Na, actual feminists support equality from men and don't engage in the gender war nonsense. They pay attention to what they say so they never even hear the response "not all men". "In the US, sexual assault is a huge issue. The majority of the perps are male" vs "It's so gross how men are rapist pigs" -- one is an informed adult response, the other is ignorant prejudice.
The toxic kids on social media that post man or bear stuff or the women joking about men being pigs over cocktails aren't feminists. They're just assholes.
If you're out there stating complaints about men as if they are some giant group, you're just adding to the gender war. Which harms feminism.
There's certainly a big difference between real life feminists and reddit feminists though. It's about living what you believe vs performing for upvotes. Ironically all the subs with "feminist" in their name tend to be toxic as hell and anything but. My assumption is they draw the most extreme types of people, and the mods are often the most polarized of the lot.
edit: Also, feminism is a giant group of beliefs. Some feminists believe trans women aren't women and that women who make porn should be sent to jail. It's a wide spectrum. Western feminism is also mostly about promoting what white straight affluent women want/view as fair, which is another issue often brought up by women of color or lgtbq or poor women.
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u/SnacksSnakesSymbols 6h ago edited 6h ago
Na, actual feminists support equality from men and don't engage in the gender war nonsense. They pay attention to what they say so they never even hear the response "not all men". "In the US, sexual assault is a huge issue. The majority of the perps are male" vs "It's so gross how men are rapist pigs" -- one is an informed adult response, the other is ignorant prejudice.
The toxic kids on social media that post man or bear stuff or the women joking about men being pigs over cocktails aren't feminists. They're just assholes.
If you're out there stating complaints about men as if they are some giant group, you're just adding to the gender war. Which harms feminism.
There's certainly a big difference between real life feminists and reddit feminists though. It's about living what you believe vs performing for upvotes. Ironically all the subs with "feminist" in their name tend to be toxic as hell and anything but. My assumption is they draw the most extreme types of people, and the mods are often the most polarized of the lot.
edit: Also, feminism is a giant group of beliefs. Some feminists believe trans women aren't women and that women who make porn should be sent to jail. It's a wide spectrum. Western feminism is also mostly about promoting what white straight affluent women want/view as fair, which is another issue often brought up by women of color or lgtbq or poor women.