Hi there, my 56 year old father started dating someone who is 34. I am about to turn 31 in like three days. He wanted me to meet her on my birthday when he comes to visit, and told me like two days ago.

I have never known my dad to be with anyone other than my mom, let alone someone my age. I am still processing this. How weird is this? I know they’re both consenting adults, but wtf?

I think that most of us have a moment or two that we think of as marking the end of our boyhood and the start of our manhood.

Mine is surviving a shooting when I was 21, I felt like that marked the end of my childish concerns and the start of real-life adult responsibilities.

Most men I’ve asked also mark a difficult or traumatic event as their big moment of transition, but I’m especially interested in hearing about wholesome or happy moments that marked the start of manhood.

I'll try to be concise.

I'm a man and i've lived in solitude up until i was thirty-two. I didn't have any plans for the future then, and knew my life would eventually end from my own hands, it was a matter of when. My mother is still alive, so that will stop me from doing it, of course.

At thirty-two i met a woman, and we got married. She was different, like myself - or so i thought -, we had similar morals, similar views, values. We dated, we got married.

She got tired of me, changed her mind and wanted an adventurous life. She invented i was a really bad person and did many bad things to her, and just said we needed to divorce.

For four years i had done many plans, and did many things too. I knew where we would live eventually, places we would visit, where to hike, everything.

Now she doesn't want it anymore, so all those plans are gone, and i'm back to exactly where i was before, but now being thirty-six.

It's one thing to not think much of the future and have no plans when you've lived like that your whole life, it's a bit different when you lived for four years foreseeing a beautiful future, with great plans.

Some might think 'you'll find another woman', but for thirty-two i had never found one. Not because i'm better than anyone, but just because i'm not fit for what the world is, i had just accepted it. Somehow, though, now my brain does not have the capacity to simply accept that, maybe it was the taste of happiness that i had for those few years.

I would like some advice, please.

Thank you.

Current or past partner

Does Gymming help? Are there any other positive ways that have helped you?

Older sister to a cool little bro here. We were tight as kids, but boy is he hard to get a hold of now that he's 25 and living with his girlfriend.

Men, do you stay close with your siblings? Do you wish you were closer? What kind of role do your siblings play in your life as an adult?

When people get off their socials and stay away obviously replace it with something. Im just curious what you used to replace it with. Wether it be books, tv, walking, outdoors, hobbies etc. It seems like a very large chunk of your day you have to fill and the habit of opening your phone must be rough also.

So for context my gf and I are both 30 year olds and I think our sex life is good. So whenever we have sex we do foreplay and I always want to get her off by going down on her before I have mine but she pushes me away and wants me to put it in. Now lasting awhile isn’t the problem it’s when she’s about to finish and she starts saying “I’m about to cum” or says “harder” that’s when I lose it and bust myself. What can I do to stop myself from finishing before she does when I hear these words?

I used to think being a good person meant always being there for everyone.

Then I realized some people only remember you when they need something.

Now I still try to be a good person, but I’ve learned that not everyone deserves the same access to me.

What’s a lesson life taught you that you’ll never forget? 💭

Spotify wrapped is coming out soon. I'm curious about how different people really feel about music.

I have a friend who listens to daylists. He's saved about 8 of them and they are all +50 songs that are the almost the opposite of his usual tastes (folk and acoustic).

The daylists are more German house music and UK trip-hop. i think that's cool because he loves music so much that everything is on the table for him to try.

Do you love specific genres and musicians so you don't try anything new as often?

Do you listen to anything more than once?

When someone recommends a song to you, do you listen to it because you trust their suggestion?

I'm a man in his late twenties struggling with confidence and self criticism. The women around me seem to be really good at loving themselves. I wonder if it is a biological thing or do they hold some secrets about self love. How do I learn to look at myself in the mirror and begin loving myself?

I'm 61F so I've seen a lot of stuff in my life. Here's the gist:

Numerous women walking straight out without even glancing at the sink.

Unhinged psychos screaming at their kids "Don't touch anything!!" Way to turn your child into a neurotic OCD germophobe (I have actual OCD, although not germ-related)

Crouching on or hovering over the toilet because OMG germs! Then leaving their pee/poop/blood and/or footprints all over the seat and floor for the next person.

Actually sitting on the toilet. Then leaving their pee/poop/blood all over the seat and floor for the next person.

Covering the OMG germy toilet with lashings of toilet paper or paper covers (which is fine, whatever floats your boat). Then leaving it all there, and all over the floor, for the next person.

Refusing to flush the toilet because OMG germy! Thus leaving it all there for the next person.

Throwing paper towels or anything else into the bin is apparently optional.

Believe it or not, I've sat on thousands of public toilet seats during my life and yep, haven't "caught" anything. I just wipe the seat with toilet paper, sit down, and all is fine. What's the big deal?

It's also puzzling that some of the same women who freak out about germs in public toilets are also having unprotected casual sex without batting an eye. What's up with that? I don't get it.

How are things in the boys' room? Enquiring minds want to know.

Also interested to know how long you were friends, your ages, and whether it affected one or more friend groups/other friendships of yours. TIA

This one has always confused me; heard it earlier today and it made me question it again.

My friends used to say it to me after my ex and I broke up years ago. They would always say that I miss how I felt when I was going out with her, and not her as a person. But doesn’t that go with anyone? Like I’ve never found myself missing someone who I felt terrible around.

Idk it just doesn’t make sense to me.

Interested to hear what men think is what makes a first date good in their eyes? What do you want out of it that would make you want to ask for a second?

I (21M) just got out a relationship with a woman who I truly thought I would spend the rest of my life with a month ago. Ever since that day I have cried and can’t stop thinking about her; I just don’t know how to move on since she was my first love and would love to hear how you guys moved on