Ghosted again. Again.

[u/the-gingerninja]

I don’t really feel like writing too much but I’ve been ghosted or stood up for three different dates in a row. All different women, I’m not a masochist, but it’s getting really disheartening. I also saw my ex wife out with the guy she started dating right after I left her, and a little while later saw my ex girlfriend out with her new guy. It just feels like rubbing salt into a wound.

Connection is super important to me and I’m getting real sick of being single, Tonight though, I chose to treat myself to something and not let myself feel too sad. Date myself tonight. Probably pick up some craft beer a little later.

Dinner is a pineapple and locally raised/ butchered bacon drizzled in a local hot honey.

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[u/That-Juggernaut-6709]

Bro I’m sorry to hear. It doesn’t seem like anything you did, just the way life goes. I’m 26M, lmk if you need a friend or just want to chat about things. I wish you the best my guy

[u/InsignificantVerdict]

Are you not over anyone?

Ex wife and ex gf getting to you?

[u/shitwhereieatoner → u/InsignificantVerdict]

I mean, being lonely and seeing your exes with their men can be disheartening whether or not you’re over them.

[u/Flat_Okra6078 → u/InsignificantVerdict]

Bingo.

[u/contrary-by-nature → u/Flat_Okra6078]

life queueing this man up the same life lesson over and over and he just makes a pizza and a reddit post

[u/RaistlinMajeresRobes → u/contrary-by-nature]

or he just had a string of bad luck with a couple dates lmao what life lesson should he be learning?

[u/Flat_Okra6078 → u/contrary-by-nature]

Accountability is a motherfucker

[u/the-gingerninja → u/Flat_Okra6078]

Accountability? For who? I left my wife because she was cheating. The ex girlfriend and I just didn’t work out.

[u/dylansstp → u/the-gingerninja]

Massive reaches to make this conclusion of you not being over your exes. That's not why people don't show up on first dates. But pretty weird that the 3rd time in a row they pulled this on you

[u/contrary-by-nature → u/the-gingerninja]

for you brother, you're carrying around the ghosts of every woman who mistreated you and wondering why first dates don't want to book a séance

[u/adorable-lab16 → u/contrary-by-nature]

Starting to not get why anyone even posts in this sub anymore. The female version of this sub is the polar opposite, supportive af, pretty much no matter what. Rather here these sub is fludded with guys like you (and women, not sure why they’re even allowed to comment) that assume and pretty much instantly assume they’re in the wrong or nitpick and try to find what’s wrong with them. It’s funny bc people that do that (like yourself) are so obviously trying to make themselves feel better about themself. Pretty sad tbh.

[u/RaistlinMajeresRobes → u/adorable-lab16]

I think it's because the other one is more strictly moderated. But I do completely agree any post you open on this sub could be the most tragic story you've read and then there is some dipshit in the comments nitpicking the most pointless thing.

Not to mention all the guys bringing their own baggage to every comment like the ones above you lol.

[u/adorable-lab16 → u/RaistlinMajeresRobes]

Genuinely posts can be like “my wife has been cheating on me with my best friend” and the comments are like “but do you listen to her?? her needs obviously weren’t being met and obviously you’ve been neglecting her!”

And you hit the nail on the head. I’ve posted in here a few times looking for advice and I’ve done very well ignoring pretty much everything that was thrown at me. So many assumptions and very obviously commenting based on their own baggage and trauma. Pretty shitty sub honestly.

[u/sibre2001 → u/contrary-by-nature]

Poetry in BoyDinnerDiaries

[u/Luck_n_Loaded]

Take your time. It's not a competition.

[u/unknownentity1782]

I'm sorry you're getting ghosted. It hurts, a lot.

Hopefully you know why though? A lot of women have found trying to be nice and tell a guy they aren't interested leads to harassment, death threats, or potential stalkers. Not that you are, but many women have faced those threats and after 1 date, they don't know what you'll do and might not want to take the chance.

[u/QuixosWasRight → u/unknownentity1782]

This reasoning is such ass because its the same shit dudes say to hand wave away being emotional little control freaks after some nutter put them through the mental ringer. "Oh I've been hurt before".

Cool I'm not that person don't project them onto me, work your shit out and make yourself able to trust others again before asking strangers to trust you.

[u/Aromatic-Deer-3154]

feeling like that 0 dollar man? fuck these people. Comparing yourself to how others are doing just makes it worse and invalidates your experiences and state of mind.

Focus on yourself dude, you'll find someone eventually.

[u/Feline3415]

I was quite upset after getting by three guys. It really stings when you think things are going good.

[u/the-gingerninja → u/Feline3415]

Exactly.

Therapy and time are doing wonders, but it isn’t instant.

[u/Savings-Trouble-5345]

You need more hobbies, and to cultivate yourself as a person.

[u/KornwalI]

Seems like you were not over the ex wife when you had the ex gf, and aren’t over either of them now? I’d work more on figuring that out before even trying to date bro.

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[u/cusjajsempavel]

It‘s rough but you got it, dinner sounds delicious

[u/flopflapper]

That sounds rough, sorry for your troubles.

I’d ghost you if you tried to give me that pizza, though.

[u/Normal-Error1638]

bro is talking about some raised butchered bacon, my brother, you need to butcher your need to feel immediately better about other people having more fun than you in life. and yes, everyone is connected and loves everyone, its only YOU who is doomed to forever feel inadequate about social connection and observe everyone from a distance look much happier than you do at a momentary basis. just keep seeing them all walking around all happy and shit! connection is super important only to you, everyone else gets it for free super easily, they just strut along the place and bam! its just right there in front of them, they never even had to think about it

[u/96_fumbles2win]

Become handsome, rich, friendly and taller if necessary.

Or less picky.