r/WouldIBeTheAhole • u/Pale-Experience-2409 • 1d ago
WIBTA if I sent my in-laws the booking confirmation after my BIL told them the anniversary trip was from him?
My husband and I wanted to do something for his parents’ 40th anniversary coming up in November. We found a beachfront rental that fits the whole family for a long weekend and my BIL said he’d go in with us, $1,700 each.
A couple days before the deposit was due he texted me that him and his wife bought a house and can’t swing it right now. The listing had already been booked and cancelled on other people and the deadline was that Friday so I just put the full $3,400 on our card. We figured he’d pay us back once things settled down but that conversation never happened.
This past Saturday the whole family went out for the anniversary dinner.
Toward the end BIL tapped his glass and told the table he’d booked mom and dad a beach trip for their anniversary. My FIL actually teared up. MIL went around the table to hug him. The whole table was clapping and congratulating him and I just sat there watching my husband stare at his plate.
On the drive home I asked my husband if he was gonna say anything. He told me his parents are genuinely excited and he doesn’t want to start something over it.
The next day FIL called my husband. I could hear the whole conversation through the phone. He just kept going on about how great it is that BIL came through and my husband sat there saying yeah the whole time.
Since Monday BIL’s been in the family group chat acting like he’s the one coordinating this trip. “I’ll send everyone the details this week” and “let me know your flight times so I can figure out cars.” He hasn’t asked me for a single damn piece of the booking information.
I’ve got the confirmation email right there with my name on the booking and my card charged for the full $3,400 and I can’t decide whether to just let him take credit for something he didn’t pay a cent toward or to forward it to the group chat and let everyone see for themselves. WIBTA?
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u/Cacoonpiece_00 1d ago
I can be really petty. I would get into the group chat as a confused spouse. Pretend as if you’re sending the message to your husband when in fact it’s being done intentionally in the group chat. 😜
“Hey babes, need clarification. Your brother announced he booked a trip for your parents. Before I cancel this reservation that we paid for on my credit card, (screenshot the charge) can you confirm whether he booked a separate trip?
It sounds that this is the same trip he told us he couldn’t contribute to due to his house closing commitment. I want to make sure I’m not holding a booking that’s already been replaced by whatever he told your parents. Lemme know, if this is separate so I can cancel this immediately” ‼️ Then wait for the flood gates to open.