r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/dvlinblue Short Story Long™️ • May 14 '26
BIG WIN 🥳 He’s gone. She’s alive.
Years of misery and suffering ended today with a few key strokes somewhere at a corporate office somewhere on the other side of the world. My deadname no longer exists anywhere. My job finally updated all of my accounts. He... well, he never really existed so I can’t really mourn his loss. But she…, she is me. And I’m finally alive. I apologize if this is not the correct forum. I don’t have anyone I can tell, and honestly if I did, I would be afraid to. I don’t know how to share joy without being afraid I’m hurting others.
Anyway, dinner; a pint of chunky monkey and the happiest tears I’ve ever cried.
EDIT: I wish I could reply to everyon. I have never in my life felt so much love and support. I want to thank all of you wonderful ladies for giving this girl the emotional support she so desperately needed. I hope you all have beautiful days and weeks ahead of you. 🙏🙏
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u/ButterBaconBallz Body By Cheese 🧀 May 14 '26
I was about to give you sad internet hugs. Now I want to give you a happy internet hug! Congrats!
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u/L82The_Party 🩵Domestic Dude💙 May 14 '26
LETS FREAKING GOOOOOO! So happy for you. Also…damn I haven’t had Chunky Monkey since I was a kid.
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u/dvlinblue Short Story Long™️ May 14 '26
I’m totally laughing out loud and crying reading this. Thank you 🙏
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u/SenorChoncho 🩵🙋♂️💙 May 14 '26
My brother.. go get some Chunky Monkey. It's still amazing.
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u/L82The_Party 🩵Domestic Dude💙 May 14 '26
Next time I’m at the store and see it, it’s totally happening.
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u/Silly-Assistant5711 double chipmunk cheeked up May 15 '26
Whenever I see it or have it(not often) I can't help but say, "I'm a chunky monkey...."
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u/mensfrightsactivists 🐩 Food Aggressive 🍽️ May 14 '26
HUGE CONGRATULATIONS GIRLIE!!! I'm so proud of the work you had to do to get here, name changes are no small feat!
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u/Nikita_VonDeen Snack Goblin May 14 '26
Awwww. That's so amazing 👏
I had a lot of guilt about being done with "him" myself. He was the person I had to be so I can be the woman I am now. He kept me safe from a world that she wasn't ready for. I love him for that. His job is done now though. He gets to rest while she gets to have a turn. Some day I will be done with the legalities and he will be done for good. Then I will bury that name I was born with with care and grace because it, for a time, served me well.
With love 🏳️⚧️⚧️❤️
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u/SlowbroHomoMomo 🩵Support Class💙 May 14 '26
This is so beautiful! Forever elated to see my sisters living their lives so openly! ❤️
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u/AdKindly18 nom nom, nod nod May 14 '26
This is such a beautiful way to look at it. Damn. Actual tears.
Love him for keeping you safe and love that you finally get to live free.
The day he’s gone for good and you’re bidding farewell give him an extra thank you from an internet stranger for helping a woman get to live the life she deserves.
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u/astrovangalore double chipmunk cheeked up May 14 '26
Ugh, this is so beautifully phrased.
Congrats, OP!
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u/fabgaybabadook chismosa, metiche, en bata May 14 '26
That is a beautiful approach to life. Wow. And such a loving way to treat yourself, and all your selves. Thank you for sharing. 🥹🥹🥹
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u/Buxom_StrwbryBlnde Cleavage Crumb Collector May 14 '26
Welcome to the team, girl!
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u/dontbecondensation hot girls have tummy troubles May 14 '26
This is ABSOLUTELY the correct forum💕 I'm celebrating with you!!! Congrats🥰
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u/Neverm0reo_2400 girls just wanna have pho May 14 '26
I'm so happy for you!!!! Congratulations!!!✨💖🫶
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u/rudebbmoth Oversharer 🗣 May 14 '26
My best friend is going through this process right now. I think I'm going to have a girl cry party with her with ice cream and 27 dresses. Congrats girly pop!!!! Thank you for being brave! 😘😘😘😘😘
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u/Neener216 Internet Auntie May 14 '26
Welcome to the party, sis!!! Um, we need a few more spoons though :)
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u/dvlinblue Short Story Long™️ May 14 '26
They are in the drawer, more ice cream in the freezer, pull up a cushion 😊
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u/Ill-Percentage-3276 we listen and we only judge a little May 14 '26
I am so so SO happy for you, and giving you the biggest hug in spirit.
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u/Mystic_Wunder nom nom, nod nod May 14 '26
Congratulations! And an excellent choice for celebratory calories!
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u/Appropriate-Fun-922 Cleavage Crumb Collector May 14 '26
Congratulations! I have a trans daughter and she is the joy of my life, I would go to war for her. Praying for supportive and loving people around you in your life always! Sending you a big mama bear hug.
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u/Sandwidge_Broom Body By Cheese 🧀 May 14 '26
Congrats! That’s huge! Enjoy your celebration ice cream
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u/NoDig3593 Resident Yapper May 14 '26
YESSSSSSSS QUEEN!!!! So happy for you!!!!
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u/dvlinblue Short Story Long™️ May 14 '26
OMG, I love this 🩷🩷🩷 thank you so much 🙏
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u/MossGobbo Snack Goblin May 14 '26
Hey queen, congrats! I still haven't attempted my own name change because my birth state is well.. awful about trans people existing so getting an amended birth cert would be a nightmare. But enough about me, hell yes! You having a good thing happen doesn't hurt me. So proud of you!
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u/dvlinblue Short Story Long™️ May 14 '26
If you ever need mental / emotional support I got you girl. It sucks asking permission to exist, but we aren’t going away 🏳️⚧️🩷
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u/AffectionateJello452 Lover of Soups May 14 '26
Yas queennnn this is the right forum. Also that is my favorite ice cream.
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u/mycookiepants Body By Cheese 🧀 May 14 '26
HELL FREAKING YEAH!!!!
We see you and we love you, OP. We're so thankful you're in the world. <3
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u/chav3lafm Oversharer 🗣 May 14 '26
I was sad seeing the title but was pleasantly surprised lol. Congrats!!
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u/OneEyedFanny Body By Cheese 🧀 May 18 '26
Okay. I can't say I agree with your choices, but I support you. I mean... chunky monkey? Yeah, I'm going to need topped mint on lowest bid. Blue Bell mint chocolate or higher if you're looking to make a real deal.
JK, CONGRATS!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ you are 100% in the right place
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u/TravelingBop Foraging Bog Witch May 20 '26
Fun fact: no one here knows "him". But now we know HER... and that is YOU! ❤️
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u/winterssoul APPROVED✨ May 14 '26
As a mom to a mtf girly, congrats!!!🩷🩷🩷 So happy you get to blossom into your true self!
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u/Electronic_Loan_8802 ⚧️ Intersnax 🍓 May 14 '26
Such a happy day.
I had my name updated with the company last year, so I know the feeling quite well. Enjoy the well deserved dinner :,)
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u/Thecandymaker Cornbread Fed May 14 '26
Congrats boo!! ❤️ ❤️ Also Ben and Jerry's FTW! Recently tried their raspberry cheesecake, sent me into pure bliss
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u/sweetness_incarnate we listen and we only judge a little May 14 '26
When I read the title I thought we were in for a crazy story about OP's boyfriend's assumed-dead long lost wife coming back, but then I saw all the cheer awards and got so confused lol.
This is a much happier story than I expected!
Wishing you all the joy and pride in your new name, OP, and a world full of peace and love for you 💛
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u/Fabulous_Hat993 Chismosa May 14 '26
Congrats! I'm so happy for you! Being your authentic self is hard but worth it!
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u/Odd_Aspect_4636 hot girls have tummy troubles May 14 '26
Was so intrigued by the Headline, I was thinking murder mystery.. then very shortly realized and.. TEARS!! So happy for you, OP 👏💖👏
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u/RubyTx Chocoholic May 14 '26
Welcome and congratulations, baby (or not so baby) girl.
Love and light for all your days.
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u/annikatidd Chaotic But Cute May 14 '26
HELL YES HOTTIE im so happy for you! Shoutout to him for getting you through life long enough to reach the place she needed to be today so we could get another strong, amazing, gorgeous bad bitch in this world! Sending you so much love and all the virtual hugs, queen ❤️ congratulations 🍾
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u/Scared_Hair_8884 🍍+ 🍕 May 14 '26
Hey lady, so nice to meet you.. also chunky monkey? Solid choice.
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u/This-Application-562 Delulu May 14 '26
If anyone ever is tells you they're "hurt" by you being happy in your body, they are lying and don't deserve you and you deserve better.
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u/SpiritualPermie Feral Til Fed May 14 '26
Wow. I have never met anyone in this situation and your post made me feel so much happiness and relief for you. I wish everyone in your situation can get this sort of happy outcome.
Congratulations on finding yourself and have a wonderful life.
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u/Ok-Bake7718 APPROVED✨ May 15 '26
You a girl so it works for me 🤷♀️ 💓💓💓 that she is her she is me makes me think of the song I am her by shea diamond .
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u/jenilyntx1 we listen and we only judge a little May 15 '26
BIG mom hug from me! You get out there and celebrate when you are ready!!!
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u/thisisntthemeg The Snack That Sasses Back May 15 '26
Every time someone steps up and says who they truly are, the world becomes a better place.
Internet hugs!
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u/mmalinka06 Overthinker 💭 May 15 '26
This title was so misleading I thought someone unalived themselves in a failed double s**cide attempt and the other person lived
Glad it’s not that lol and happy for you! Sending positive vibes with the intention your coworkers respect your transition 🙏
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u/MonkeyNacho Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ May 15 '26
You know where you can come when you want to speak your mind. You're in good company, chica!
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u/turtletechy Sushi Superfan 🍣 May 15 '26
This is incredible, I'm so happy for you. I remember the big headache of getting things changed at work, it was so worth it though.
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u/ithinknothingisreal Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 15 '26
Yay OP!! Alexa play Bright Eyes - First Day of My Life. 🥰
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u/ExperienceNo9044 Non-binary & Nourished May 16 '26
Ugh girl I'm fucking crying. Shit like this is what life's about. Being yourself, love, sharing the love. It's so powerful. I'm so fucking happy for you. 🫶🫶
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u/secretarriettea what that mouth do is gossip May 17 '26 edited May 17 '26
Is this not girl dinner diaries?!?! You are a girl having a girl dinner of ice cream THRIVING and we are here for it!!!
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u/jexx30 APPROVED✨ May 19 '26
I have a trans daughter who is less than a year into living her authentic life, and let me tell you, as a mother, it is so relieving to see the natural happiness that my child is experiencing makes me wanna cry. My daughter is an adult, so we've had years of confronting depression and anxiety and self-hatred that made no sense. Now it makes sense! Now we can make it better!
Congratulations, internet daughter, on your true name being recognized. Congratulations on your joy, on your ice cream, and on the acceptance you have found here in this subreddit. May you walk every day in authenticity and comfort.
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u/curvymotherforker FREE MOM HUGS May 14 '26
As the mama of a trans daughter, I am so fucking proud of you! You are loved 💗
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u/Plantrehab May 14 '26
I knew it was gonna be a banger based on the title but I absolutely love this track. Enjoy every bite of that pint and congrats
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u/smeagol_meagol 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ May 14 '26
Ok this is wonderful news and im so happy you shared! It really made me feel so happy for you. Congratulations!!!!
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u/Fragrant-Poo42 💚 Pickle Freak 💚 May 14 '26
Ice cream for dinner? If that isn’t the most girl shit ever. You’re in the right place babe and now you have to share your ice cream with us! It’s a rule. Congratulations 💛
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u/elli_welli_deli puff puff pass the snacks May 14 '26
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU! i look forward to the day when everyone calls me elli and i completely forget my dead name 🥺
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u/dvlinblue Short Story Long™️ May 14 '26
Don’t worry Elli, your day is coming. It was very scary to come out, whether that was rational or irrational I will never know. You got this girl, wait, correction, WE got this. 😊 have a beautiful day Elli.
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u/PossessionNo3723 Foraging Bog Witch May 14 '26
CONGRATULATIONS, CHICA!!
I don't have ice cream to celebrate with, but I'm throwing popcorn like confetti for you!!
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u/topochicoandchill Cleavage Crumb Collector May 14 '26
YES!!! A rare celebratory post on here, so happy for you! And chunky monkey is the best!
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u/Expensive-Victory203 Assigned Hungry At Birth May 14 '26
Mazel tov, honey. May you live your life to the fullest!
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u/-crepuscular- 🐛The Very Hungry Bookworm 📚 May 14 '26
From the title I was ready for this to be heartbreaking, but this is great! Congratulations on the big step forward. One of many, I hope.
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u/TardisUnderground Feral Til Fed May 14 '26
That’s so exciting!!!!! I’m sure that has to be an amazing feeling. So proud of you !!
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u/Mechromancer3X hot girls have tummy troubles May 14 '26
Awwww I’m so glad!!!! Congratulations<3
I’m hoping to change my legal name and gender marker this year!!
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u/CockroachSad4463 Body By Cheese 🧀 May 14 '26
Congrats. I just finished my own container of chunky monkey about a half hour ago lmao
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u/winter_strawberries 🦇 Gossipy Goth ⚰️ May 14 '26 edited May 14 '26
it feels good making the computer submit to you, doesn't it?
tomorrow i will get some ice cream on the way back home from electrolysis in your honor. after my weekly big bowl of pho, of course.
thank you. nom nom.
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u/Soggy_Replacement978 👋 new here May 14 '26
Hell yeah girl. I’m so proud of you!!!🩷🫶🏽🥰and if nothing else we will celebrate with you. Sparking one for you rn pookie🩷
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u/imstillhealing hot girls have tummy troubles May 14 '26
I knew what you meant right away. Congratulations! You made it 🥹
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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 May 14 '26
Girl! You took "throw him in the trash" too literally
Welcome to the team😂🤌🏾
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u/idwtbfh chismosa, metiche, en bata May 14 '26
CONGRATULATIONS!!! May every new day be better than the last :)
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u/chickenladydee 🧂Salty By Nature May 14 '26
Congratulations & happy tears for you. Enjoy your icecream. 🎉🩷🌷
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u/PieceImpossible3441 Overthinker 💭 May 14 '26
Congratulations girlie!! You're doing great! It's so tough to transition socially, but you've done it!
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u/bocchibunn girls just wanna have pho May 14 '26
Girl yes! 🫂🫂🫂 For the ice cream, such a classic flavor! I recommend the peanut butter half baked! Its my new favorite 😍
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u/carpetwalls4 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ May 14 '26
Your joy brings me joy! I hope you become more and more unapologetically yourself with each passing day. Congrats on making it government official!
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u/Formal_Ground6513 Carb-Based Life Form May 14 '26
Yasss gurl!! Treat yourself like a queen and make life exactly what you dream of! 🎉🫶
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u/Economy_Biscotti_813 Feral Til Fed May 14 '26
CONGRATS!!!!!!!!🥰
Also, I thought this was how I was finding out chunky monkey was gone. 🥹🙃
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u/FelinusFanaticus APPROVED✨ May 14 '26
Congratulations! Eat a bite for me in honor of what is hopefully the rest of your happiest life!
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u/StandardMonth2184 APPROVED✨ May 14 '26
Congratulations! So, so happy for you, girl! Your joy is welcome here and it'll be reflected and amplified back at you.
Whatever your living name is, it's beautiful and I hope you feel whole and seen and loved.
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u/xzkandykane APPROVED✨ May 14 '26
Okay legit question.. how do people eat ice cream for dinner? Do you feel full? Ice cream is always a dessert for me. Dinner + a pint of ice cream? Yes Ice cream instead of dinner? Mentally feels like I didnt eat..
Anyhow... congrats!
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u/Nurseytypechick Feral Til Fed May 14 '26
Atta girl. May the you that you were always meant to be shine and thrive. May the memory of who you had to be only give you comfort of how strong you were, rather than grief and dysphoria. <3
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u/JadeLeveret Snack Goblin May 14 '26
CONGRATULATIONS!
Long live the new and beautiful you!