got to where she said her seat was, someone was already sitting in it.
Once the Flight Attendant figured out what was going on, she put us all back to our assigned seats.
I think it's some kind of protocol thing. They need to know who was sitting where in the event something happens.
Gotta feel for this woman, having to sit next to that stinky shit of a human being for hours on end.
What about the man to the left of her? She couldn’t ask him?? She expected a black woman to fulfill her request? I hope she learned her lesson. Leave black people alone!
Expecting black women to fill requests is regrettably white American culture.
I’d never expect a single person to do me a favor. She learned no lesson. If she came with grace and asked kindly, I’m sure she would gain some traction. I can tell that she did not.
Weeping because your equal denied your request in this scenario… it does nothing.
She didn’t deny her because she was white. She denied her because.. grownups who buy their own tickets are adults.
An actual child weeping over this would be ridiculous and a lesson to be learned. But here we are. “White woman upset by her own decisions.” Is news.
I read the NYT article. IMO, it seems the crying woman wanting to sit next to her husband was a lie. Her husband was seated 2 rows up from her with head phones on asleep so changing seats with this woman wouldn’t be a fix. Why didn’t she ask the people seated next to her husband to switch? Seems the crying lady, who was seated in middle only wanted to change seats because she didn’t want to fly 10 hours in that seat. The other woman had an aisle seat.
Crying for 3 hours is strange. Oddly, the woman who refused to give up her seat was flying home because her Dad had just passed away.
As an elder white woman, I’m having the worst second embarrassment of the day (only for the day though because there’ll be some other stupid white person doing something else embarrassing tomorrow - or maybe later today) 🤦🏻♀️
As Stewie from Family Guy famously and rightfully said, “"Ma'am, your poor planning does not constitute an emergency for me. You'll see him in Paris. Go sit down"
Husband probably booked the flight that way on purpose. The video says they were on the way home.... meaning he had to be with her for the entire duration of their time away. Poor man needed a vacation after the vacation.
The 20 percent calling the black woman rude are the type to raise entitled kids by caving to their every request to keep the peace. Often at the expense of other kids needs and desires.
I scored upgrades from a friend once and sat in business class on a 9 hour flight. There was a woman that had to be at least 55 that refused to sit down until someone switched with her so she could be next to her husband. Nobody did and the flight attendants nearly kicked her off the flight. I just don’t understand. You have unlimited free entertainment, food, and booze what do you need your husband for? Such bizarre behavior.
Moral of the story, if you want to sit together, plan accordingly, and if you can’t, suck it up, it’s not the end of the world and nobody cares.
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