r/AITApod • u/Severe_Catch987 • 9h ago

AITA for refusing to give my brother the family photos after he left me out of his wedding?

My brother got married a few months ago and I found out afterward that he had asked everyone in the family to take pictures except me. When I asked him about it, he said we hadn't been getting along lately and he didnt want any awkward moments on his wedding day

It hurt more than I expected, but I didnt make a scene or ruin anything for him

Recently my parents arranged a family gathering and asked me to bring the old family photo albums because they wanted to scan the pictures and make copies for everyone. My brother heard about it and asked me to send him all the digital copies too

I told him I'd bring the albums for the family but I wasnt comfortable personally sorting and sending him everything after what happened. He said I was dragging an old issue into something that had nothing to do with the wedding

My parents think I should just let it go because the photos belong to the whole family

AITA for not wanting to do him a favor after he deliberately excluded me?

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u/Wolverine-7509 8h ago

YWBTA

Something seems off here, your brother excluded you, you didn't say why, you were hurt.

Seems like nothing got resolved.

Now your parents asked you to bring the albums so THEY could scan it all, but your brother asked YOU for the scans? Why wouldn't he just ask them? If your parents are making copies for everyone, whats the issue?

Sounds like you need to step up and have a real convo with your brother, without vindictiveness or emotion.

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u/Severe_Catch987 8h ago

Thats fair, I guess the wedding situation never really got resolved. I was still hurt by it and probably let that affect how I responded to him

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u/JuniperSkyy 8h ago

If you are bringing the photos for someone else to scan why can’t your brother get them from that person? NTA

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u/Severe_Catch987 8h ago

Thats a fair point, he could easily get the copies from them instead of making it my responsibility

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u/JuniperSkyy 8h ago

If you want to be nice let the person that’s making the scans know that your brother would like a copy. But it’s not on you to get them for him.

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My brother got married a few months ago and I found out afterward that he had asked everyone in the family to take pictures except me. When I asked him about it, he said we hadn't been getting along lately and he didnt want any awkward moments on his wedding day

It hurt more than I expected, but I didnt make a scene or ruin anything for him

Recently my parents arranged a family gathering and asked me to bring the old family photo albums because they wanted to scan the pictures and make copies for everyone. My brother heard about it and asked me to send him all the digital copies too

I told him I'd bring the albums for the family but I wasnt comfortable personally sorting and sending him everything after what happened. He said I was dragging an old issue into something that had nothing to do with the wedding

My parents think I should just let it go because the photos belong to the whole family

AITA for not wanting to do him a favor after he deliberately excluded me?

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