The purpose of this post is to maybe find some Internet strangers able to offer any words of advice, insight, information, tips, personal anecdotes, literally anything. I’ve got thick skin so don’t be shy.

I (28F) am pregnant by my boyfriend (23M). We share a lease together in a state where abortion is illegal after 6w. We started dating in July 2025 and moved in together October 2025. In early November 2025, I got a MA at 7w. Probably due to untreated mental health and emotional issues, I felt immense grief and regret and was deeply depressed. I proceeded in the relationship not using any sort of caution in sex because I was so upset about ending the first pregnancy, I felt I’d be happy to get pregnant again. This time, I found out pretty late. By the time I tested positive and had an ultrasound, I was 11w (in a state where they just say: “Congratulations!”). I felt overwhelmed but happy about it. At 11w5d, I attended a bachelorette party that had been planned for over a month (the plan including my boyfriend being my ride home that night). When he picked me up, he lied and told me he was not drunk. By his driving, I realized he was. We pulled in the driveway and he said “I may not remember it, but at least I got us home.” I became devastated and cried really hard. He became angry, saying mean things and telling me to shut up. I told him I’m very upset and hormonal and that my crying is unlikely to subside for some time, so if it bothered him I will leave, but since I know he will not let me leave, will he please leave? And he wouldn’t. (In our relationship, any time we have a disagreement and I motion to leave, he refuses to let me by physically getting in the way — blocking the door with his body 2x the weight of mine, taking my keys, taking my phone, physically grabbing me — whatever. Clearly a red flag that I ignored, but his argument was always that he was scared I was leaving angry and didn’t want me driving/leaving angry, so I looked past it). So, I grabbed the snacks I would need, my keys, my phone, and put my shoes on. I motioned to the door. He got in front of me and walked into me til we got to the bedroom. He slapped the snacks out of my hands (watermelon and cheez its all over the floor).

Short version: He violently attacked me.
Long, graphic version: He slammed me on the bed. He strangled me with his hands. He punched me in the arm, hip, butt, and leg. He kept doing this terrifying squeeze, like a violent hug, in which I would squirm up to try to keep it under my belly rather than over to protect the baby. I was absolutely terrified. This went on for at least ten minutes. I was hyperventilating, crying, begging him to stop. He picked me up and he was drunk so he slipped on the watermelon he had spilled and we slammed down on tile floor. He picked me up again and threw me on the couch. He started going on about how I was going to start respecting him and then he ended up crying. I took that moment of emotion and felt his phone on the couch and said gently “hey, I’m gonna call your best friend, let’s just calm down” kinda thing. When his friend got on the phone I said please I need you to come here, this is not for my boyfriend this is for me. My boyfriend kept muting the phone to tell me to shut up and when he would unmute it I would go back to begging. He ended up going in the bedroom to talk to him away from me and I took that opportunity to run out the front door — barefoot, in pajamas, no glasses. He ran after me so I yelled “help! help!” and he stopped. He pulled up in his car and asked me to get in, I said no. He said my friend is almost here, will you get in his car? I said yes. His friend picked me up and I told him what happened. A cop pulled up so we all went in the house. I said I will not sleep under the same roof as my boyfriend unless his friend also stays over, so his friend stayed.

Everything since then has been extremely rough. The first week after, I kept asking my boyfriend to get out of the house, that we are broken up and I don’t want him around me. It took him over a week to finally leave. In that week he was there, we kept sliding back into “normal.” It was difficult and confusing for me. During that time our puppy we co-own had to undergo a procedure and required a lot of care, so that added to the layers of difficulty. When he finally left and I had space and time to think, I thought maybe I should get an abortion. I called my mom and told her I’m pregnant (not that I was abused) and that I was struggling to make a decision on keeping or terminating. Fortunately, my mom lives in the state I grew up in, where abortion is legal until 24w. She advised me to make an appointment for the abortion so that in case I want to, I can get it. She also found me a therapist to meet with via telehealth appointments to help me decide. By the time I flew home and met with my OBGYN, I was 14w. She unfortunately was going on vacation and could not do a D&E procedure for me, so she forwarded me to a clinic at the hospital she works.
I scheduled the procedure for when I would have been 16w, but decided instead I wanted to keep the pregnancy, mainly because of a moral dilemma I had in terminating a pregnancy that was so progressed, where I had already seen its legs, feet, toes, hands, fingers, nose, mouth, heartbeat… I also knew I needed to make more money so I decided to fly back to the home my boyfriend and I share so I could work. When I got there, from what my therapist says, I was triggered. My puppy seemed afraid of him (he has an ‘aggressive’ way of disciplining her) and it made me scared for how my child will feel around him. I went into a severe depression for a few days and did not go to work as I had planned to, worrying I might have made the wrong decision. With my mom’s encouragement, I got back on a plane to fly home. I had not yet cancelled the procedure so I could’ve gone in the day after my flight and gotten an abortion, but I decided not to go. I felt so overwhelmed and confused. When I canceled, the doctor asked me why I’m on the fence, and I said “because this was a pregnancy I was happy about until my partner became violent.” She connected me to a few resources and it’s helped me to recognize that… what I experienced cannot be overlooked.
It is so difficult for me to come to terms with his violence and that it may be a reason worth ending this little life I’ve been growing inside of me. I don’t want to pain a child with a broken home. It would be difficult for me to do this without a partner. I worry what the child will feel growing up with a father only partially involved in his/her life (he has agreed to support financially and said he would plan to visit the child as frequently as he could in the state I would live in with my mother to raise the child for the sake of me avoiding being stuck in his state for 18 years).
I am starting to really think it may be the best thing for me to terminate the pregnancy. That way I can get out of this relationship without ties, but it’s really hard because I’m essentially going through a break up while trying to make this decision. The emotional side of my brain wants to stay in the mindset of us staying together or at the very least successfully coparenting together.
The truth I realize in therapy and as time passes is I was in over my head getting pregnant in the first place, regardless of his behavior. I did not think about this as seriously as I should have prior to acting on whim with my sex life. My therapist has helped me to realize how strongly I value family. A fairy tale to me sounds like marrying a loving and supportive husband, buying a house as close to my parents’ house as I can, and raising several children in a structured home where we can make beautiful memories. It has taken me so long to accept, but it is probably going to be easier for me to do achieve that if I terminate this pregnancy. I just have an entire rabbit hole of fears that go along with terminating a pregnancy I initially wished for.
If you were to ask me the reasons for keeping a pregnancy, the best I can say is it’s more a feeling than any particular reason…

There’s so much more I could say but I’ll end the post here. I’m 18w now by the way so time is really of the essence, not just because of the law but because in my opinion, holding onto this pregnancy any longer than I have to if I am getting rid of it is cruel both on me and the fetus.

i was 4 weeks and 5 days when i did my MA and honestly i’m curious if anybody else had an easy experience like mine 😭 i took my mifepristone on 10/19 at 5:30 pm and inserted 4 miso vaginally on 10/20 at 5:30 pm. i started having tiny cramps but no bleeding so i contacted my provider and they told me if i wasn’t bleeding by the 4 hour mark to take 4 more orally before taking them i went to pee and 2 of the pills came out with a tiny amount of blood but my provider told me to still take the next 4 so i did. about 30 minutes later i started bleeding and around 2 hours after that i felt like i needed to pee and passed 2 dime sized clots. my cramps still weren’t bad at all and honestly my regular period cramps are worse 😭 i ended up falling asleep and when i woke up there still wasn’t much blood on my pad. when i went to pee i passed another tiny clot but since then it’s just been light bleeding not even enough to cover a quarter of my pad i feel like my MA was successful but the amount of bleeding has me wondering because i expected way more. has anybody else had an easy MA with mild cramps and light bleeding? i’d love to hear your experiences 💕

I’m 25, from California, and I’ve been involved with a 29 year old man for about 10 months. Before anyone comes for me, yes, I knew he had a girlfriend. I’m fully aware of my actions, and I’m not looking for anyone to justify them.

What started as something casual eventually turned into feelings. He told me he was falling in love with me and that he wanted us to be together. His girlfriend was pregnant at the time, and he told me that once their baby was born and stable, he planned on leaving the relationship. We agreed to give things time.

Our situation hasn’t exactly been healthy. We’ve both made mistakes, trust has been broken, and there have been plenty of arguments. He’s told me he hates me, yet we’ve continued seeing each other and expressing our feelings.

Eventually, his girlfriend found out about us, which obviously complicated everything even further. Despite that, we continued seeing each other.
Recently, I found out I’m pregnant. I was taking birth control pills but missed a couple, so this definitely wasn’t planned.

When I told him, he expressed guilt and eventually told me he wanted to focus on his daughter and his relationship. I respect his responsibilities as a father, and I’m not interested in convincing someone to be with me.

I’m now considering an abortion and have already scheduled an appointment. I’m not making this decision out of spite or because he isn’t choosing me. I have a career, I’m in school, and I genuinely enjoy my life. I know I’m capable of raising a child alone, but that doesn’t necessarily mean I want to become a mother right now.

I also understand that continuing this pregnancy would complicate things at home for him. He already has a family, and having another child outside of that relationship would create an entirely different situation for everyone involved. That’s something I’ve considered, but ultimately, I know this decision needs to be about what I want for my own life.

The complicated part is that I genuinely love him. I can acknowledge that our relationship isn’t healthy without pretending my feelings don’t exist. However, loving him doesn’t mean I’m willing to put my life on hold for him.
I’m not asking whether I should’ve expected things to turn out differently. I knew the circumstances from the beginning, and I take responsibility for my decisions.
I’m more interested in hearing from women who’ve experienced an unexpected pregnancy in a complicated relationship. How did you separate your feelings for someone from the decision you made about your pregnancy?

I’m capable of raising a child, but I’m questioning whether motherhood is something I actually want right now, especially under these circumstances. I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar.

I’m a mom of 2 (5 and 3) and found out two weeks ago that I’m pregnant. I always wanted a bigger family (I’m one of four kids) and honestly wanted 3 kids most of my life. However, I’m 38 and finally feel like my life is settling into a new phase that I like.
My 5 year old is in kindergarten and my 3 year old is fairly independent. Funds are already incredibly tight and we are barely getting by (living in SoCal in this economy is ROUGH). i am just now able to take on more hours at work and was hoping to chip away at some of our debt and maybe be able to get to a better place financially.
More than anything I want my daughters to be able to have some fun and not live in a household where we are constantly poor and barely able to get by. I want them to be able to do dance and sports.
….but there’s the guilt. I had an abortion in my early 20s (with an idiot boyfriend) and another a couple years ago (got pregnant 3 months postpartum with my younger daughter). I feel like a bad person considering a 3rd abortion.
Just wanted to write this out. I’ve been making and cancelling appointments at PP for the past 2 weeks. My husband is incredibly supportive and is fully onboard with whatever I decide but that makes the decision harder since it’s fully mine.
Anyone who has kind words or similar experiences would be appreciated ❤️

I met this guy on the 4th of July we had an instant connection and had a lot of fun for a month, then I found out I was pregnant but by then he had already left me about a week prior because he “wasn’t ready for a relationship” at first I wasn’t even going to tell him but that only lasted for about 2 weeks before I finally did. well he didn’t want kids never pictured himself having kids whatever whatever. I care for him more than I should and he suggests I get an abortion but he “wanted to be there for me when I did it“ so I needed to wait until he came back home from his vacation that just so happened to be 3 weeks long. we stay in touch the whole time he’s acting like we’re all good sending me pictures of sunsets because he thought of me and knew I’d love it calling me on his drives between destinations checking on me all day everyday. Literally didn’t miss a single day. he gets back and about 3 weeks later I get the abortion pills. I get depressed because I took them and felt guilty because it goes against what I believe in but I didn’t want to ruin this guys life because I actually care about him. Well bleeding only lasted like a few days and I go to the doctor to find that it was a failed abortion. We were further along than expected and the medication wasn’t high enough dosage. Baby was fine! i Wanted to keep the baby at this point for sure. he continued to talk me into abortion and goes on about how hes not topped out at work he wanted to buy a house first he’s just not ready. At this point we’ve been together but without actually being official together for 4 months and I’m 4 months pregnant. I am like literally in love with this guy and really cared for what he needed but I also needed to know if he was only with me because of the pregnancy or if it was because he felt the same way because I can’t be with someone just because we have a baby. He’s been stressed for the last 4 months and I really just wanted to put him at ease. I did have an appointment to check baby and baby was okay but I told him that we miscarried so he could continue with his life however he wants. Literally the next day he tells me he’s not ready for a relationship he needs to be by himself which I KNEW was going to happen but now I’m facing the fact that I’m going to have to do all of this alone and somehow hide myself for the next 5 months because I’m going to start showing eventually and then on top of it I’m going to have to hide baby. I’m terrified he’s going to run into me eventually. but I also lied to him so I don’t know how to fix it.

Hello everyone,
I had an abortion Oct 4th- I took the pills i bled a few hours later i was bleeding that whole week. Last week i stopped bleeding. Over the past weekend I started bleeding again but now im bleeding so much passing so many clots, filling the toilet up with blood and bleeding through my pads/underwear. Has anyone experienced this?
I am not experiencing any pain or anything. I know bleeding can happen on and off for a few weeks but this feels weird.

I started taking 4 miso at 10 PM last night, then took 2 miso at 1 AM, and the last ones at 4 AM because I fell asleep. My bleeding is just average, like a normal period—only 1 pad since last night and it’s not even full yet, though there are a few tissues or clots when I urinate. I still have mild cramps right now. Should I continue taking miso?

Im so upset…I already have a small baby and I let myself get pregnant again by someone who’s most likely going nowhere in life, and all he’s done is drag me down the entire time we’ve known each other. I don’t know if I can handle another baby right now mentally and definitely not financially. I want to be done with this dude. I have so many reasons. But to make a long story short, dude has some issues and is mentally ill. Any time he thinks I’m about to end things he threatens suicide. And while I know 99% of the time this is just a manipulation tactic abusers use, I think he might really do it. I have the pills to do it at home. But if he finds out I aborted I think he might hurt me. But if I tell him I miscarried he might hurt himself. Idk what to do.

On August 8, 2020, I found out I was pregnant. I was excited, young, and naive, about to begin my second year of college. At the time, I was living in an off-campus apartment with my boyfriend.

Excitedly, I told him the news, but I watched his face change from a smile to one of terror. He was an “oops” baby himself, born to parents who were both 15 and eventually broke up. He was afraid of the same thing happening to his child.

Reluctantly, I drove to Planned Parenthood (NJ), scared and unsure, and made the decision to take the abortion pill. I was six weeks pregnant.

The rest of that experience is something I think I have blocked out of my memory.

The boyfriend I had trusted would later become physically and verbally abusive, and I would eventually cheat on him with a coworker. I dropped out of school, became bitter, and lost an unhealthy amount of weight. It would take six years for me to finally return to college and finish the degree I had put on hold.

But so much has changed since then. I have married a wonderful man, built a career, and returned to school. Now, we are hoping to have children of our own.

Recently, with my sister being pregnant with a little boy, I have found myself triggered in ways I did not expect. It feels as though the grief I thought I had buried is rising to the surface all over again.

My faith in Christ remains strong, and I know this is something I will carry with me for the rest of my life. But that does not mean it is easy. One of the hardest parts is feeling like there is no one who truly understands this particular kind of grief. I cannot turn to my ex, and my husband, God bless him, was not part of my story back then. He loves me and is part of the life I am building now, but he was not there for the chapter I am still learning to process.

Grief is hard. It comes in waves, often when we least expect it. And as a Christian, there is another layer to navigating the past: looking back at the decisions we made, the mistakes we believe we have committed, and the person we were at the time, while also learning to accept that Christ has forgiven us. I believe in His grace and forgiveness, but I am learning that forgiveness does not necessarily mean we will never grieve what happened.

I am writing this as a woman approaching 30, hoping that whoever reads these words will understand that they are not alone. Whatever your story looks like, whatever you have carried in silence, and whatever memories still bring you to tears, you are not the only one.

I lost the only ultrasound photo I had of my baby. I called him Oliver, even though I never knew his gender. I still wish I could find that photograph. I wish I had something tangible to hold on to, something that connected me to that little life in a way words never could.

And even now, I am still learning how to make peace with my story.

I cannot change what happened on August 8, 2020. But I can acknowledge the grief, bring it to Christ, and trust that His grace is still sufficient for me today. I can honor the woman I was then while continuing to grow into the woman I am becoming.

If you are carrying a similar story, I hope you know that you do not have to pretend it never happened just because you have found forgiveness, faith, love, or happiness since then.

You can be grateful for the life you have now and still grieve the life you once imagined.

Both can be true.

TRANSVAGINAL ULTRASOUND (TVS) FINDINGS

CERVIX:

- Measures 3.2 × 3.4 × 3.2 cm

- Volume: 15.1 cm³

- Cervical canal intact

UTERUS:

- Measures 5.8 × 4.9 × 6.0 cm

- Volume: 91.3 cm³

- Normal-sized, retroverted uterus

- Smooth contours

- Symmetrical walls

- No myometrial lesion seen

ENDOMETRIUM:

- Measures 1.9 cm (19 mm) thick

- Hyperechogenic

- Endometrial midline not defined

- Regular endometrial-myometrial junction

-no gestational sac seen

RIGHT OVARY:

- Measures 2.5 × 1.1 × 1.7 cm

- Volume: 2.4 cm³

- More than 12 small follicles, each measuring less than 1 cm

- Suggestive of polycystic ovary

LEFT OVARY:

- Measures 3.0 × 2.8 × 2.4 cm

- Volume: 10.6 cm³

- Normal size and echotexture

- Corpus luteum present

CUL-DE-SAC:

- Free fluid present (+)

IMPRESSION:

1. Normal-sized retroverted uterus.

2. Secretory-phase endometrium.

3. Polycystic right ovary.

4. Normal left ovary with corpus luteum.

5. Suggest repeat scan after 2–3 weeks to re-evaluate pregnancy status.

REMARKS: Please correlate clinically.

- May experience ba kayo na same sakin? What did you do? Did you went to your OB and asked that this is unwanted pregnancy and don't want to continue due to your mental and health concerns? Also im positive in PT HCG

I had a MA two days ago and I regret it. For context, I have 3 kids with the youngest barely turning a year old. When I found out I was pregnant I was happy but then I was super stressed that we couldn’t handle it. The timing was off and our schedules were super busy. We’ve always wanted a 4th but it seems like it just came at the wrong time. My husband said he fully supported my decision no matter what I decided. The first time I chickened out. I tried to monitor home life as the days went on and it seemed like it was already hectic, my husband and I talked about it and both said it was something that wouldn’t be manageable and we didn’t know how much of a toll it would take on our mental health. I ended up going through with it and having such massive regret. I still do. I can’t help but cry thinking about what could have been. After the night when I was already bleeding my husband let me know that he also has regrets and that he did want the baby but he didn’t wanna force me and that he didn’t wanna sway my decision. I told him that I wanted the baby too and kept asking him if he thought I was doing the right thing cause I held on to hope he would tell me to keep the baby. We both had horrible communication obviously and both have such bad regret. I can’t even enjoy being around my kids without thinking what could be. Idk, I’m just ranting cause I’m hurt. I feel stupid, shameful, disappointed in my self. Every time I bleed I die a little inside, it’s a constant reminder of the mistake I made. I feel like I have this hole in my heart that will not heal, I feel like I left this stain on myself and I can never clean it off. Then I’m feeling like if I can just get pregnant soon I’ll be fine. Then I also think why does this one deserve to live and not the other?

Hello, I was wondering about everyone's experiences with the abortion pills. I've never taken them before but I've done the procedure and that wasn't bad. As I am reading stories, the pain is kind of worrying me. I'm planning to prepare myself majorly, buying adult diapers and heating pads. I'm planning to take miso in the evening so my kids don't see me in pain but my boyfriend is there to support me. I'm hoping the pain is only with the pills taken and not like days afterwards because I only have the day off after I take the pill then I go back to work the next day. TIA!

Hi, I work the next three days and can’t call out for them. I received my medicine today and originally planned to just take the first pill Saturday morning, work Saturday overnight and finish the rest Sunday morning. I’m just so desperate for this to be over, but I shouldn’t be working while I’m going through this.

Kinda just wanting someone to tell me to wait till I’m done working and can wallow at home.

Country : India

My periods delayed by 8 days and yesterday I had red color discharge. Kindly advise if it's sign of pregnancy please.

Note : we didn't have penetrative sex, just fingering only and I doubt if his finger had a bit semen in it.

I found out I was pregnant incidentally via an ER visit last Monday (10/12), and got my MA pills via Carafem this Monday (10/19).

I took Mifepristone around 8 pm Monday, and then Misoprostol vaginally about 6 hours later, at 1 am on Tuesday.

I had a decent amount of cramping, severe chills, and felt awful, but no bleeding at all, so I took the second Misoprostol dose around 4 pm Tuesday.

It’s 24 hours after that now, Wednesday, and still no bleeding that I’ve noticed, and a lot of the chills and cramping has subsided, though I’m feeling a bit feverish

The nurse I spoke to said it could still happen but is this likely a fail? I don’t know what to do 🥲

Gente estou muito ansiosa! Fiz o pedido na WOW e eles enviaram dia 16/10 mas até agora não chegou no Brasil. Quem recebeu as pílulas lá sabe se é normal demorar esse tempo todo? Vocês chegaram a colocar o CPF? Estou com muito medo de parar na alfândega ou então de ser extraviado. Podem compartilhar a experiência de vocês por gentileza?

I just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant, and I am torn. I haven't told anyone beside my partner and he's just as torn as I am. I'm going to write my pros and cons list below. I don't know what I'm expecting here, just hoping to gain some clarity I guess.

Pros

-I'm in a loving and healthy relationship

-My partner and I both want to be parents

-I have an incredibly supportive family that I know would help us out as much as possible

-My college is paid for, my portion of rent is paid for (as long as I am in school), I receive monthly living assistance (as long as I am in school) I don't have to pay any medical bills for the rest of my life (I am from a fairly wealthy Native American tribe).

Cons

-My partner and I have two roommates (they are my cousins, but a couple years younger and living their fun college lives)

-I don't work, but my partner does, and I don't know if we could even really afford our own place right now (where we live at least, rent is very expensive)

-I'm two states away from my family, and would like to move closer but I really love the college I am attending right now

-Our child won't receive the same financial and medical benefits from my tribe (it's based on blood quantum)

-I don't want to have to put school/my future career on hold. I don't know if I can do both.

Hi! I’m a 28F from São Paulo, Brazil. I got my pills from WOW, and they arrived after 12 days.

Timeline:

Monday

13:30 — Took the mife pill.

Tuesday

14:00 — Took ibuprofen and ondansetron.

15:00/15:30 — First round of miso, 4 pills under the tongue.

- Really, really anxious. Probably the worst part :(
- Started cramping and shivering.
- Diarrhea.
- Blood only came out when I was sitting on the toilet.

18:00/18:30 — Second round of miso, 2 pills under the tongue (I followed the WOW protocol).

- Basically the same as before. The diarrhea became liquid, and a few tiny clots passed.
- Ordered an isotonic drink and a couple of popsicles because I was feeling dehydrated.

21:00/21:30 — Third round of miso, 2 pills under the tongue.

- More cramping, more diarrhea, and blood when sitting on the toilet, but my pad remained almost clean.
- I started getting really worried and frustrated at this point. I thought something more concrete would have happened by then.

00:00/00:30 — Fourth and last round of miso, 2 pills under the tongue.

- Really bad cramping.
- Went to the toilet, and a lot of blood and what felt like water came out. The cramps almost disappeared.
- Felt more diarrhea coming, and when I got up to go to the toilet, my legs were shaky. A weird clot came out, and I felt like my blood pressure had dropped.
- Had some water, ate a banana, and went back to bed.
- Decided I wouldn’t take the last 2 pills because it finally felt like what I had been expecting had happened.

Overall, I went through almost 12 hours of this, so I was feeling pretty drained by the time I decided to get some sleep.

Today I woke up feeling a lot better. I’m only bleeding a little, but I know bleeding patterns can vary. I’m still scared something went wrong, though, because it took more pills and more time than I expected, and I never actually saw anything recognizable come out. I also really need this to work…

I am a 28 year old woman living in Florida. When researching for abortion pills I found a site called MAP. very easy to navigate and I paid 5 dollars for the pills to ship to me. I reached out to them on a Thursday and the pills arrived the next Saturday. I was 10 weeks and 5 days pregnant.

My experience with the pills….
Day 1 I took the first set of pills that stop the heartbeat no side effects from them.

Day 2 I inserted 4 pills in the cheeks of my mouth for 30 mins and then swallowed after. Maybe 20 mins into those set of pills I felt cramps. I had to wait another 4 hours for the next set of pills. The cramps were 9/10 of pain and I kept getting waves of nausea when it was time for my timer to go off that’s when I felt a rush of blood come out of me and clots. I immediately ran to the bathroom to sit on the toilet and my diaper was full of blood. I had to get my boyfriend to help me remove the diaper that’s when he saw a clot hanging out of me. It disturbed me so bad that I had to vomit. After I felt relieved and didn’t have any cramps. I then inserted the next 4 pills in my cheeks.

Day 3
This day consisted of just cramping and bleeding maybe one small clot when I wiped. I also inserted the rest of the 4 pills this day. No side effects

This all happened on Oct 18 and since then I’ve just been bleeding and on and off cramps. I hope this post helps others

im getting an abortion monday and have no idea how far along i am. i dont have the extra money to do it twice and i wanted to do the medication but now im having second thoughts. i can definitely feel it which i didnt feel with my first pregnancy (which i kept) till i was 6 months along. (there is genuinely no way im 6 months right now let alone past 3-4 months) i just am nervous i have never had one before and am curious as to what the surgery is like.

hi everyone i had my MA and D&C 3 months ago today and i’ve had two periods since. as of lately ive been getting a lot of abdominal cramps and sharp pain and im on day 27 of my cycle. my last period lasted 26 days. my boyfriend and i have been having sex but it’s been protected with a condom. should i be worried of pregnancy?? :/

It is so hard when you face this problem and do not know what to do.

There is a lot of information in Facebook groups, but you will not find anything useful; some sell abortion pills at high prices, charging 1.5k to 3k for 4–10 pills. There are a lot of scammers and a lot of false information about how to use the pills, and so on. Please try to find the right information from reliable sources; look at the abortion subreddit, as it is very helpful and you will find what you need.

In this country, for me, the best option was to find a doctor to perform the operation. Unfortunately, in our case, we are not married, so clinics will not accept you even if you are in a dangerous situation. This is something that will make you think about going abroad. I am not a pessimistic person; I can assure you that by asking around, you can find a doctor who will help you perform the operation, and this will cost you between 6k and 8k, depending on the doctor you find. It is a simple operation; there is nothing to be worried about.

Taking the pills at home without having someone with you to take care of you is very risky, but pills are still a good option. In our case, we took the pills and the bleeding started after 2–3 hours for one day. But the abortion failed; after visiting a doctor two days later, he said the baby was still there and in good condition.

That is why we were forced to have the operation. My girlfriend was at 5–7 weeks.

After the operation, bleeding started after two days; it was a little bit heavy and gradually decreased, and finally, after 1–2 weeks, everything returned to normal. We had a follow-up visit with the doctor and he confirmed everything is good.

I hope my experience gives you hope; even if you are in Morocco, just look around and ask until you find help.

Another solution that may help you if you have the budget is to go to Tunisia or Turkey, as this operation is legal in those countries.

hello! i’m 22 and i was 8 weeks pregnant when i had a medical abortion on september 23. i had my check up appointment on october 6th and was told that the abortion was successful.

however, on september 25 i noticed that i started lactating. it was really heavy, but started going away after about a week. during my check up, i mentioned the lactation and they said that i was early on the pregnancy to be lactating, but it isn’t uncommon. that it should go away on its own.

fast forward to now (oct 21) and i’m still lactating. i’ve been avoiding stimulation and i only wear sports bras now. i thought i was done with it but it wasn’t until i was engaging in sexual activity with my partner where he told me i wasn’t fully dry. it’s been 4 weeks since the successful abortion so now i’m starting to worry. i looked it up and it says everywhere that 8 weeks is way too early for the lactation to persist. my breasts aren’t sore and i bet the fluid would only come out if squeezed, so it isn’t causing a disturbance in my everyday life.

at this point, should i make an appointment with a gynecologist? like i said, i’m starting to worry since i feel like 4 weeks is a long time. this is my first abortion. thanks in advance!

how do you ladies deal with the questions after abortion? when everyone asks where you’ve been? or if you’ve been gone from work/school, and they ask how are you? what’s wrong? what happened? etc.

how do you find yourselves meeting these questions? i currently have to return to and idk how to answer to inquiring ears. i also still have cramps, still am bleeding, still fatigue - just not myself. when it’s time to ask for accommodation, or to get some sort of accommodation at work - how do you explain your circumstance? i dont feel I’ll be met with kindness, so im just trying to prepare myself.