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[u/Ok_Staff9114]

I doubt the musculature and anatomy is there to support a functional jaw, and I wonder if that would really improve his quality of life vs. just making him look different. That's a lot of surgery and possible lifelong complications for something that would probably just be cosmetic.

I think it'd be different for people who lost their face later in life, with all the pain and trauma that would bring. Since he's spent his whole life this way, he may just be comfortable in his own skin.

[u/_SahTirah_ → u/[deleted]]

It's also why many deaf people for example prefer to not go through implants since they already had adapted to a life with the use of sign language and a social circle that works very well for them. And not every case would have good results depending on the severity of it. Not everyone need a cirurgical "fix", and to be fair many times having basic accessibility already provides the qol that some people needs. There's cases and cases, if the person only suffers from a cosmetics stand point in which a surgery would bring more risk and complications than benefits there's no reason to take the risk if you can live a good life with your friends and family.

[u/Norbeard → u/Ok_Staff9114]

The man is disfigured. Yes its cosmetic but not 'just' cosmetic. All the more power to him if he doesn't desire a change but people are so damn cruel, I would 1000% get it.

[u/poppalopp → u/Norbeard]

For a lot of people with facial differences like these, the possibility of a lifetime of pain and surgeries just ain’t worth it. They’ll never look exactly the same as everyone else.

[u/SchroedingersCatnip → u/poppalopp]

Yes. I saw an interview with various people with facial conditions. Many, or most, of them reported being frequently asked why they didn't opt for plastic surgery.

Some had tried, with varying results, complications, recovery time and pain. In some cases, the issues would literally grow back (in cases of tumors, abnormal bone growth, etc.) And they'd have to start from scratch again, and again. In some cases, cosmetic surgery could risk long-term physical complications, like blindness.

In many cases, it boiled down to: "I like my life. I have friends, a job, family. Why should I spend months and years in surgery, hospital, rehab and risk chronic debilitating pain when I enjoy life as it is?"

[u/Tyr1326 → u/poppalopp]

Exactly. Sure, he could probably get surgery to get something that looks kind of like a jaw. But the pain, the complications, they probably wouldn't be worth it for a jaw that doesn't actually work and still looks weird. Hed get the exact same comments, except now hes got a million dollar medical bill and chronic pain. So why bother? To make other people more comfortable? Not worth it.

[u/Grade_A_Tech → u/poppalopp]

A lot of people seem to not understand how painful surgery can be, not during, but after. Muscles, tendons, and nerves don't like being moved around and, in this man's case, are no longer even built for their original, intended use. At his age, he's honestly better off as he is.

Besides, he has a unique look (I mean that in a good way).

[u/Dramatic_Explosion → u/poppalopp]

Okay but he could look like a cool-ass bond villain or star wars character. Dude could have a wild career in movies. Just do a cosmetic prosthetic

[u/poppalopp → u/Dramatic_Explosion]

What the fuck is this comment.

[u/Far_King_Penguin → u/Norbeard]

Tbh, if I was his dad. Barring unforeseen medical complications, I would have tried to get this fixed before the child could even form the desire to stay

I guess im failing to understand why anyone would hold their baby out of the womb, see theyre missing their entire bottom jaw and not do something serious about it

I have no problem with his face. I find it fascinating, not disgusting and id be interested in seeing the underside and how it all operates, but even my 'positive position on it is still just degrading a human into a fascinating specimen and he deserves better than that

[u/ssasdkf → u/Far_King_Penguin]

You have trouble understanding medical costs? Something like that would not be cheap.

[u/Far_King_Penguin → u/ssasdkf]

In my country something like that is paid for by the government

[u/ssasdkf → u/Far_King_Penguin]

You're very lucky then.

[u/Similar_Pension_4233 → u/Far_King_Penguin]

Let's say your argument is the right one and we want to build upon it. There's nothing there to build from. The jaw, the connections, they grow every day. If providing surgery, how would you put a jawbone that's constantly growing like a real one? Also, it's the year ~1985, and we have to use the technology available then.

[u/lovelychoom → u/Far_King_Penguin]

Unforeseen medical complications like the rest of his face growing but his jaw doesn't so it would look messed up by the time he has a choice anyway?

[u/Familiar_Language200 → u/Norbeard]

It’s also the only life he’s known. He’s t isn’t learning what hate looks like. He was too young to remember that learning curve. It’s literally his life and I would imagine by now the smiles and frowns have little difference in meaning. It’s “the new norm”, perhaps, except it was never new. It was just normal.

But hey… that could mean learning smiles would be the new puberty…. So there’s that!🤔

[u/No_Iron273 → u/Norbeard]

Don't call it cosmetic.. Disrespectful

[u/Prot3 → u/No_Iron273]

The comment he replied ti called it cosmetic. Also, nothing disrespectful with the word cosmetic. Chill out.

[u/Flatman_702 → u/Ok_Staff9114]

This would not a cosmetic repair. In his current state I don’t see how he could chew food, swallow, speak… sure he’s clearly getting nutrients somehow, but not being able to eat meals with loved ones (I get he’s sitting beside them but c’mon), taste beverages… the isolation that probably also comes along with this…. A prosthetic jaw that could aide with these things would be life-changing for much more than cosmetic reasons

[u/pomoerotic → u/Ok_Staff9114]

Or it could just be like a “chin hat” to deflect rude curiosity, or maybe it doesn’t affect him at all 🤷

[u/ProblemGamer18 → u/Ok_Staff9114]

Give the man a big metal attachment he can wear and call him Trapjaw

[u/TrainingTheory552 → u/Ok_Staff9114]

i think stuff like being able to eat and chew solid food isn't cosmetic.

[u/NelsonVGC → u/Ok_Staff9114]

If a random redditor doubts it, is over. No doctor can confirm of deny such thing.

/s