r/MadeMeSmile • u/Positive_Actuary_282 • 16d ago

Good Vibes A woman with a beautiful and loving heart

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u/SergenteDan 16d ago edited 13d ago

Just a thought: let's stop viewing anyone who choses a person with a disability as a saint, an angel or something

EDIT: thank you for the award!

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u/Animator_Spaminator 15d ago

It drives me nuts. As someone with disabilities, these are telling me that I’m less than, and only a perfect, self sacrificing angel could ever love me. It’s ridiculous and hurtful

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u/SergenteDan 15d ago

I have a disability too and I feel the same way

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u/Ok-Pomegranate858 15d ago

You know how the world is? Don't take it personal pal

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u/marourane 15d ago

U kinda are less than tho.. hence the word disability

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u/marourane 11d ago

Keep crying buddy no 1 cares

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u/maqij 16d ago

I came here to say this. He is a person just like you. She isn’t doing him a favor, they chose each other. Please don’t ever express things like this to people directly. It really is insulting.

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u/Conscious-Jacket-758 15d ago

She’s way out of his league in terms of looks though

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u/Sure_Departure3273 10d ago

he's a person it's totally true but just like "us" is pushing it way beyond common sense. he does look weird and obviously i know he didn't ask for it but pretending it doesn't make a difference isn't realistic.
i'm glad he got lucky after such a poor start though.

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u/MasterAnnatar 16d ago

Yeah every time I see shit like this it frustrates me. Disabled people are not a charity case to fall in love with and we shouldn't treat it as if they are.

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u/dr__ragamuffin 16d ago

The ones that fall in love don't care and other peoples opinions don't matter. Except for mine, mine totally matters.

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u/EdwardPurpleHandz 16d ago

Agreed, it condescends

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u/EfficiencyOk4899 16d ago

For real. It makes him out to be pitiable and desperate too. Yeah he has a birth defect, it doesn’t make him less than or unworthy of love.

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u/MySpottedFrog7 16d ago

THANK YOU. I'm a teacher who works with children with disabilities and hate hearing all this "he's so lucky have her" stuff

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u/SergenteDan 16d ago

I'm disabled and I heaar stuff like this waaaay too much

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u/MySpottedFrog7 16d ago

I'm so sorry. Those people who say those things aren't worth your time.

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u/GeneralBox9901 16d ago

Yeah, I hate this. It's condescending to both of the people in the relationship. 

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u/Pretty_Gas_8238 16d ago

Had to scroll far too far to find this comment!!

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u/EatYourCheckers 16d ago

Yeah I know a women in a relationship with a guy with burn scars and he has to wear a wig, and she can be a real bitch.

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u/flaffleboo 15d ago

Exactly! People think they’re being kind or compassionate when they phrase things this way and “celebrate” these types of stories, but really they’re just adding more to the message that it’s not normal to fancy or fall in love with a disabled person.

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u/88aisha 16d ago

I agree but the kind of world we live in, a person who looks beyond superficial things is something to appreciate, maybe with better choice of words.

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u/mieri_azure 15d ago

Tbf i thibk its less that shes a saint for loving someone with a disability and more so showing that having a disability does NOT mean no one will love you

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u/Inevitable-Phone-535 15d ago

Just his face his disabled. Bet my boy is hung like a horse

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u/NextBestKev 11d ago

Plus, I’m gonna need to know the age gap before I make judgement. And there WILL be judgement!!!

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u/Primary-Resident-764 15d ago

It's not calling them Saint. It's about appreciating them for choosing character in the world where most of the people choose looks. Yeah it's not shocking but sadly many go for looks not character

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u/Its-mrsgeneral-toyou 16d ago

Why? It absolutely takes a certain kind of person for this.

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u/SergenteDan 16d ago

It communicates that a disabled person is nothing but their disability, while we are just... people. Partners of disabled folks aren't heroes, and disabled people are much more than their disability! And we can love and be loved like anyone. It's like saying there's nothing more in you than, say, the color of your eyes. It doesn't define you, it's just A PART of you. 

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u/Its-mrsgeneral-toyou 5m ago

So autism moms aren’t the superheroes everyone thinks they are?

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u/CommunityTaco 15d ago

Right, my first thought was he must be rich.

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u/EdwardPurpleHandz 16d ago

Many such cases