My mom came to help me move this summer. I had already stayed up all night hiding any and all feminine clothes and acessories. I didnt think about Blahaj. She said:
"Grown men shouldnt have stuffed animals. Actually grown adults in general shouldnt have stuffed animals"
I agree but im trying to be delicate about how I reshape her old fashioned way of thinking because my innate reaction is to get angry and experience has taught me that leads to ineffective communication
Though idk if simply saying “I’m an adult, I can make my own decisions,” would start a fight so maybe that’s a bad suggestion. I’m sorry your mom is so rigid and out of touch
Your mom sounds kinda sad she can't have a plushie. It would be kinda hilarious to get her one for holidays or birthday, as a joke, or maybe trying to give her the key to where she locked away her childhood self. Best if it was a plushie of an animal she find of, so it's less likely to throw it away.
When I was working for the red cross at 20 and ordering a hot chocolate while taking the older ladies out to eat on a trip, the social worker told me that at my age I shouldn't be drinking chocolate in a restaurant anymore. 😭 I wonder if it would have been cool as a girl for her. 💅
Being ace is a spectrum so individual experiences vary, but for me it’s sort of in between. One is an activity I have no interest in doing, the other is a delicious treat.
It also has the color scheme of the trans flag. As an aside the joke for ace people is that garlic bread is better than sex, but literally instead of figuratively.
No one is sure how it began, but it I’m 90% sure it’s just “Blahaj is a cute and affordable plushie.” That a lot of trans women just happened to adopt. (Sort of like the Amazon Basics skirt.)
(I’ve read some wild theories, like it being a dig at that soul surfer TERF who lost her arm to a shark. But none of those hold water under further scrutiny.)
Well, the shark is blue, with a white belly, and a pink mouth, and, well, trans people will appropriate anything that's not nailed down if it's white, blue, and pink. [Said affectionately.]
Also, it's pretty easy to fully hug due to its size, so it's a very good companion for times you might need some comfort. And when going through a difficult time, such as cracking the egg (realising you are trans) or actually transitioning, every bit of comfort is welcome.
Blahaj is the guiding whale shark of the trans community. It has started with IKEA plushies, and is a great inside identifier that the person is on the lgbtq spectrum if they got that plushie, or even some kind of indicator of blahaj worship
Er... isn't that just a room save for maybe a shark if the visitor recognizes the meaning? Feel like I am missing the punchline here cause I have known guys with rooms like this
Point being? Look I get the room is 'traditionally effeminate' but i have known guys back in college like this. Interests and likes aren't gendered things
I think it's great that you have a very pregressive mindset, but if people like the ones from my hometown were to see my room like this after knowing me in the past, they would be extremely thrown off, and probably think I'm a gay man at best. That being said, Idk how far OP is into her transition at time of making this, but even if I could "untrans my room" idk how I'd explain the changes from HRT and my voice to my old friends without coming out.
This. I could remove every ounce of boy from my room but I still have the issue of my hair being chopped and the fact I've mysteriously lost my quad D cups
I think its the wombo-combo of autism and being raised with a very open mind. That said the only way to make things background noise to the point of non-gendering them is to make the effort to treat it and by extension the person as just another person just with tastes that might be different. But I understand what you mean sadly.
meeee 😭 every time I have to boymode around certain family members my girlfriend says I just look like a bookish butch (which... that's what I am when I'm not boymodin🥺)
I mean, look, just because I have Pompompurin, Blåhaj, and more than three pillows, that doesnt excuse your basically showing everyone my boudoir! I demand satisfaction.
Ugh my house is still boymoding so can’t relate yet.
Though I cracked and finally ordered my giant blahj this week…
and I do have make-up all over my bathroom…
lol nvm I guess.
Oh look, another slice of life post about MTF. It isn’t very interesting, and I’m not sure if it’s supposed to be funny, though the art is great. I guess the joke is that it actually is harder to come out than to organize your room, and there’s some whacky irony there?
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 5h ago edited 4h ago
Edit: oh look. The other report that always follows. How predictable
I....I am not sure if this one is a bad thing?