Mod update Comments now only publish after mod review NSFW

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Because of hate speech directed at trans, bi/pan, and curious redditors who post to r/gaybears, we have decided to change our community settings such that all comments will only publish after a mod reviews them.

We reported this harassment many times to reddit admin over the past two years, and they have either 1, told us the user behavior was within reddit's rules, ignoring their own rule #1, or 2, have ignored the reports, not replying at all.

Most recently, a user called a bicurious poster a "stra**ot" and bullied him into deleting his post. This is not acceptable behavior in our community, and this user was banned from r/gaybears and reported to reddit admin, who we expect will do nothing.

This user wasn't the first to bully questioning men on here. It seems every time someone curious posts here, someone gets on a high horse about how straight men don't belong here or accuses them of "invading" the community, as if bi/pan and curious men don't belong to it. This, and the daily transphobic comments and vote manipulation directed at trans men who post here and at the people who like them, and it's become too hard for us to track, especially with reddit admin refusing assistance.

If you're upset with this change, we feel you. It's a lot more work for us, too, and I encourage you to send a message to reddit admin or tag reddit on social media asking when they will take transphobic and biphobic harassment and bullying seriously.

If the trends reverse after this change, we will consider going back to open commenting.

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r/gaybears • u/pig4big • Aug 28 '26

Mod update Transmen are welcome here. That will not change. NSFW

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Repeating this post because some folks here seem to have missed it.

r/gaybears welcomes posts from all male-identified, male-presenting folks, including those AFAB.

We understand not all men who visit our subreddit are interested in posts where they might see a vulva, and that's fine, as long as they follow Rule 1 – no bigotry, including transphobia – and Rule 5 –all posts and comments should be respectful.

If you don't like what you see, but it doesn't break any of the subreddit rule's or Reddit's, just keep scrolling. There's lots more to jerk to here.

If you don't like this or any other policy here, you should unsubscribe from gaybears. You'll be doing yourself and our subreddit a favor. There are many other subreddits out there for you to enjoy, and you can always start your own that caters to your own point of view.

We do not tolerate any harassment against redditors who post here. That includes derogatory comments and any other actions that insult, intimidate, bully or otherwise discourage participation. If you report posts from transmen, we will report you to Reddit admin.

If you receive harassment in comments or PMs/chats, please report it to the mods, and we will deal with any offenders.

Thankfully, these incidents have been few, and 99.9% of redditors on r/gaybears have kept it positive. Keep being kind to one another and enjoying yourselves on our subreddit!

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r/gaybears • u/MerklePox • 9h ago