So, I’ve been manifesting a lot of things into my life for a long time. And I finally figured out that this paradox is actually the realist thing in the world!

So here’s the paradox

Whenever I really wanted something - that’s when it would never come. (When I gave a fuck)

Whenever I didn’t care if I got it or not - that’s when I got it without effort!! (When I didn’t give a fuck)

So, I eventually realized that the feeling of wanting is a feeling of lack and that energy within you actually pushes what you want further away from you.

After all, the material world is just energy reconstructed in our minds. (Much longer conversation)

SO NOW, I only focus on feeling like I already have everything! I give thanks knowing that the only things I will get in this life is not what I think I want, BUT things that are even better than what I would want!

And now after working on shifting my mindset (takes a lot of effort but worth it) I’ve seen so many great things come into my life… but even better than getting of things, life feels so great! It’s great loving the moment you’re in instead of trying to be somewhere else.

If you want a great life, remember this… life gives you who you are NOT what you want. Once you stop wanting things and focus on being instead, is when you actually start getting so many more things! (While actually enjoying the journey!)

That’s the paradox…. Now you know ❤️🙏

This is how it’s done

Society is structured so that it disproportionately benefits the people at the top versus the bottom like billionaires and politicians. Society doesn't care about the homeless, drug addicted, or other groups. It's depressing, but it allows you to not give a fuck about society and doing your own thing.

‎I think one of the hardest lessons in life is realizing that not everything is yours to understand, fix, or carry.

‎We spend so much of our lives searching for explanations. We want closure. We want people to understand us. We want things to make sense before we're willing to let them go. But life doesn't always work that way.

‎Sometimes people leave without an explanation. Sometimes friendships fade without a dramatic ending. Sometimes conversations remain unfinished, and sometimes the only answer you'll ever get is, "I don't know"…

‎We often treat "I don't know" as if it's a weakness, when sometimes it's one of the wisest things we can say. Not knowing everything leaves room for curiosity instead of certainty, for peace instead of obsession. The more we try to know, predict, and control every outcome, the heavier life can become. Some knowledge brings wisdom, but some only brings worry.

‎There's a reason people say, "Curiosity killed the cat." Of course, curiosity is also how we learn and grow, but there is a difference between healthy curiosity and the need to know everything. We don't have to carry every answer, every secret, or every possibility. Sometimes an "I don't know" protects your peace more than an answer ever could. You don't need to understand every reason, uncover every truth, or solve every mystery. Some things reveal themselves in time, and some never do. Learning to be okay with that isn't ignorance, it's freedom.

‎You "live" longer not in years, but in peace, by not needing to know it all. The less you obsess over every unanswered question, every hidden motive, or every possible outcome, the less there is to weigh on your mind.

‎And maybe that's enough. I tend to believe that peace often begins when control ends. There is a quiet freedom in accepting what you cannot change, what you cannot force, and what you simply don't need to carry anymore.

‎One thing that completely changed my perspective was realizing that I don't have to spend my life trying to change how people see me. No amount of explaining will make someone determined to misunderstand you suddenly understand you. No perfect sentence will convince someone who has already decided who you are. And honestly, that's okay.

‎The way people perceive you has very little to do with who you actually are. You're constantly evolving. You're learning, growing, making mistakes, changing your mind, becoming someone new every day, every month, every year. Yet some people will hold onto a version of you that no longer exists. Others will create a version of you based on one conversation, one mistake, one moment, or their own assumptions.

‎Most people judge what they don't fully understand and what they don’t see. You can't spend your life correcting everyone's perception of you. If you do, you'll never have time to become the person you're actually meant to be.

‎Let them think what they think. The people who truly know you won't need constant explanations. You also can't save everyone. You can love people deeply while accepting that their healing isn't your responsibility. You can support someone without carrying their entire life on your shoulders. Caring about people doesn't mean sacrificing your own peace for theirs.

‎Not every problem is yours to solve. Being compassionate doesn't mean absorbing everyone else's emotional weight until there's nothing left of you.

‎Your sanity matters too. It shouldn't always come second to everyone else's problems. Life keeps changing whether we're ready or not. People outgrow places, routines, relationships, dreams, and even older versions of themselves. Fighting every change only makes it hurt longer.

‎Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is loosen your grip. Let people become who they choose to become. Believe actions more than potential. Accept people as they show themselves to be, not as you hope they'll become.

‎There comes a point where you have to let people be exactly who they choose to be. Some people are comfortable living in their own stories, their own beliefs, even their own misery. As difficult as it can be to watch, you cannot force someone out of a place they don't want to leave. You cannot make someone grow before they're ready. You cannot convince someone to become better if they don't see a reason to change.

‎Growth has to be chosen. You can offer kindness, support, and honesty, but you cannot live someone else's life for them. Sometimes loving people also means respecting that their journey is theirs, even when you wish they would choose differently.

‎I think many of us fall in love with imagined versions of people. We create stories about who they could be instead of accepting who they consistently show us they are. We hold onto potential instead of reality. But potential isn't a promise. The same thing happens in reverse. People create versions of you that don't reflect who you truly are. They only know the pieces you've shown them or the pieces they've decided to believe.

‎You can't control either of those things. And you don't have to. Every unnecessary argument, every grudge, every comparison, every attempt to convince someone to see your worth quietly takes something from you. Your energy is limited. Your peace is precious. Protect it.

‎Acceptance isn't the same as approval. Accepting something doesn't mean you agree with it. It doesn't mean it was fair or that it didn't hurt. It simply means you're no longer wasting your life wishing reality were different. Acceptance is what allows you to move forward. I don't think moving on comes before acceptance. I think acceptance is what makes moving on possible.

‎For your own sanity, let things be. That doesn't mean becoming passive. It doesn't mean allowing people to mistreat you. It doesn't mean saying yes to everything life throws at you. It means understanding that not everything belongs in your hands. Some battles aren't yours to fight. Some opinions aren't yours to change. Some endings aren't yours to rewrite. Some people aren't yours to save. Sometimes letting things be is the greatest act of self-respect.

‎It reminds me of something simple. If you truly love a flower, you don't pick it just because you want to keep it. You let it remain where it can continue to grow. You appreciate it without trying to possess it. Maybe life works the same way. Not everything beautiful is meant to be held onto. Some things are simply meant to be appreciated, accepted, and left exactly where they are. And maybe that's what peace really is not controlling everything around you, but finally realizing you don't have to.

‎For your own sanity, let things be. Let people make their choices. Let time reveal what it needs to reveal. Let closed doors stay closed. Let unanswered questions remain unanswered. Not because you don't care, but because your peace is worth protecting. Some things are only painful because we keep trying to force them into being different.

‎Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is simply... let them be.

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It made my life so much less stressful.

I normally would over explain the whole story but I don’t even give enough of a fuck to type it out. But I’ve worked so hard for everything and think so fucking much on how to deal with every interaction in the most appropriate way possible. And I got fucked over on some shit that I put so much effort and time and energy into doing perfectly…in the worst way possible. And I think it just broke me. And i had a full ass break down on main street and then ranted to myself like a fucking lunatic crackhead and as soon as I was about to feel so humiliated for having such a public meltdown….

It clicked. Who gives a fuck if I’m crazy? Maybe instead of trying so hard to prove I’m normal i just fucking don’t. I Don’t want to lose my fucking mind but honestly? If I’m legitimately that unwell then I wouldn’t be aware anyway so fuck it. I have not felt my nervous system regulate in so long no matter how much exercise and actively working on myself and doing all the right things to be a healthy normal human being. I’m defeated and hopeless . I crumbled and I just finally said I give up. I thought that would be the most depressing moment I could ever hit. But I just don’t? And I don’t care. I haven’t had peace in my brain like this ever.

I’m not talking about going out to dinner alone. I mean treat yourself with the respect and effort you would with someone you love.

Joke with yourself, make yourself laugh, have inside jokes, watch your favorite show, give yourself compliments, tell yourself you love you (seriously), groom yourself, cook yourself a nice meal, write yourself a nice letter, etc.

Ultimately, all you have in this world is yourself. If you can’t have a good relationship with yourself then how will you be able to show up the best you can to your friends and family. A lot of what it takes to not give a fuck is being confident, and confidence comes from self love. Give yourself the standard you’d give to someone you love. You deserve it and it’s the most important thing you can do. Everything else that’s good in this life comes much more abundantly once you’ve established a solid foundation of self-love.