I’m looking for the current or better yet, former stressed out, overweight moms who have made it to the other side
I’m looking for some encouragement, inspiration, and maybe advice for people who are/used to be in a similar situation to me.
I am 33 (F), 5ft 4in tall, and weight about 280 and have for about the last 5-6 years. I have Hashimoto’s thyroiditis and insulin resistant PCOS. I had my gallbladder out 3 weeks ago. I very likely have undiagnosed ADHD and poor impulse control with food which is probably why I have found myself in the situation I am in. I also have signs of NAFLD starting.
I am a mom to 4 kids. I have twin 7 year olds (one of whom has Level3 autism and is more like a 3 year old) then an actual 3 year old and a 15 month old. I’m a SAHM and my husband works full time, often working weekends and many evenings due to the nature of his work.
I have what some people would probably classify as mild/moderate mental health struggles. I get very depressed about my weight and my health. I live with a high level of stress and mostly functional anxiety, which I attribute to the extra struggles and needs of being a special needs parent, and also just a parent of 4 still-pretty-small-and-needy kids.
I have not given weight loss a good honest try for several years. I’ve been either pregnant or breastfeeding since December of 2022. My 15 month old is on the verge of weaning, and I am not planning on becoming pregnant again. My husband and I are in agreement that this chapter of my life needs to be focused on recovering my health. I have a severe diastasis recti (about 12 cm at its widest point) and a significant umbilical hernia. I have a relationship with a surgeon and have a long game plan for hernia repair and DR repair after significant weight loss (he also conveniently did my gallbladder surgery, and was able to visualize my hernia himself while in there robotically to yeet my gallbladder. )
(Side bar on the gallbladder: it was in awful shape, and my doctor says it likely wasn’t functioning for a long time and I must have a high pain tolerance, which is correct. My recovery has been great and I seem to be digesting fats just fine, so I’m one of the lucky ones in that way I guess.)
I have very seriously been thinking about attempting keto as a long-term lifestyle. It seems to offer many benefits in addition to weight loss, like improving insulin resistance, mental clarity, decreasing inflammation, and maybe you can name some more. I know that 80% of my weight loss needs to come from dietary changes. I do enjoy whole foods. I like cooking from scratch. My current weakness is carbs/sugar (which I know can literally just be something my brain is hooked on). I want to lose weight for my health, to be a present and active and energetic mom for my kids. I think of my son for whom I will likely be a caregiver for the rest of my life and I want to be well enough for it. I want to be a good example for my daughters and help set them up for success health wise and to avoid the mistakes I’ve made.
I think I’m getting stuck in my head and too anxious to start. I need to be able to feed my kids balanced meals while also fueling my body with what it needs. My kids are a normal-level of picky. They eat vegetables but mostly will eat them just steamed. They’ll eat different proteins as long as they can have ketchup or ranch (ugh). I need to come up with protein, vegetable, carb (mostly for them) meal ideas that I can easily separate out what I shouldn’t consume. It just feels overwhelming, I need someone to tell me it can be done, and that they got it done.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you. This is my first post on Reddit!
Basically, I’m ready for a change. I need to change. I just feel stuck and paralyzed and hopeless and alone. Help me get moving.